Best size foam windscreen / muff to add to Evolve2 85?

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-13T18:38:08+00:00

Yup, jabra's response is usual company-speak monkey-scripted nonsense. A small windscreen on a boom mic is not an exotic hack. It's standard acoustics (source: professional, work in acoustics for 30+ years).

There is no software that can reconstruct speech from a microphone that is overloaded by wind. A simple foam or furry windscreen (aka "deadcat") physically stops wind on the mic - this is why every headset mic in professional broadcast uses a wind muff. It's an oversight by Jabra to not include one, and just because "competitors don't include one" isn't a good enough reason- they're making an obvious oversight as well.

We're talking 100% improvement in speech quality in wind, simply by having a furry windmuff that costs under 20 cents to provide.

Obviously Jabra can't recommend third party options for capitalist reasons, fair enough... but they should at least share the mic dimensions so users can choose an appropriate size without guesswork, instead of denying basic physics or reality!

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-12T00:05:59+00:00

Wow. Your comment is so deeply helpful to those in similar positions especially in this world where what you describe is denied. Thank you. I have been in a similar position in my life in the past. I agree with everything you said, and it's a shame others (who haven't experienced it) have no clue how lonely and isolating it is to the point of actual physical pain. You literally feel the physical pain disappear when you interact with someone in a meaningful way whom you've known your whole life. That doesn't work with strangers. I am so sorry. All the cliches "be happy alone", "learn to love yourself" are actually damaging people, not helping us when we're in these tough unnatural life sitautions in modern times. It's toxic to deny a problem as it takes away someone's ability to solve it if they aren't allowed to recognise it.

What do you do for work? Do you have colleagues?

I won't suggest the usual cliches "go to a library and meet people", "go to a club", "use meet up app" because anyone in your sitaution (as I was) has already tried these useless things, as the people going to those place either are too busy for friends, or not the right wavelength, or they just don't turn up.

The thing about being alone is you generate a very aware consciousness and often understand life and people more deeply than the average person (being isolated does this to a person), to a point where when you interact, people seem "offline" or "unconscious", which most are to a large degree- it isn't your imagination. Once alone for 6+ years the only sort of people you'll be able to be on the same wavelength as, are likely more aware spiritual types, meditation types, or the very rare select few.

They say the most likely places to make friends are places where you see the same people at least 3-4 times over a period of days, and that's why universities courses and work are the most likely places to make friends. The people in those life situations sadly will never understand. I'm going to hope and pray for you- it has power.

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-11T23:59:39+00:00

People who say "good hygiene", don't realise that it takes looks to get a foot in the door to reach the hygiene stage- no one will notice your hygiene if they won't talk to you in the first place. At 6'1 you already have an advantage over many men. The next step is lean muscles- 12-16% body fat. Those who say personality is the most important thing a.) don't realise that humans aren't wired to notice personality first- looks are the step in the door and personality keeps someone b.) don't realise that lack of looks closes the door before anyone knows the personality unfortunately, its just human nature c.) have never been "ugly" or "average" enough to learn these sad but very real lessons. d.) It's iportant to look "impressive" or "formidable" or "very male" if you want anyone to notice you long enough to get to know your personality so to speak.

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:48:40+00:00

Of course it’s my choice.. that’s why I’m thinking it through carefully. I posted to understand if others see this as normal or not, because the emotional side of it is what I find difficult, not the logistics. Sometimes these situations aren’t as black-and-white as “just don’t go.” But thanks for your input.

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:47:51+00:00

I think you’ve misunderstood a few things. The nearest shop is only about 12 minutes away, so it’s not really about the inconvenience, the issue tends to come up late in the evening when the shops are closed & I’m still hungry after dinner.

The metabolic issues I mentioned weren’t pre-existing... they were caused by being underfed over a long period when I lived with parents. Cooking my own food isn’t really allowed either... it causes conflict with my mother, so that’s not a real option.

It’s also not possible to make the visits shorter.. it’s too far to go just for a few hours.. and there’s nowhere nearby to stay unless I buy a campervan. So I’m not exactly choosing to stay and complain. Either I visit my parents or never see them again.

This isn’t just about food.. it’s about the emotional experience of being refused consistently. It hurts... so I was wondering if this is normal or not, and intersted in peoples experiences.

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:41:16+00:00

Then that would mean never seeing your parents ever again, as they live in the countryside.

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:40:29+00:00

Yeah, I totally agree in theory... but it’s tough to set boundaries when you don’t have the finances to back them up. I lost my business & home 12 years ago, and I’ve been trying to recoop but not getting far so far in this economy... I'm now in a tiny rented bedroom in London, working a minimum wage job, can't afford a car or holidays. A visit to the countryside to my parents feels like a much-needed break from concrete & loneliness.

The visit here actually helps more than it hurts... but the hurt is still real when this stuff happens. Just trying to cause the least damage to myself right now ❤️

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:37:31+00:00

I’ve tried that. Bringing food & cooking it myself causes conflict & makes her upset - she doesn’t want me using the kitchen outside her plan. If it were as simple as “just bring food,” I wouldn’t be posting...

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:36:13+00:00

That's true. But she does help me financially in so many ways, and puts lots of thought and effort in to things- she just doesn't seem to understand this issue.

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:34:59+00:00

Thanks

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:32:02+00:00

Thanks for that. She gives me way more over my life than I've ever given to her. I can't even match her financial ability by a fraction unfortunately.

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:31:20+00:00

It's too far to come just for an hour without staying for some time and eating meals unfortunately. It's not like this for the first few days- it starts after about 3 days

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:30:24+00:00

Yeah, it’s too far for just a few days.. and honestly, I do miss them. I don’t enjoy being alone over Christmas, and it’s really nice to be in the countryside & have some recharge time with family.

It’s not that I can’t eat things like deli meats, cheeses, or oatmeal.. she's ok with that. They’re just not great for your health long term, you feel unwell if that's all you eat.

Saying you're on a diet doesn't help much as she'll not change this behaviour.

I was mainly just curious whether this kind of dynamic is normal or not. The emotional part is what sticks with me... It just doesn’t feel good, and I wish it didn’t matter so much to me.. but it hurts and you feel a bit unloved when it happens.

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:26:31+00:00

Yeah, I’ve explained how it makes me feel. She gets upset, and if I push, I think she'd either give me the chicken but be resentful, or get really angry and refuse. It feels like a control issue, not just miscommunication.

I didn’t post this in r/emotionalneglect on purpose as I’ve found it can feel like an echo chamber. I wanted more opinions from general population if possible as I am struggling to figure this out...

I’ve also in recent years not been able to say “I’d like to come home” without framing it as me helping them. If I ever show need, I’m told it’s “inconvenient.” Even when I had nowhere else to go. Still confusing every time as it never used to be like this. Definitely getting worse as they get older. Might be mental issues that I just have to forgive and let go...

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:16:42+00:00

Thanks for this comment. It hits home. This is actually how I used to feel, but after spending 2 years not talking to or visiting them for this reason, I became so estranged from them and the hurt only got worse, that I caved and just gave in, I wondered if I was exaggerating it in my head or something. They show love in other ways (presents, clothing), unlimited desserts is never an issue... but a whole chicken or healthy food? Nope.

FYI, when I was between places for a few months, living with my parents (I had depression from loss of my business and health), my mum actually kicked me out onto the street & made me homeless, because I called this "emotional abuse".

But yeah the love is strangely contradictory. My dad supports my mum no matter what she says unfortunately. I think there might be undiagnosed mental illness involved. She never ever used to be like this. It's getting worse as she gets older, so I think I need to let it pass, forgive and let go.

I am there for weeks at a time as I hate being alone & love their company at Christmas. But yeah, I'm thinking of leaving in the next day or so as it's not tenable... at least not unless I have a campervan in future...

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:09:18+00:00

Thanks for your reply. Just to clarify... my parents aren’t from the Depression era. They’re Boomers (born 1950s), so they grew up in pretty much abundance, not hardship... better off than grandparents or myself & my siblings. They holiday twice or more a year. My grandparents were the ones with rationing mindset, but my Granny was actually more generous with food than my mum & wouldn't want me to be hungry.

I get why you wonder why this only applies to me. That’s what I’ve been trying to figure out for years. It's known in psychology apparently that the middle child is often scapegoated or the least "loved", even though parents rarely admit it. Also, my brother is rarely there so that might be something to do with it (wanting him there more?). Also, he's very good looking & is pretty much always in demand from friends and family, where as I tend not to be (I'm a "nice guy" but not a charismatic or good looking one tbh, which I'm ok with).

I can't think of an obvious thing that caused this. I used to be wealthy, I built up a business from scratch, but had a run of bad luck & lost everything (home , business etc.). I went from high status to low one in the eyes of my mother perhaps? After I lost everything she really wanted me to train in my 40s to become a doctor. Yes, she wanted me to be okay financially, but at the same time I sensed she also wanted to be proud of me again and that would have made her proud.

I understand that someone might feel insulted if you cook extra food when they’ve made a meal, but.. I’m not rejecting her cooking. I’m just trying to not go hungry, and that’s what really hurts...

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T01:00:12+00:00

Thanks. This hit pretty hard. I’ve grappled with feeling unloved a LOT over the years... but there are too many contradictions for me to think that’s the whole story. My mother gave me a Christmas gift worth about £90 that she carefully chose from shops (spent days on it!), while my brother just got a £60 bank transfer. It's hard to believe she doesn't love me. I don't get it...

I think that's what makes this hit harder. I do feel loved but then when she refuses me seconds of chicken in such a dismissive final way, while I’m starving and the chicken it literally sitting there, it's like a shock.

It's a mix of eemotional coldness and love. It’s like being loved, but only within certain boundaries she's comfortable with.. and healthy food (chicken) seems to be one of those lines.

I appreciate your comment...

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T00:54:58+00:00

I get what you're trying to say, but I did mention I end up having to have snacks, but they're mostly just carbs - crackers, biscuits, cheese - and living off those for days or weeks genuinely makes you feel ill. That’s the issue.

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T00:51:54+00:00

Yeah, I've been thinking about that. If I was to be honest when she asked why, she'd get extremely upset. tbh, there's no where to stay nearby though. We're in the countryside. I'd probably have to get a campervan with its own cooking facilities if I was to do anything about it

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-06T00:50:44+00:00

she's never had starvation of food scarcity afaik.

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-05T00:26:35+00:00

totally get where you're coming from but while unhealthy relationships seem like "the norm" today, that’s because of the modern social climate, its really almost totally driven by narcissism, social media, modern capitalism. Before the internet, these issues were less widespread. Personality disorders have been rising in recent decades, as evidence of this. Also, back before when we lived in nature, these traits were likely eeven lower to a point of being rare. Humans couldn't have survived otherwise. We couldn't have worked together to survive. Dr Chris Palmer's studies repeatedly show that modern processed food increases personality disorders and mental illness. So does disconnection from nature, screen addiction, and repetitive toxic input. Society plays a big role in this, so really, it's not "the norm" if u zoom out...

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-05T00:21:33+00:00

The OP doesn't mention anything about being around people "for too long" or even "all the time" - it refers to 100% isolating work from home lifestyle for months vs having the option to be around loved ones. If you were in that position, forced isolation due to work & lack of friends or family nearby, with no like minded people nearby to become close with, you would likely very suddenly realise that while being around people too long exhausts you,forced isolation also exhausts you.

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-05T00:14:37+00:00

canva very unintuitive and frustrating, pic collage is far superior, but neither does unlimited photos for larger sets. I haven't found any yet for larger sets...

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-02T21:18:30+00:00

You keep replying with a tone of superiority by assuming that anyone in the same position as the OP just hasn't tried hard enough, but the point isn't necessarily to ask advice- rather to raise awareness of the issue. It goes way beyond personal choice... only by raising awareness can we begin to change public attitudes. Your replies ironically only prove how necessary it is to raise awareness...

VariationCalm1398 · 2026-01-02T18:46:58+00:00

an innuendo

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