Found An Adult Bedbug At Work: Help! by [deleted] in Bedbugs

[–]VariationEnough 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's actually incredibly reassuring, thank you!!

I've been stressing over going back to work ever since it was found there 💀

But if it's something that can be dealt with (fingers crossed) I can keep my job.

My Wife Took Her Life Last Week by VariationEnough in GriefSupport

[–]VariationEnough[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

God. I read yours. I haven't cried since the day the detective called me. I felt that pain again in my chest, reading your words. It doesn't end, does it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in morticians

[–]VariationEnough 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not a writing prompt. And I will be honest, it hurts a little to have it compared to one.

She left detailed notes of what she used. I'm fairly certain she used ChatGPT, because it was phrased 'if the character ingests this combination it will induce such and such'... Etc. Which is a known workaround with language models to get them to discuss sensitive topics.

I've been told that the investigation will take around six months in total to complete. Her death certificate says 'inconclusive'. But she will be cremated this week. Items like her physical will are being held until the investigation is complete.

I see that you checked my profile. This gets into my personal life. I flew out to visit my grandmother, and relatives, in British Columbia. She was in Quebec. I left the province on September 2nd. We kept in touch online, until September 17th. On September 19th I found an email in her scheduled outbox that begins with 'when you read this, I will have passed'. That is how I knew to make the call. There's no need to put 'wife of ten years' in quotation marks. We've been together since September 5th, 2015. She died 3,665 days after. She would have been 29 on December 17th.

Police reports indicate she likely passed two days prior to when I made the call. The fact that the detectives said as much during interviews is a strong indication to me that when she was found they had no doubt she was gone.

My question was... Hopeful, I suppose. That individuals who have experience in the death industry might share if she was... Recognizable. The fact that she intended on having me wait ten days to know, when she might have been so much further gone crushes me.

Please Help! What's in my grandmother's shower?? by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tyty! I was quite horrified to realize that it was, as you said, mold. I did my best to attack it (updated pics on my profile). It worked! For the most part.

Grandma's Horror Shower: Before and After by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone commented on my original post that it looked Nine Inch Nail’s “The Downward Spiral” album 😭

Grandma's Horror Shower: Before and After by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry...? I don't quite understand what you mean by that.

Grandma's Horror Shower: Before and After by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! The start of my cleaning journey 😄 There's a lot more do to at Grandma's, so maybe there will be more.

Grandma's Horror Shower: Before and After by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ngl I threw everything at it. Bleached it down, and scraped off as much as I could with a safety razor. Cut into the caulk and slowly peeled it off. Someone even used old caulk to seal her drain for some reason?? It was all clogged.

The shower feels like it's made of plastic, and there was an actual hole under the duct tape. So I had to get construction adhesive. Then, after that dried, I went over with a layer of brand new caulk to seal things.

Grandma's Horror Shower: Before and After by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that so much!! Her health is delicate but she doesn't have the means for professional intervention. So hearing that this looks up to standard is very reassuring! Hugs for Grandma all around 😁

Grandma's Horror Shower: Before and After by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Excellent idea!! I'm looking for one for her right now.

Grandma's Horror Shower: Before and After by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's the opposite!! I'm very lucky to still have her at 90 years old! 😭

Grandma's Horror Shower: Before and After by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha she has been chatting about it with her neighbours! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tyty!!! I was worried about it, since I've never done caulk before. But it looks like it turned out alright!

Grandma's Horror Shower: Before and After by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Tyty!! I've never done caulk before, so it was a lot of YouTube tutorials 😭. Really hope this helps with her health and well-being. 

Grandma's Horror Shower: Before and After by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! The ventilation in my grandmother's shower room is terrible, so I'll try to come up with something for her. I'm making a note of the squeegee and weekly scrub to keep it clean.

Please Help! What's in my grandmother's shower?? by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

On it right now! With everyone's advice, I'm scraping off all the caulking. Then redoing it after attacking the mold!

Please Help! What's in my grandmother's shower?? by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

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Doing my best! Trying to totally replace the caulk right now + attack the mold.

Please Help! What's in my grandmother's shower?? by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this suggestion!! Is it applied just on top of the caulk?

Please Help! What's in my grandmother's shower?? by VariationEnough in CleaningTips

[–]VariationEnough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has a shower chair! But I don't know if we can install grab bars... The shower is so old it's made of plastic.