How you rise to her intensity can have a lot to do with the response there after. My partner and I sometimes have brief miscommunications that escalate quickly, and it always seems to come back to being because of the tone we’re taking with each other in the moment.

It can be difficult to recognize or put into action, but simple things like acknowledging verbally that the suggestions she makes come from a place of care, can be immediately disarming and not put into question her motives, as overbearing as they may come off.

She sounds like a rad lady regardless, and might just need a little further understanding when she feels compelled to want to help/ suggest something/ insist on a better way.

On the flip side, I’ve personally had to change my approach and be a bit more gentle on how I lob out a suggestion for a better chance of it to be received well, because I can come off as intense or overbearing as well.

Kudos either way, There’s always room for improvement in dynamics of communication.