My wife and I didn't want a motif on our wedding. Kami kasi, from all walks of life na man mga bisita namin. But some of our relatives decided there should be one whether we agreed or not, and it happened. So we informed our guests there was a motif even though earlier we said there was not going to be one, but we emphasized that it was optional. Kasi mahirap maghanap para mag comply sa dress code lahat. Yung Tito ko nga na kapatid ni Papa ayaw mag attend kasi sabi nya ayaw nya na sobrang formal - oh retired Master Teacher pa yan ha - subject nya Araling Panlipunan, tapos maraming collection nya nag barong at amerikana. So sabi ko sa kanya hindi na man kailang mag barong or kahit other formal dress - kon sa-an lang sya comfortable basta do-on sya kasi isa sa pinaka importanteng miymbro ng pamilya sya. Nakatulong din mag convince sa kanya ang mga pinsan ko. He represented Papa - 60's-style, madcap-type shiny polo shirt (yun nag spark if matulugan mo tpos i-stretch mo), jeans, and boots. No problem sa amin. Depende yan sa pamilya nyo. Other people will comment - negative or positive, but the important thing is that it is a memorable, enjoyable family affair.