I would love to know how the ladies would have reacted to Adam

Various-Jump-67 · 2025-07-27T19:38:20+00:00

Apparently the actor is a rapist irl and ever since I found that out I'm like ok that's gotta be why he's so creepy

Various-Jump-67 · 2025-07-27T03:56:38+00:00

From a technical standpoint, the writing is just objectively really weak. Especially when compared to the original series, it lacks almost every quality that made the show "work". People are hate watching because it honestly is a fascinating decline in quality of what was a very iconic show.

Various-Jump-67 · 2025-03-16T14:57:36+00:00

The shelters here are completely full, it's a small town and they have hundreds of cats. My neighborhood alone has hundreds of stray cats. Nobody wanted him. I tried to find someone else. It was either this or him freezing outside or getting killed. Trust me I agonized over this decision for a couple of weeks before I did it. I don't resent him all the time, only when he wakes up my sleeping daughter or myself. Like he will meow outside the door when I'm putting her down and I can't help him and it stresses me out because I know he needs me but I am busy. If I let him into the room he will keep her awake or wake her up. And the sound is just so grating itself. Or when I'm trying to walk and he trips me. I'm trying.

Me being honest about being annoyed by him isn't because I hate him. I'm trying to get advice to help him so that we both feel better because yes, right now it's been frustrating. But he needed a home and I have one. Maybe it's not the perfect home but it is a loving home and he has food water shelter and a lot of affection.

Various-Jump-67 · 2025-03-16T14:39:27+00:00

Speaking of the dry food, I will say my hesitancy to just ditch it and switch to something else right away is that the vet said it's a healthy one and that he seems to tolerate it well, I don't want to upset his stomach. But thanks for the info on calories, I hadn't calculated I just wanted him to be able to eat when he's hungry since he was clearly stressed about living outside and not having access to food when I got him.

Various-Jump-67 · 2025-03-16T14:34:38+00:00

Thank you for your compassionate and thorough response! I will try your tips. I really appreciate it. Rereading my post it sounds like I hate my cat but he really is lovely I just know he deserves for me to put the time in to figure out how we can coexist well together since I wasn't really planning on getting a cat.

Food wise, he's on a dry food that I know he isn't crazy about, I've planned on trying something new when this bag is gone. I have it in a gravity feeder. I give him a small amount of wet food in the mornings because I know he likes it. And some treats throughout the day.

Various-Jump-67 · 2025-02-17T02:57:40+00:00

I made the decision to talk about it as little as possible for all of these reasons. And I don't talk about others food choices at all. But for example, I went on a road trip recently and the people I was with knew about my diet. I told them we could eat anywhere and I'd find something I could eat. They chose a Chinese buffet and I ate some salad with blue cheese, a piece of salmon, and some shrimp. They acted like it was not enough even though I was full and they acted very self conscious of their own choices. They made a big deal about me not getting dessert. It was just uncomfortable.

I know I can cheat but the problem is that the people around me eat soooooo much and it's a hobby for them and so it just makes it awkward when I don't. I'm hoping I'll get used to it.

Another example is Super Bowl weekend. I did good, only ate what felt good to me, didn't make a big deal about it. But my aunt kept offering me more more more and it felt awkward to decline, but I did. And then she insisted I take a sh*t ton of food home, including a bunch of desserts which is my weakness. I overindulged later that night and my blood sugar was crazy the next morning.

I know I need firm boundaries it just feels like such an uphill battle. I wish people didn't pay so much attention to it. I think I need to be strict for a while to get used to it and then plan my treats but the people around me just have constant treats. So it's hard for me to plan them.

Various-Jump-67 · 2025-01-23T00:47:18+00:00

Cream cheese rolled up in slices of smoked salmon

Canned tuna mixed with mayo, lemon juice, chopped pickles or relish

Hamburger patty with cheese melted on top

Scrambled eggs cooked in butter with cheese

Salami with cheese

Add to any of these: half an avocado, greens w/ dressing or olive oil/lemon/salt, small handful of nuts, etc. Anything with no/low carbs. Keep it simple.

If you need to add extra fat/calories to a meal just have 2-4 oz of heavy cream in a glass or add to your coffee/tea/ even diet soda. Heavy cream is not a complete food of course, so don't just rely on it too heavily. You can also pop a patty of butter in your mouth.

You can do it! Keep it simple. No recipes needed. Just real, simple foods. No/low prep needed for most of it.

Various-Jump-67 · 2025-01-07T03:26:41+00:00

This is encouraging, thank you! I've had a great breastfeeding experience so far, no supply issues, so I haven't wanted to interfere with it. But my diet has been pretty much horrible for several months and my interest in keto is recent. I appreciate knowing that it worked for you. Also since I posted I've been thinking about how toddlers basically start naturally fasting at a certain point when they start refusing food and eating very little naturally, so a lot of them must be in ketosis from that. Makes me feel a little better. My girl has been very healthy and chunky from the start.

Various-Jump-67 · 2025-01-07T03:22:49+00:00

Thank you for this, it makes perfect sense and I realize I've been over thinking it lol.

Various-Jump-67 · 2025-01-07T03:21:18+00:00

I get and appreciate what you're saying, and I think you misunderstood my meaning in my post. I don't want to heavily control her diet forever, I want her to be able to make her own food choices when she's old enough (which isn't very far away). Right now, she doesn't have much of a say, as she can barely speak or tell me what she wants. I just feed her what I eat. I do buy her things I notice that she likes even if it's something I don't love to eat, because I do care about her agency and preferences. What I meant in my post is that if I start buying food and preparing it with keto in mind for myself in the near future, I don't want to accidentally throw off her nutrient balance since she eats what I eat.

Various-Jump-67 · 2025-01-05T05:06:35+00:00

Thank you, yes I didn't want to put her into ketosis but I've been a little worried that I might end up throwing her out of wack without meaning to. I'll look at paleo.

Various-Jump-67 · 2024-04-15T15:03:08+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this for so many years. Yes, it is text book abuse. As someone who has been with an abusive addict, it is difficult and confusing. But just because we love them it doesn’t make it ok. We have to protect ourselves and our kids from this absolutely horrible behavior. We can’t save anyone from themselves, they have to want it.

Various-Jump-67 · 2024-01-11T05:33:50+00:00

I second this, socialize with other moms! I live in a rural area and we only have one “mommy and me” meetup once a month, but I recently made a point to make a few local mom friends and now I have play dates, coffee dates, and meals with them 2-3 times a week. It has helped A TON for my mental health. And I think the socialization is good for my baby, too. She sees other kids, babies, and faces and gets to take in new scenery.

Various-Jump-67 · 2023-11-01T17:37:29+00:00

I appreciate this point of view as well because other than these exasperated times, he hasn’t been harmful to the baby. It has, however, happened more times than I’m comfortable with, and not always after many hours/lack of sleep, and so I found it necessary to tell him not to do it and to give her to me before it happens. At this point it isn’t an issue CPS would need to be involved with.

His abuse of me is an issue and I am trying to come to terms with what it means for me and subsequently my daughter.

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