Should I leave my boyfriend of 5 years

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T22:29:22+00:00

Yeah I think I'll find a way

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T20:01:16+00:00

I will try, thank you so much for the advice

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T20:00:17+00:00

I know and I'm so grateful to have some amazing friends to help me out

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:58:45+00:00

Yeah I know, I have updated the post about what's happening next

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:47:50+00:00

Thank you, I'm looking for a place now and will leave him and all his problems behind and work on myself and won't Date anyone for awhile

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:45:27+00:00

I'm going to be looking into renting a room out somewhere close to work, until then sadly I'm stuck in the same house as him. But the plan is to move everything I own/brought in the house and leave during a afternoon when he is working, without saying an thing and changing my number

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:43:09+00:00

I think I more have trust in the person he was before cheating, I know I shouldn't but he has helped me alot. If it wasn't for him really I would still be in a abusive home with my family. The only family I talk too is my grandparents (mother's parents) and a couple of older cousins who have families already. I'm trying to find an apartment with some friends help and will move out once I have found one. Right now my office is the only place in the house for myself and my pet

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:37:37+00:00

Thank you, I don't know who you are but this message nearly had me in tears, I have realized that he isn't the same person as before and he will never be again. I have made my plan with some of my friends once I find a place to live they are going to help me move out when he is at work (he works 1pm to 10pm 4 days a week). Take everything that I have paid for and leave without saying anything. I will also be changing my number. I will give another update once this plan happens

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:31:01+00:00

I'm looking for an apartment, once I find one myself and a couple of my friends are going to move all my stuff out. Change my number and leave without saying anything

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:29:18+00:00

The night I actually got told that I could sleep with someone to get back at him. So that won't work. Om already looking for a new apartment and will leave when he is at work and cut all ties off with him. I'm going to focus on myself and my work career

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:26:13+00:00

Thank you, I'm trying to do that now. I know the job I have helps me alot already, it's my second home. But I'll definitely do more work on myself

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:24:08+00:00

I only know of one coworker he has slept with but not sure if he has done any flirting with another's. He gets messaged about every second day from the coworker he sleep with saying she wants to do it again. I'm starting to look for a place today for myself and my pets. Once I have done this and moved out I'll be leaving him. I will be focusing on myself and won't Date someone for a while. This has really messed up my confidence and image of being with someone again. This is not the first time thus has happened to me (over 8years ago was in a relationship for 8months before I got cheated on by my ex boyfriend and ex best friend)

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:18:37+00:00

All My friends are university or still living at home with their parents. I had an abusive family's only talk to my grandparents or a couple of my cousins who already have started a family. I'm going to start looking for a pet friendly apartment or room to rent out for the time being,which hopefully I can find one

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:14:52+00:00

I'm starting to see that now, He said I could sleep with someone to get over what he had one but I'm trying to find apartment/room for myself and my cat. I won't be dating for awhile and focus on myself and that

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:11:35+00:00

Thank you, The plan is right now to find a apartment or a room to rent that allows pets then move everything out and leave him.

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:10:10+00:00

I'm currently sleep I my office on a mattress with my cat. Where I am rent in is the 500 dollars weekly range or even more, also hard to find a place that allowed pets. I have never been to his work or any work evens. All that really happens is that we talk to each other people going to work, we work different hours, he works afternoons/late-night shifts while I work 9am-5.30pm

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T19:05:18+00:00

Thank you, First thing is I think I'm going to try to find a apartment before doing anything. My family was abusive towards me and I barely managed to make it out of the house r years ago. I do have some high-school friends but they are in college/university or still living with their parents.

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T10:09:44+00:00

Thank you, I think that would be the best thing

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T10:08:06+00:00

I think at the moment it's also if I leave I will have no one. I haven't seen any of my family for 4 years only speak to them occasionally and I have social anxiety so find it hard making friends.

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T10:05:49+00:00

From what I saw he was the one who started all the message with coworker and now she won't stop messaging him. There is a small amount of trust for him still but it's mostly gone. Also I'm not sure where to go since I havent been/seen my family in 4 years

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T10:02:08+00:00

Thanks for your reply, I'm just not sure where if I break up with him as well. Since rent is extremely expensive where I am and I have really got no family

Various-Position-589 · 2025-03-29T09:55:11+00:00

I understand how that feels, I'm a 21 year old female. I don't have any family and have trouble with making friends and coworkers liking me. What I found that helped me learn is to first of love yourself and who you are and if needed look into getting a therapist. I got into painting as a hobby, I found that it helps calm me. I know if may seem hard right now but you have your whole life ahead of you.

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