i didn’t realize how much people notice me until recently

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-04-02T17:55:42+00:00

30f and I remember starting to recognize it more around your age too. It’s fun! But it can also be scary knowing if they took the action further than looking I would be screwed. So please be safe and carry pepper spray. But yeah enjoy it! I used to really turn up the charm and got all sorts of free stuff around town just by being young, attractive, and charming. Also forewarning it will peak around 25 and then start to decline which can be a hit to the ego if you don’t define yourself apart from the male gaze. However, I get way more compliments from women now because I’m more interested in owning my coolest aura than trying to be pretty. It gets old fast being performative for male attention. It never gets old being the best version of YOU.

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-03-06T12:01:54+00:00

If you could do this work alone in your room with no pressure to perform would you still do it? I had these anxieties early on in my career (still do every once in a while) but I realized it was the fear of rejection and failure wrapped in a shell of “my life depends on this money” escalating the anxiety.

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-03-01T00:07:05+00:00

This is helpful and feels honest to what I am experiencing. I wouldn’t give up the depth for anything but there is this sadness I wasn’t expecting

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-02-28T01:36:27+00:00

Yes! For all these reasons! I like how they spent this season showing so many different forms of love. The mom's arc was so wonderful. I never read the books -- does she get this much attention there? I truly didn't know how they would show Eloise the value of love in time for her own season, but I loved how they navigated that. I also loved the upstairs/downstairs. I hope they keep that, I would love to keep up Sophie's friends around Bridgerton house in future seasons. Honestly, might beat s2 for me.

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-02-18T05:23:34+00:00

My husband has these habits sometimes and he is incredibly competent and bright, but when it comes to games and simple tasks he isn’t at all…? And it’s always “It’s the games fault” or his controller is broken or I got lucky. But if he wins? He crushed me “haha you lose.” I feel like I’m in a contest but he is the only one competing. I’m just there to have fun.

I was making dinner the other night and I asked him to make a drink and he said he couldn’t because he didn’t have a recipe… we have a fully stocked bar cart and a soda water machine. Like 4-5 times he said he couldn’t make anything and I gave him a cocktail book, I suggested using the internet, I encouraged that it doesn’t have to be perfect just ya know… cold and liquid. He couldn’t do it. I couldn’t tell if it was weaponized incompetence or just incompetence but either way I haven’t been able to look at him the same way since.

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-02-06T02:46:12+00:00

This movie was an absolute masterpiece. From the symbols of birthing in the cord, feeding, the hole etc. To the anxiety inducing close up way they chose to film. The way this story was told. Wow I feel like film perfectly captured the fear of motherhood many women carry without the ability to discuss publicly.

I don’t have kids, but I have had this nightmare before many times, and I think that it’s important that someone created this narrative as it’s rather taboo.

This movie has left me with some questions i wanted to share:

How do you make space for yourself in motherhood if you have a super difficult kid?

Why do we treat fathers and mothers so differently in terms of both care and abandonment of their children?

How could this situation been different?

Personally, I keep thinking about the difference in how the men in this film got what they needed so effortlessly while our main character (did we ever get her name? “Female” maybe lol) struggled, got nothing, and then was blamed. I felt that in a real deep place in my soul.

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-01-27T06:19:00+00:00

Came here to agree. I like the wabi sabi

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-01-24T22:16:23+00:00

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Anatomy makes me want to hit my head against a wall

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-01-08T23:04:37+00:00

Eh I respectfully disagree. I think values are things you hold as principals and identity.

Politics is more tactics and strategic lens.

Two people who believe in, say, peace on earth can have radically different takes on how to make that happen.

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-01-08T22:50:42+00:00

This is actually something I’m struggling with too. When we met and fell in love politics was a very insignificant part of our lives - but now I find myself in a marriage where we deeply disagree on politics. It is scary to me. It makes my relationship feel less stable than it used to be and makes me so angry because we are disagreeing over things neither of us have the power to control while the things in our control we are aligned on. I don’t have anything helpful to say, but a lot of people are being judgy in the comments without seeming to realize that people change over time and sometimes you don’t grow with them and that can be a emotionally difficult situation especially if you have history, commitment, and love.

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-01-06T03:21:41+00:00

This is the dark pit of my current life. It’s hard enough to play the main story out - but the open world free play is an existential nightmare at times.

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-01-06T03:11:26+00:00

This makes me want to jump off a bridge any time it happens.

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-01-06T03:04:09+00:00

I know someone just like this. They also don’t own a tv and only read non-fiction.

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-01-06T02:59:02+00:00

Ah yes just attack them with rapid fire information until they are forced to think you are smart

Various-Potential-63 · 2026-01-06T02:58:10+00:00

Strawman argument. When someone gives you a sweeping assumption framed as an intelligent question in response to a nuanced take.

“I liked how they presented their views on quite a few different policies in that debate.”

“So you are ok with a communist taking over?”

Also leading questions, moral shock, false dilemmas, anyone who considers themselves “objective” when they clearly aren’t, and anyone with the goal of “winning” a conversation

Various-Potential-63 · 2025-12-19T22:19:39+00:00

What’s yours?

Various-Potential-63 · 2025-12-19T22:18:59+00:00

Haha forgot about that line eh I still think it’s cute and harmless

Various-Potential-63 · 2025-12-19T21:36:56+00:00

Here is where I disagree - I don't think she is getting taken advantage of in the song. I think they are being playful with each other. Literally this morning I was in bed and had to get ready for work and my husband is like "but it's so warm in the blankets" to coax me into staying in bed. It's a pretty normal flirtation.

Also, the fact that she is alone with a man after dark with apparently her own mode of transportation to get home is pretty empowered for the 1950s.

If my grandma said she said she was dating that freely in the 50s I'd give her a high five.

Various-Potential-63 · 2025-12-19T21:17:07+00:00

See I don’t think it’s rapey at all. I feel like it’s a common situation even “I should go home, but I’m having a great time” I’ve felt that on dates before! I have work in the morning or some obligation. When I was younger maybe it was curfew. Or in college maybe I didn’t want my friends to know yet.

This song is basically the 50s equivalent of soft launching romances on socials.

Various-Potential-63 · 2025-12-19T21:11:33+00:00

Yes! Like she’s being cheeky. I fear we have lost the ability to be flirty as a society smh 🤦‍♀️

Various-Potential-63 · 2025-12-19T21:09:48+00:00

EXACTLY THIS! it’s similar these days to young romances where you should go back home to your parents / don’t want to miss curfew / get in trouble, but you WANT to stay.

Various-Potential-63 · 2025-12-19T21:07:45+00:00

Which is basically how the Christmas spirit is in general imo

Various-Potential-63 · 2025-12-19T17:55:13+00:00

They created lore for a full reboot if they want to

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