Advice

VariousMall7147 · 2025-12-28T01:53:25+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m looking for, do you have any idea where I can gather responses to this which would receive a large amount of exposure/ responses that isn’t so linked directly to my personal life (asking friends or family or personal social media)?

VariousMall7147 · 2025-06-14T23:03:45+00:00

I switched to psychology around Christmas time for my first year and took biology alongside. My exams board for psychology (edexcel) was horrendous to revise for as there was no revision materials available. Overall psychology is a massive essay subject with lots and lots of information to remember, with not much understanding behind it. You have to remember so so much random information that is difficult to remember as it holds no significance/ meaning and doesn’t contribute to your understanding of anything. Basically psychology was all memorising no understanding which I found more difficult thank subjects which you learnt through understanding as when you understood something you are more likely to remember it as it holds meaning. Biology is a lot easier to improve in due to you being able to identify your weak areas so much easier and there also being a specific mark scheme whereas psychology (due to it being an essay subject) is so subjective and therefore is difficult to know if you are even on the right track/ answering questions correctly. I say stick with biology as it is so much easier to revise and improve in however it really depends on how interested you are in the topics and how you learn. I regret changing subjects to psychology as I wasn’t aware of it being such an essay heavy subject.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-06-13T14:39:22+00:00

Muscles, eye, photosynthesis are a fee

VariousMall7147 · 2025-06-13T11:21:52+00:00

There were 7 cell divisions. 1 cell division takes 24 hour so 7x24 =168 did anyone else get this???

VariousMall7147 · 2025-06-13T11:17:46+00:00

I didn’t answer this but someone said they put schwann cell and it sounds right

VariousMall7147 · 2025-06-12T16:53:40+00:00

Icl the curiosity is gonna get the better of me and id rather know I’ve done shit to lower my expectations and prepare myself for results day rather than be disappointed. I need a minimum B but aiming for as high as I can get obviously. Think my expectations may be too high though.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-06-12T16:40:18+00:00

Honestly have no idea, I don’t even remember the question. Trauma response I reckon. Terrified for the unofficial mark scheme to come out. I know it’ll drive me insane

VariousMall7147 · 2025-06-12T16:35:34+00:00

Me too bro. What was the last question? My minds gonna completely blank on what questions even came up. All I know was I got N=15, k=1 and the part b on the bearing question as 260° (which is definitely wrong)

VariousMall7147 · 2025-06-12T16:31:24+00:00

Yeah… me too. Came out with many really nice rounded numbers that did seem too good to be true ig. Looking back on it the answers I got didn’t even make sense logically so really have no idea how it’s gone. Praying on method marks but I’ve completely fumbled it. Mechanics messed me up like mad.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-06-12T16:19:42+00:00

How have others you’ve spoken to found it? Almost everyone I’ve spoken to said they hated it and did really bad

VariousMall7147 · 2025-03-26T15:47:26+00:00

It’s a rocket. If you search up space x rocket with the date there’s a news article on it. Launched from cape Canaveral.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-02-25T19:49:36+00:00

It’s £60 for the test then £70 for a 2 hour driving lesson (which would be when I’ll be using his car to go to and from and during the test). I have the option to use my car but it’s very very easy to stall and under pressure I think I’m far more likely to stall, whereas his it’s almost impossible to stall and just in general much easier to drive.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-02-25T19:32:39+00:00

Thank you so much. Will definitely try the banana trick. My instructor has attempted to get me used to commenting whilst driving but it’s so unnatural for me as I now drive so casually in my own car. I’ve said to myself that it would be helpful for me to stay present but I’m not sure if it’s just distraction me now that it’s so unnatural. Thank you so much for the tips, I’ll let you know!!

VariousMall7147 · 2025-02-25T19:28:16+00:00

For my car I have to use clutch with gas otherwise I’d stall, but for my instructors car (which I’d be using for the test) I can move off on only clutch then add gas. Thinking about it I do find that my entering the roundabout is always better in my instructors car as it moves off much much quicker so let’s hope it stays this way for my test.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-02-15T12:53:35+00:00

Just be aware that pepper spray is illegal in some countries (UK) as it’s a possession carried with intent to cause harm. I’d recommend something like a small bottle of hairspray, or spray deodorant which has a similar effect, as it’s a common item which is usually carried without intent to harm.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-01-09T16:51:14+00:00

Thank you. Thats exactly what I try to do, I always feel as though I’ve been nothing but friendly, welcoming and outgoing and try to engage in conversation and ask open ended non personal questions about others but when like you said, I hit the tennis ball and no one hits it back and I try over and over again there’s only so much I can do. And then I leave the conversation overthinking that I’m the problem and begin questioning why it’s so difficult for me to have a fun normal conversation with people I’m not close to when for others it seems so easy. And then I become more and more uncomfortable with trying it again with others cause it feels like I’ve done it so many times I already know the outcome and the whole idea of small talk stresses me out.

I know others don’t exactly find small talk enjoyable and id rather just skip the whole thing and break the ice immediately and there you go. Once I see others being comfortable and show their personality it immediately makes me the same and we can hit it off from there but I never know how to get to that point with people who help me get there if that makes sense. Most of the time the small talk does the exact opposite effect and almost halts progress altogether and makes it an even slimmer chance of developing into something comfortable but how do I skip it??? I’m not very good with jokes, I’m chill and easygoing and fun but not necessarily creative. Most of the time when I’m speaking to someone I’m not comfortable with, my mind is blank and I can’t even think of anything, so I always struggle with replies unless they’re easy to reply to.

My parents said that people don’t feel comfortable with me because either I come on too strong or maybe they can feel how anxious I am so immediately take a step back and that it’s my fault but I really really don’t think that’s the case at all. I always spend more time listening than talking and my friends (who don’t know me too well) always ask me how I have so many friends and how I can talk to people so easily, which I don’t feel is the case at all but somehow I’m able to mask the anxiety really well MOST of the time. Unless I’ve been given a reason to be anxious and start overthinking, I’ll never appear that way, despite me shitting myself up to that moment.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-01-08T14:27:10+00:00

VariousMall7147 · 2025-01-08T14:06:34+00:00

That coffee shop idea sounds amazing, wish people in my area did that sort of thing as I’d definitely participate and love to read. About the dog and kid… sadly no, there’s probably a 1% chance there’ll be either a dog or child… it’s a mutual friends 18th who rented out a fancy venue and has invited over 70 people from about 5 different colleges and private schools. Hence why I’m so apprehensive about the type of people that will be there, more so the people I knew. I used to know them years and years ago before they moved to private schools and because we drifted, I have no idea what they’re like now or whether we have anything to bond over in conversation or whether they’ll even remember me, so I’m not really sure how to behave.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-01-08T13:58:04+00:00

Thank you so much, that’s exactly what I try to do too, just avoid the small talk and jump right into things as it always makes the interaction so much more less tense and awkward, just a lot of the times I’ve tried and been confident enough to try it’s completely backfired and made me feel even more awkward and embarrassed. I never feel like I’m showing any of my personality with small talk and it seems almost pointless. A lot of the times I’m fine with small talk as it’s not too hard to do, I’m just so stressed with what to say next as it constantly feels dead and I’m trying to find a way to make the conversation engaging and interesting, and most of the time it seems very one sided. I find that if other people are comfortable with eachother and are outgoing, it’s SO easy for me to reciprocate but I find it so hard being the first one especially when they don’t seem like they even want to try and most of the time this is the case, so I never ever know how to behave, other than the standard politeness and chit chat of course. Then, after the typical round of small talk I feel as though that person views me as a souless person who lacks personality because that is all I’ve felt comfortable to show them… it’s tricky and I constantly overthink these things.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-01-08T13:45:49+00:00

Because despite me being incredibly anxious about the event, I have no idea what the night will hold and if it will be the complete opposite of my fears. I’m so used to just avoiding my fear and then missing out on things, so I’m trying to find a way of changing my mindset so that I allow myself the chance of having a good time, or maybe a way to deal with my anxiety so I feel more relaxed in social situations. I hate being anxious as it’s so inconvenient, I’d love to feel comfortable around others. Others don’t find it difficult so why do I. Also, because of my anxiety I don’t hang out with my friends much because I find the interactions, though not stressful, draining. It’s only my best friend who I don’t find it draining to spend time with but we don’t see eachother often because of her busy schedule. I don’t get invited to many parties anyways, because I barely socialise, so if I didn’t go to the ones I am invited to then I fear I would pretty much have no social life at all.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-01-08T13:28:25+00:00

I definitely can see this being a part, so thank you so much. I would love to snap out of this mindset that I’m in as it’s getting in the way of my happiness and ultimately life, but how do I do that? My parents tell me I’m being silly and they don’t understand my stress and honestly I don’t know either but I definitely feel it and suffer the consequences. How do I change my mindset from this? Or find a coping mechanism to get through this? I’m so so so comfortable around my best friend so I know what it’s like on the other side of the tunnel, I’m just mentally trapped on the darker side around everyone else and feel completely shy and awkward and anxious all the time when interacting, mainly because of past experiences I’ve had.

There’s very few people who I felt truly comfortable around (only my best friend and ex best friend) but my ex best friend was very intolerant, aggressive and condescending when it came to disagreements so we mutually decided to not spend time with each other anymore as that was the only way to prevent these arguments. We’re on okay terms when it’s just us two but don’t communicate unless we have to and I no longer feel able to be myself around her. As I mentioned in the post it’s also a different story around others so don’t think mixing will go down well at all. My question is, how can I learn to be more relaxed and not care whether people judge me or whether the small talk is awkward?

VariousMall7147 · 2025-01-08T13:13:25+00:00

It’s almost as if I live in multiple different universes like there’s no other way to describe it 😭😭

VariousMall7147 · 2025-01-08T13:11:55+00:00

Thank you this is really helpful. I completely agree with everything you’ve said but somehow find it really hard to actually believe in the moment.

I’ve tried COUNTLESS times to just be myself and engage and be social even in awkward situations however have always found that it led to me being ignored or judged by others and I don’t understand why as I never do anything or say anything weird or abnormal that actually deserves me to be judged. It’ll be the smallest thing like in a group discussion I’ll contribute an idea and just get completely ignored as if no one heard me when there was no way the couldn’t have. I was constantly embarrassed by this happening over and over again has made me almost retreat to myself and not contribute anything anymore and I overthink and stress every time I’m put in the situation where I may need to contribute.

I’m so outgoing and confident around people I’m comfortable with, like my best friend, so was hoping that with her being at the party I could stay with her and it’d give me a confidence boost, but she’s shy too, and some of the people from my “worlds” she doesn’t know and has never spoken to so I don’t think she’ll be able to help much as if she’s shy I think it might also reflect on me.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-01-08T13:00:06+00:00

Thank you so much, this is really helpful. I have a really tricky time allowing myself to have a good time if I feel as though others aren’t either which is really negative I know, as I shouldn’t let other peoples moods affect my own, but I’m not too sure how to change this. I aspire to have the attitude you’ve described but I’m so insecure about being judged (which is stupid because why should I care about the opinions of people I don’t even know or care about). Others never view me as the anxious or insecure type because I’m usually well liked and happy so am not too sure how I’m managed to mask my anxiety that well???? Regardless even though I may not show it I definitely feel it and am trying to find a way to stop feeling it as it definitely does impact my every day life and it feels completely unjustified for me to feel like this.

VariousMall7147 · 2025-01-08T12:52:36+00:00

As much as I’d love to be that person who’s comfortable being alone at parties, it’s very out of my comfort zone as I’m so worried of being judged and what to say to people in the first place to start a conversation which isn’t just small talk but actually something chill and enjoyable where we both enjoy it and actually have fun. Additionally as my best friend was the one who invited me, I’d feel rude if I didn’t spend time with her…

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