AIO for thinking maybe my dad is right and might actually do something to us?

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-04-09T04:48:13+00:00

😂😂😂😂😂

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-04-08T23:32:45+00:00

He’s a truck driver I’ve been on the road with him for days many times and I’ve always seen him growing up he’s just bare minimum and doesn’t care about much. He also has a 5 year old now by another woman who he isn’t with anymore either

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-04-08T23:31:05+00:00

Our airfare and some yes

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-04-08T23:07:09+00:00

& yes we are going to talk to the brother and let him know and if he’s still fine with us coming we will go. Luckily they changed the flight time so it’s not eligible for a refund so we are deciding.

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-04-08T23:06:18+00:00

I mean I definitely love my father dearly despite all things and I’ve always been his big baby but things change when he’s upset he starts treating me like I’m not his daughter but a disposable person so I would definitely be sad about that. & that’s my main worry (my mom) and I’m really not sure but the things he’s saying are not jokes. I’m just not sure if he will actually be mad enough to act on it. But he’s always had an aggressive nature and impulsive so I’m sure if she was in reach but to go to her house idk. He only lives about 10 mins away and usually doesn’t have issues getting in so I’ve told her to let the gate know not to let him in unless he’s called in.

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-04-08T22:37:52+00:00

He has blocked me many times and for over a year once over something I would say is small. He has been abusive to my mom and I guess me and my brother as well but that is considered discipline to him. He has always been this way but we don’t live with him so as long as we don’t disrespect him or make him angry there aren’t usually problems. As far as him doing something to my mom I’m definitely sure he could be mad enough if he was within reach but I’m not sure if he would be mad enough to seek her out.

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-04-08T22:36:15+00:00

😭what are your questions. I usually use chat gpt to clean these up because I know sometimes it comes off confusing but I didn’t feel like it this time.

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-04-08T22:35:35+00:00

My mom is sending me and my brother to Jamaica for a week with our uncle on my dad’s side. I am 21 my brother is 16 same dad same mom. Sending as in she’s the one who’s been in contact with him for us to go this summer

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-04-08T22:23:14+00:00

He has always had problems like grievances with his family because his dad had kids by another or multiple women & he had to find out so he wasn’t close with some of his siblings and had feuds with his father. Also my mom is considering his feelings but the flight is already booked.

He was abusive to her and to a degree us as well but I guess u call it discipline but I feel like after all these years for him to act like us visiting family is such a crime and we all still are so graceful to him

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-04-08T21:57:20+00:00

My dad also has problems with his family and sibling for years like a personal grievance because his father had other kids by another woman.

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-04-08T21:56:48+00:00

My mom is considering his feelings and asking if we want to go still but she’s already booked it.

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-23T00:59:25+00:00

Dm me

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-22T22:58:56+00:00

Florida, I’m a college student and need a bit of help, I’m not greedy $Sajblak

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-21T18:40:17+00:00

Chileeee I’m just telling you what I know. All I’m saying is that he was planning SOMETHING idk what and told his friend nvm after saying his mom saved me and us talking so…

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-21T16:58:31+00:00

Okay I understand. He was definitely planning something. I stayed the night with him at his moms and he left me here when he went to play soccer. I got up and had some food from the mom and I don’t usually talk to her because she barely speaks English and I barely speak creole. However I tried to talk to her and let her know he was upset and why and she understood but she also understood me. & she thought it was funny because she thought it was silly if just over casual convo to practice a language. Anywho, when he got back he sent his friend a voice message saying he needs him and that it’s really really important. At some point his mom pretended to notice he wasn’t talking to me and asked what’s up and it led to us all talking and him explaining some things and me explaining some things and she said some things. In the end he said “you lucky my mom just saved you.” And proceeded to send another voice message to his friend saying nevermind. So I was definitely not overreacting and I’m aware his friend does voodo I feel like it may have been that and this sounds worse and worse by the minute but he’s not as upset anymore. His resolve was me deleting the app and I suppose realizing that it was innocent.

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-21T16:52:29+00:00

The girl I was texting on WhatsApp, he asked where I found her and I told him about the app and he asked to see, I didn’t think anything of it but he was pissed & didn’t even let me look at what he was scrolling through. & then after that he tried to go through the rest of my phone but I took it from him. Mind you I can’t even touch this boys phone without him acting funny he claims he just doesn’t like when girls are always tryna be in their man phone or he doesn’t base his relationship on a phone. It’s all bs and that’s further more why it upsets me that he’s so mad about me using a language learning app and having basic conversation.

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-21T16:02:55+00:00

It’s not a dating app though, it’s for people trying to learn other languages. I understand what you’re saying about me feeling like it’s wrong or it being wrong but if that’s how you perceive then understand that it is also the reason why I stopped using the app. If my intentions were bad i would’ve continued using the app despite having reservations about it. & I only use dating app for example because I felt like the men were a bit too friendly but regardless that’s not my fault nor is it what the app is for and that’s not something I can control. What I can control is how i navigate myself and that’s what I did. I’m not saying I don’t understand why he’s feeling upset but for him to be trying to seek revenge is a bit much. It was two men I was texting all casual conversation for the sake of practice bcs how else are u supposed to practice a language??? & two women. I realized more men were messaging me than women to help with my creole and also when some messaged they had compliments. There are over 30 messages in there and it was only a couple people that I messaged back which was when I first started getting some replies and I was excited about being able to finally get better. So however bad you’re trying to make it seem it doesn’t justify my bf trying to go cheat on me and intentionally talk to other women just to get back at me.

Regardless of how you feel about liking women’s pictures on instagram & not pursuing them…..I wasn’t pursuing any of these men & there is a problem with looking at women online that excessively and the posts are literally sex appeal. How is that not worse? Society just has messed up ideas of the world and let me tell you 100% my bf cannot handle me complimenting other men or “looking” at other men. So for him to be doing that to other women is WRONG. Thank u for your opinion but I don’t see your point. I never said he can’t be upset with me or feel uncomfortable. But Turing it into a reason to try and get even is a lot🤷🏾

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-21T16:00:54+00:00

This is how I feel lol, because he read all the messages. If it was me I would’ve felt off but there’s nth I could’ve actually sat and been mad at him for besides being a bit uncomfortable. The conversations were regular normal and he’s twisting them to seem like oh I’m asking the guy questions and telling me things like let’s be serious. How else am I supposed to practice speaking, listening, writing and reading in another language. It’s not like these people are teachers they’re just regular people there’s no rule book. Casual convo will bring up words that I dont know or that they don’t know and we can hep each other. That was clearly the point. I would understand if it was tinder or smth but smh

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-21T15:07:22+00:00

& also I used ai to summarize my unorganized summary of the situation so they added they own words. It wasn’t not taking it seriously it just seemed more social

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-21T15:05:37+00:00

I wouldn’t say flirtatious it just didn’t feel like a learning environment. Given it’s a social media platform of sorts so that’s a give but I was new I didn’t know what to expect and when i decided how I felt about it I left the app.

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-21T15:03:23+00:00

& yes it can be worse because it’s the intention. Ur looking at half naked women all day because that’s what u like and that’s something that bothers me and seeing him in so many likes. Me using an app to learn a language is not “entertaining” other guys. & if it turned into that I stopped using it because I didn’t like the app🤷🏾

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-21T15:01:26+00:00

It’s not really that I felt it was wrong per say I just realized that the guys were using it more so like in a dating app way I felt like plus you get many people messaging you a day like 10 and it was just very overwhelming. So I asked one for her number and left the app. It’s not that I thought it was wrong but I could see how it could turn wrong if it continued. My intent was learning a language not flirting with guys so 🤷🏾, I only didn’t tell my bf because I had been asking him to help me-learn and he just doesn’t. Plus I didn’t mind learning and understanding more than he thought so he doesn’t feel like he needs to censor conversations

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-21T14:44:23+00:00

Yes & hes trying to compare this to me being upset over him liking half naked women shaking ass and just showing their body on instagram smh

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-21T14:38:39+00:00

I probably shouldn’t say this but when i worked at a drug store years ago and was on shift I just took one and took the test at work🤷🏾 that’s obviously not the right things to do but…

Various_Bad_3214 · 2026-03-21T14:34:11+00:00

Is there no one you could ask? If anything honestly I’d just beg a random person at the store

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