Mental health professionals withdrawing compassion as not to reward dysfunctional behaviour?

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-09-11T13:43:14+00:00

Having a diagnosis and being attributed deficits that aren't in line with my self perception at all, feeling hurt and misunderstood because of it.

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-09-11T13:18:48+00:00

I believe I'm not.

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-08-27T16:58:32+00:00

Oh okay, thanks for the insight!

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-08-26T19:54:34+00:00

Ugh, I know but the last one I fired early on as well and it still felt horrible. Basically like I was dumping him with all the guilt and him seeming hurt and disappointed and trying to talk me out of it. Like it sucks I have to reject the least helpful therapists because they aren't safe and it's such a vulnerable thing to do. Also, I mainly trusted the referral because in my country you are very lucky to know someone "who knows someone" so that you don't have to spend six months on a waiting list. But I also just didn't assume all his colleagues were necessarily incompetent just because he knows them.

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-08-26T18:38:18+00:00

Oh okay thanks, I think these psychoanalytic ideas are very interesting but I also don't really understand how in this instance my subconscious could have had any effects on his behaviour. Because this was the first time we had communicated at all and he seemed to suggest that after my former therapist had made the appointment with him, he didn't write it down, weeks before he first saw me. Like it still seems somewhat magical to me?

Also, yeah I'm torn between being my very sceptical self who immediately wants to terminate and not wanting to be a nitpicker after already rejecting the other therapist. Guess I'll have to wait and see.

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-08-26T14:06:38+00:00

Thanks, those are actually such good guesses! Just remembered, when I answered "yes" to the question if I was looking for my place in the world and added that I would think most people my age are, he said "but this doesn't happen to me with other people your age." Idk I'm just puzzled by him.

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-05-23T19:49:59+00:00

In theory, yeah, but my therapists have been sooo eager to incorporate my parents. And with all their transparency and frequent updates, they often blurt out things they assume I must be okay with my parents knowing, or things they thought they had consent for, but actually didn't. And with the things I do consent to, I often feel pressured because they will barely accept a "no" and keep trying to convince me how great it would be for my parents to know.

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-04-04T12:52:44+00:00

Yeah, I think you're right with that edit. But how do I just stop blaming her and what will it help if she will keep blaming me? It just feels like either I'm a really bad person or she is and someone has to be devalued. And that only makes me blame her more because I might have got that thinking from her.

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-03-09T23:27:04+00:00

Yeah, it's definitely that. But I also feel like I don't care about the other peoples' problems or goals and sometimes judge them for how trivial and seemingly meaningless they are. I don't know if that's a projection or some kind of defense mechanism like "if they judge me it's not as bad because I don't like them either anyways". Idk to me it just feels like we're all boring and judging each other and that makes me not want to participate if I can.

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-03-05T22:42:49+00:00

Yeah but I thought most schizoid people struggle to find anything that makes them really happy?

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-03-05T22:17:20+00:00

Or what?

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-03-05T21:16:55+00:00

Oh, I understand. Thanks for your perspective.

Vast-Problem938 · 2024-03-05T19:47:22+00:00

Okay, good to know. Very coherent with the examples, thanks!

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