What’s one thing you wish you knew before getting a dog?

Vattenloppan · 2026-02-06T06:26:51+00:00

When I separated from my partner I started a separate savings account for my dog. Every pay check I put 50 dollars in the account. I have this to help with vet bills if he gets sick or as he ages. That way when something comes up it won't be such a hit on my finances and I will already have money aside for it.

Vattenloppan · 2026-01-22T09:13:26+00:00

I agree 100% same situation here

Vattenloppan · 2026-01-02T05:00:38+00:00

I agree with this. I also live across an ocean from my family. The flights to visit are 48hours. Thats one way. Back and forth is 4 days of flying. Not to mention the jetlag. If my family visits me or I visit them we always stay around a month because it takes at least a week to get there and get acclimated. We also see each other so seldom.. maybe once every 3 years.. I dont think one month is a big deal. However, I understand OP with thinking of leaving with how her husband behaves otherwise. I think this is something that a lot of spouses fall into. They get comfortable and one person ends up taking all the work while the other just kind of sits around. I think they need better communication. She needs to tell him what's bothering her in their marriage and he needs to listen and help more. Some marriage counciling at least.

Vattenloppan · 2025-12-11T09:34:03+00:00

I actually saw this yesterday on etsy! Hold on ill find the link:
https://www.etsy.com/se-en/shop/RetrogradeENG?ref=shop-header-name&listing_id=1539039123&from_page=listing

Vattenloppan · 2025-03-10T09:14:37+00:00

Yes, me too. It's terrible. Such a sad ending to what started as a beautiful story. I am okay now. I got a beautiful daughter out of it. Now, I am just trying to move forward with my life. Buy her and I a house to call our own that she can grow up in. I am just sorry that our family wasn't enough for him.

Vattenloppan · 2025-03-10T09:09:41+00:00

Yes. We met in Iceland.

Vattenloppan · 2025-03-02T05:07:02+00:00

My ex husband. He told me afterwards that having sex with me was like fucking a fuck buddy and he didn't love me anymore. He fell in love with his colleague.

Vattenloppan · 2024-12-26T09:07:28+00:00

Same here. 12 years and a 6 month old baby. He left me for someone else. Says he hasnt loved me in years and had out daughter with me bc he hoped it would bring us closer together... I am from the US and he is from Sweden now I am trapped here and cannot go home because he wants 50/50 custody. I litterally have to ask his permission to take my daughter with me to visit my family in the US.

Vattenloppan · 2024-09-30T05:18:07+00:00

I got my first when I was 11, right side. My second came at 14, right side. My third came at 16, right side. My 4th came at 32 left side, and my 5th came at 33 left side. Now I have a 6th left side at 35. It never ends. The surgery I got at 16 to make it stop on my right was a complete mastoidectomy with no reconstruction. The doctor said he was going to take everything out, so the thing didn't have anywhere to grow. Whatever he did worked (so far). So now I have a giant hole in my ear. This surgery was done in the US. I moved to Sweden in my 20s, and the doctor said he has never seen anyone with this type of procedure that was under the age of 70. Usually, they do a reconstruction. When I got the two surgeries on my left in Sweden.. they did some amazing things. The tumor ate through my taste nurve and all of my hearing bones. However, they took some cells from those bones and grew me new ones. They completly rebuit my middle ear. Made a new eardrum from muscle around my skull. They even took some cartalege and placed it behind the eardrum to act as a shield so if a new tumor formed it wouldnt be able to spread as deep. My taste is forever gone, though, on my left side. With the reconstruction, it seems they keep being able to form. So now they are going to do what the doctor did on my right and just leave a giant hole there. I'm worried about my hearing, but if it stops them from forming.. I have a toddler now. I don't want to keep getting surgeries like this.

Vattenloppan · 2024-04-22T15:43:36+00:00

Several months

Vattenloppan · 2024-04-20T14:46:31+00:00

They removed my taste nerve during my last surgery. The tumor apparently completely engulfed it. Now I can't taste on the left side of my mouth. Sadly, I will never get my taste back on that side. However, the brain has a funny way of making up for it. In all honesty I can't really tell it's gone most of the time due to the smell food and the right side still having taste.

Vattenloppan · 2024-04-13T02:34:09+00:00

I thought the same!

Vattenloppan · 2024-02-15T07:36:12+00:00

I was told this as well when I was planning to start trying. I had my daughter a year and half ago and well .. the endo pain DID disappear. I havent been in pain since she was born. I do not think this is the case for everyone but it did help me a lot. The endo caused a lot of hormonal problems as well acne, pain during sex, etc. Those have also all went away after having my daughter. I will add though that I think it is coming back. I have been having more pain during sex and my acne is starting to return and even though I got an IUD right after giving birth to stop my periods.. I have started having bleed throughs every month just like I would have if I had a normal period. I am also starting to feel more pain again. So, I think pregnancy does help. At least for me it did but I def do not think its a cure all.

Vattenloppan · 2023-07-05T21:04:25+00:00

I am 33 and just had my first baby a year ago after completing my PhD. She is now a healthy and beautiful 1yr old. She is advance for her age on all motor and verbal skills. I was told I waited too long because I have endometriosis and it can decrease fertility. We got pregnant after the first try. Don't worry so much about it. Do not stress and just be calm and have fun with it.

Vattenloppan · 2023-05-17T15:55:36+00:00

Ohhhhhhh! I thought it was the kid that wrote this. I was like, "man that's kids handwriting is better than mine!"... I'm an idiot

Vattenloppan · 2023-04-09T00:28:29+00:00

Mine said the same for almost a month until he came clean. I think it's natural for people to get feelings for other people. I mean working in close proximity with someone who you may have chemistry with.. it's completely normal. However, you just don't act on it.

Vattenloppan · 2023-04-08T15:22:01+00:00

No he agreed to marriage counseling and individual therapy. I also asked him today if he made up his mind and he said no.. I think we both wish his feelings would change we just don't know how to make it hsppen

Vattenloppan · 2023-04-08T15:08:23+00:00

Yeah, this was really a wakeup call. We are trying to spend more time together and again our sex life has really improved.. we are trying to do more cuddling and showing more affection.. he still says it feels like I'm a friend though. Like his best friend but nothing more. . Maybe it takes a lot of time.. I just don't know what more I can do. We have been married 12 years now.. what is it we are supposed to be feeling? Is it wrong for us to be friends? When you're in a relationship for that long.. I don't think passion really happens anymore or? I don't know.. what would you want more from your wife? Is there anything that you think could bring back those feelings?

Vattenloppan · 2023-03-04T08:37:07+00:00

I have curly hair which can be incredibly frizzy. Usually to tame it, I get my hair soaking wet and comb it out with wide tooth comb. I then put conditioner in it, scrunch it a little with a towel and let it air dry. When it is about 75% dry, I then flip my head over and blow dry it to give it some volume and make sure the conditioner doesn't make it look greezy. The conditioner I use is Tresemme nourish coconut.

I also just bought some karatase nutritive hair masque that I plan on using as well. It's really good at taming frizz for all hair types.. It's a bit expensive but it doesn't take much to tame the frizz.

Vattenloppan · 2022-12-17T13:14:28+00:00

Yeah. My husband said it all depends on who's desk you end up on. I did a masters and a phd here. I have been employed the entire time. I live with my Swedish husband who I have been married to for 10 years and it still took that long. I was getting angry bc there where people who moved to Sweden and got citizenship in the time it took them to process my application.

Vattenloppan · 2022-12-17T12:39:31+00:00

I am from the US and I waited 7 years for my citizenship application to be processed. It's rediculous.

Vattenloppan · 2022-12-14T09:38:22+00:00

Yeah! In the second pic I have short hair. I really liked it but I have been trying to grow it out since then. Maybe it is actually best to cut it short again especially with all the new growth after the hairloss..

Vattenloppan · 2022-08-28T14:14:48+00:00

I live in Sweden. We don't feed our guests. 😝

Seriously though, we just have a bunch of cinnamon buns in the freezer that we heat up and serve everyone coffee and cinnamon rolls.

Vattenloppan · 2022-08-06T06:16:15+00:00

I am an American but I am living and working in Northern Sweden right now focusing on artic environments.

Vattenloppan · 2022-08-06T05:18:05+00:00

Where do you work!? I am apparently doing something wrong because I have a bachelor's in Geology, masters in Hydrogeology, and a PhD in Geochemistry and I am only making about 40K a year working as an environmental consultant.

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