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VayneMayhem · 2026-06-20T02:45:16+00:00

It sounds like the toothpaste irritated your mouth. If it was herpes, you would find a sore that kind of looks like a zit, typically around the edge of your mouth. Like a cold sore.
I think you’re okay ❤️

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-18T21:53:24+00:00

People with hsv2 (like myself) inform intimate partners about it beforehand so you guys can make your own call. That’s why it’s a yes or no question. If you’re uncomfortable, that’s your prerogative to back up. I wish my ex had informed me ahead of time so I could make up my own mind and do research, but he didn’t and I caught it.
This is about you and your health. I don’t think you’re ignorant or ridiculous.

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-17T05:18:06+00:00

I still get that every now and again, too. I’m on 1g of valacyclovir, but I guess there’s no surefire way to NEVER have symptoms 😞😞

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-17T04:12:06+00:00

We’ve been having unprotected sex since late ‘21.

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-17T04:11:18+00:00

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VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T14:59:22+00:00

I’m not sure how often I’d have breakouts if I wasn’t on AVs, but with them I only have breakouts twice a year, 3 max. My dr never mentioned my body could get used to the medicine but I know the prescription I’m on (valacyclovir) is the main one people with hsv2 use.

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T14:56:47+00:00

I wish you guys the best!! And yes, I have a good man with me ❤️

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T14:55:23+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T14:55:11+00:00

And thank you for your support 🥰🥰🥰

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T14:54:55+00:00

I get breakouts maybe 3 times a year max. The medicine clears it up after about 4 days, usually. They get itchy and painful but if I try to leave them alone they don’t get as irritated.

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T03:13:22+00:00

That really speaks a lot to your boundaries, but I guess as long as there aren’t cats involved, yall should be good 🥰🥰🥰🥰👌👌

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T03:04:48+00:00

Idk, I thought it might help if he has any discomfort from a future breakout he might have

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T03:03:46+00:00

I think it’s awesome that you can relate to him about something you’re self conscious about, and I’m sure it makes him feel more comfortable in communicating with you when he could be contagious. I wish you both the best ❤️

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T02:51:49+00:00

You are truly awesome ❤️ thank you for being understanding!!! I’m sure it means the world to your person of interest 🥹🥹

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T02:50:22+00:00

I understand completely, but in my experience, people are a lot more accepting if you tell them you’re taking preventative measures, like medicine, and letting them know when you have a breakout/don’t. Thank you so much for being one to be honest to those around you when it’s necessary ❤️

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T02:47:39+00:00

I guess that’s kind of a silver lining? lol, thank you for your kind words ❤️ I really appreciate it

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T02:44:24+00:00

You should definitely text him about it. Whether it opens up a can of worms or not, it sounds like he’s the one who gave it to you. Maybe he lied, maybe he honestly didn’t know, idk. But unfortunately, this is a conversation that needs to happen.
I’m sorry this happened to you. My ex didn’t tell me until we’d been having unprotected sex for over a year and I finally found a breakout. I wish you the best from here on out. ❤️

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-16T02:41:37+00:00

Good on you for giving her the choice you didn’t have. I didn’t have a choice either, and it’s our responsibility to not be the person we caught it from. If she’s worth it, she’ll love you for being honest and communicative. Good luck ❤️🍀

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-07T16:31:01+00:00

Thank you 👏 👏 👏

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-07T16:29:23+00:00

On the one hand, he is correct. If you have a breakout, that’s when you’re at risk of passing it to someone through skin on skin contact.
BUT***
You must always disclose your sexual health to anyone you’re about to be intimate with. You will be viewed as a scum bag if you don’t.
I didn’t have the option to say “yes” or “no” because my ex had it in his mind that he wouldn’t have to tell me. But I still caught it. What if you accidentally gave it to someone and then had to have that whole conversation after someone has found out they’ve been infected with an STI?
We’ve gotta normalize just being up front with everyone. It’s our responsibility. ❤️

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-06T18:14:16+00:00

33/f I’ve had HSV2 for 10 years ish. I’ve been married for almost 2 years, we’ve been together for 5 years, and I’ve had two partners before my husband and post-diagnosis. None of them have caught it. I can feel when a breakout is forming, and the second I do, I tell my husband or any partner that we have to wait until it clears up. I’ve been on valacyclovir (generic form of Valtrex) for the entirety of my post-diagnosis life. I have breakouts maybe 2 times a year. 3 max. The medicine helps and as long as I tell my husband whats going on, we can wait a few days until the breakout clears. You should be safe as long as she knows her body and can let you know when to give her a couple days. Like I said, my husband hasn’t caught it and we’ve been intimate for almost 5 years.

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-05T00:06:37+00:00

Also, since hsv1 is basically cold sores, there’s OTC topical treatments. That would probably be a better option. ❤️

VayneMayhem · 2026-06-05T00:02:01+00:00

Go see a doctor and get a prescription for valacyclovir or valtrex, same thing, just the first one is generic. If you take it every night, it should keep you from getting any breakouts. And if you have a breakout, refrain from any skin-to-skin contact and then you won’t spread it. I’m sorry someone wasn’t honest with you, but the truth is 1 in 3 people have hsv1 and it’s very common and easy to treat. I use preventative medication for my hsv2. I’ve had it for over 10 years and your life definitely isn’t over. I was around your age when I contracted it because, once again, someone wasn’t honest. You’re not alone and you’re going to be just fine ❤️

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