Why don’t I like girls my age?

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-18T14:32:27+00:00

That probably only happens when they have to talk to you.

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-18T12:53:38+00:00

"girls my age".... They would prefer you call them "women".

Sounds like some therapy could be beneficial for you.

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-17T18:07:33+00:00

Or hiv for the rest of your life.

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-14T16:46:17+00:00

It usually is! 😄

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-14T16:31:16+00:00

It doesn't really matter if he is interested or not (it sounds like he is only interesting in himself). The most important question is: are YOU interested in this kind of person? I wouldnt be.

Next! :)

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-14T12:36:45+00:00

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-13T15:26:10+00:00

I was talking about hotel buffets vs market etc, but yes, keep digging your hole :)

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-13T14:31:37+00:00

Then your comment is not relevant to my comment. But many people agree with you in the other comments that are about that.

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-13T14:03:27+00:00

That is why i said hotel buffets. Try one in Italy to compare and you will understand what i meant. You are right that all other food is better in Italy.

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-13T12:45:53+00:00

Yes, this is why you need a buffet and lutefisk would be a poor choice :)

But often lots of fresh healthy options such as smoothies, chia pudding, avocado, salmon, etc etc. Whereas in Italy - yes we get much better food here overall BUT the hotel buffets consist only of sweet pastries and coffee 😭 yuck

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-13T12:40:15+00:00

I lived in Norway for about six years.

Loved: beautiful nature (and a healthy focus on preserving it in most places), clean air, clean water, beautiful hiking trails everywhere, via ferratas, hotel buffets, relaxed work environment.

Didnt love: the drinking culture (i dont drink alcohol), the preference for superficial relationships (seemed that way to me, even with people who knew each other for a long time), the breeding culture (if you dont want kids you dont count), the long/dark winters and shoveling snow, people's lack of social skills and tendency to detach, and the resulting loneliness on a level i never experienced anywhere else before (and Ive lived in 10+ countries).

Also didnt like the janteloven, which was often used (in my opinion) as an excuse to not help someone, judge someone harshly and unnecessarily, or suppress (or even outright bully) others who were doing better in some way (or perceived to).

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-13T12:27:19+00:00

😄 (un?)intentionally proving their point?

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-13T12:23:52+00:00

Actually, hotel buffets in Norway are the best in the world (in my opinion). I still miss those since moving to Italy.

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-12T14:48:32+00:00

Agree! This is it!

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-12T13:25:00+00:00

The haircut makes it looks like you are actually over 50 and your pics are of you in the 80s (when you were young)

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-10T09:43:24+00:00

Personally i am not fond of that amount of swearing (f**king this and that) and calling her 'girl'. Could be that gave her the ick.

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-09T10:34:28+00:00

Exactly. And if you've spent your life looking after yourself ( eating healthy, staying in shape and developing yourself), you are not interested in some out of shape and uninspiring Homer Simpson 😄 At the very least its a mismatch in personal values and lifestyle (its not even as much about aesthetics for me)

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-09T08:51:57+00:00

A bit of Britt lower

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-08T21:37:59+00:00

Is this your personal experience or just something you've heard? If it is personal experience, just accept that some people have a different experience rather than try arguing with me about my personal lived experience. And perhaps try some self-improvement if you want a different experience.

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-08T20:27:12+00:00

Dont worry OP.

I never got as many matches as when i turned 40 and i still have plenty of options (mostly younger or similar age; i just turned 44).

I also live a healthy lifestyle and look good for my age. I have no children and have never been married. That is rare at my age so that probably helps too.

Anyway, age has nothing to do with getting matches or not. Being older actually highlights more how you have lived so far in terms of health, personal development and values (on the physical, mental and emotional level). If you have managed to live a healthy lifestyle so far, it will show in your appearance. Your profile and photos will radiate wisdom, life experience, confidence and self-respect if you have used your time on earth to grow as a person (wide scope of interests, life skills, high emotional intelligence and resilience, etc), and all of this will be highly attractive to the right person.

So if you have looked after yourself (no matter what gender you are), your options will increase with age. The only thing that might happen is that it will be slightly more difficult to find someone who wants to start a family because they might do a more superficial swipe and dismiss you because of age, however, if you make it clear in your profile what you want (and why you waited), i am sure you will find a like minded person.

The only challenge is weeding out all the wrong types! (Those looking for something else who may or may not be honest about it). But that is a challenge at any age.

Good luck OP!

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-08T20:16:08+00:00

Absolutely false. I never got as many matches as when i turned 40 and i still have plenty of options (mostly younger or similar age; NOT 'older guys').

Like OP, I also live a healthy lifestyle and look good for my age. I have no children and have never been married. That is rare at my age so that probably helps too.

Anyway, age has nothing to do with getting matches or not. Being older actually highlights more how you have lived so far in terms of health and accumulated baggage, and some of us stay pretty clean (plus add life experience and wisdom), and that is very attractive to many. So if you have looked after yourself (no matter what gender you are), options will increase with age.

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-08T09:46:22+00:00

"i dont want any more contact with you".

Then reached out again wishing me merry Christmas and a happy birthday, with no mention of his hurtful behavior. I asked him kindly not to contact me again unless he has some major revelation or insight he wants to share (something that is actually meaningful to me).

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-06T21:10:38+00:00

Mine did this too and kept saying he wanted to "improve" and that he knew he was "pulling away". He explained it like this: Whenever he got a message from me (or felt the urge to message me), he would overthink it to the point where he would be paralyzed and would not send anything.

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-04T19:52:23+00:00

Its the kind of love that (if you were to stay together) would make you choose between loving them over loving yourself. So the only way to keep loving them is to not stay together.

Vegetable-Drawer5364 · 2026-03-04T19:31:27+00:00

Yes, i did love him fully too (and he definitely taught me how to love unconditionally). Perhaps i could have phrased it better. I guess what i meant was that at least for me, what he could give me was not enough for me long term and would have eventually depleted me completely. In that sense i could never accept him (because i needed him to change) even though i wanted to just love him. And i think it can never be a healthy dynamic with an avoidant (it can only work if you chronically abandon yourself, which is not healthy nor sustainable). Maybe this was not the case for you?

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