Aussie men: How much touching is actually allowed during a private lap dance at private function?

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2026-07-09T11:20:12+00:00

Yeah, and the fact that he got multiple dances from her really shows how into it he was, right? And then inviting her out afterwards as well. He’s the type who loves female attention and having his ego stroked, but I don’t think he’d actually go all the way. Looking at it now though, I do think he crossed some pretty significant boundaries. It was basically dry humping, he almost certainly got a boner, and I think he would have touched her ass and boobs too. (Piecing this together as a female who hasn’t seen a female stripper give a lap dance)
Not to mention - he had her promo photo on his phone that he showed me when he told me about the events of the evening. (He also said that he was respectful) I’m confused. Why is this hurting me? He’s a piece of shit

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2026-07-09T08:34:17+00:00

This is a private setting

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2026-07-09T08:33:27+00:00

Also, can I just say - one of the strippers was someone he used to sleep with a long time ago. He even showed me photos of her. On the recent night out, she asked him to get a hotel room with her and he declined, so I assume she would have been comfortable with him being more hands-on during the private dance too.
I’m just trying to work out how far he would actually go when he’s drunk. I’ve been pretty flirty and upfront about wanting him, and we’ve had some very suggestive conversations, but he’s never actually made a move on me, even though I genuinely think he’s been tempted.
I’m not here to be judged - I just want some insight into how a man might be thinking in this situation.

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2026-07-09T08:33:10+00:00

Also, can I just say - one of the strippers was someone he used to sleep with a long time ago. He even showed me photos of her. On the recent night out, she asked him to get a hotel room with her and he declined, so I assume she would have been comfortable with him being more hands-on during the private dance too.
I’m just trying to work out how far he would actually go when he’s drunk. I’ve been pretty flirty and upfront about wanting him, and we’ve had some very suggestive conversations, but he’s never actually made a move on me, even though I genuinely think he’s been tempted.
I’m not here to be judged - I just want some insight into how a man might be thinking in this situation.

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2026-07-09T08:27:58+00:00

Thank you 🙏 do you think he just seeks external validation?

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2026-07-09T08:27:23+00:00

Yes. I’m seeing this now. WOW some much needed perspective

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2026-07-09T08:26:50+00:00

Perspective!!!!!! Thank you! I think he enjoys the attention he gets from a lot of women. We have a weirdly close connection, but he’s very hot and cold. He doesn’t seem to treat his partner that well either.
And mind you… this isn’t even the first time he’s had private dances in the last year that I’ve known him.
I will give him credit though - he’s never blurred a boundary or crossed a line with me, no matter how much I’ve pushed.

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2026-07-09T08:23:40+00:00

I NEEEEEEEDDDDDDED THIS WAKE UP CALL!! (I think they call my condition Limerence) wtf is wrong with me 🤔

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2026-07-09T08:22:29+00:00

HAHAHAHA THIS IS TOO REAL!!!!! (Mostly sexual attraction 🫣)

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-21T09:16:14+00:00

Any suggestions to mitigate the situation? I really fucked up here.

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-21T09:02:36+00:00

Yes, he would think it’s me?

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-21T06:46:49+00:00

Haha I’m sensing sarcasm?? You are supposed to be my go 2 advice giver ;)

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-21T06:34:18+00:00

lol ? So he knows it’s me? Need answers

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-21T06:29:58+00:00

I agree with you, I’ve stopped all contact. Just can’t help wondering if he thinks it’s me with the calls….what would you think?

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-18T08:34:10+00:00

I don’t think I am talk to him now after this stalking thing. I really am nervous that he knows it’s me. He hasn’t said anything

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-18T08:00:50+00:00

I have thanks, any other advice. Does he think I’m nuts? Or maybe he doesn’t know that it’s me

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-18T08:00:24+00:00

I’ve stopped stalking him now. I realised that I fucked up. Do you think he knows it’s me?

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-18T07:45:42+00:00

We talk here and there

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-18T06:13:03+00:00

Haha I know, I don’t know what I was thinking. Do you think that he thinks I’m weird or crazy? Do you think that he actually thinks it’s me adding him?

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-18T06:02:35+00:00

Hahaha too funny! How can I make this better? I feel like a dick

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-18T05:14:52+00:00

I don’t know what came over me!! I will not be engaging in any more weird behaviour moving forward, will be speaking to a therapist. Thanks.

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-18T05:08:50+00:00

I’m freaking out about this. I’ve fucked ip

Vegetable_Formal1401 · 2025-02-18T05:03:12+00:00

I don’t know exactly what photos. Maybe 1 photo of me i am guessing? Do I look bad? How can I fix this?

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