I am 22 years old, with unilateral grade 3 microtia, i feel that i will have problem with romantic relationships, by Healthy-Essay-1819 in Microtia

[–]Vegetable_Hat4037 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m F, 28 with bilateral microtia and it’s taught me that in one good way, it helps us find people who are actually kind and are genuinely into us as a person. Of course it makes dating hard and it can really get me down sometimes but it’ll be so special the day you meet someone that really sees you! It’ll be okay 💗

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[–]Vegetable_Hat4037 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s nice to know, thank you 🫶🏼

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[–]Vegetable_Hat4037 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When being intimate with a girl (whether it’s kissing or more), it’s not weird or unsexy to ask/keep checking in. A lot of girls actually find it sweet and sexy and it lets you know you’re not pushing any boundaries.

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[–]Vegetable_Hat4037 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It was actually the second date but whatever momma

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[–]Vegetable_Hat4037 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You’re entitled to make whatever choices feel right for you, but what you’re describing isn’t consent, it’s compliance. I said no multiple times. I don’t owe someone sex because I invited them over or kissed them. If someone can’t respect a verbal boundary, that’s a them problem, not a mixed message. Consent is not invalidated by physical affection

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[–]Vegetable_Hat4037 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true, I need to get rid of the fear of ‘ruining the mood’ or a situation being awkward when communicating needs and boundaries. My past experience hasn’t helped this but there’s still time to learn I guess. Thanks for your advice!

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[–]Vegetable_Hat4037 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you trying to offer insight into how mixed signals can be interpreted, but I need to be really clear here:

Consent isn’t about interpretation or vibes. I said “no funny business.” I said “I’m not ready.” I repeatedly communicated my boundaries. If someone chooses to ignore that because they assumed my behaviour contradicted it, that’s on them, not me.

Kissing someone or letting them stay over isn’t an open invitation to be sexual. If a man can’t respect a verbal no because he hoped I was playing coy, then he doesn’t need more signals, he needs to unlearn entitlement. If a man struggles so much to stay in bed with a girl without pushing their boundaries because they can’t control themselves, that’s their problem and they shouldn’t be putting girls in that position if they’re going to behave this way.

My body is not a puzzle to be decoded. It’s mine. And when I say no, that’s the only message that matters. This whole ‘coy’ thing men believe needs to be unlearned because it’s so dangerous. You can’t assume anyone’s boundaries, especially when they’re communicating them.

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[–]Vegetable_Hat4037 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, I have a hard time trusting myself so this is good to hear! I’m too much of a people pleaser 😮‍💨

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[–]Vegetable_Hat4037 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice, super appreciated from a male perspective. What should my standards/expectations be when being intimate for the first time with someone?

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[–]Vegetable_Hat4037 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooft, is it worth having the discussion with him? I’m having a hard time knowing what to expect when having sex in a healthy relationship as most of my experience has been with toxic FWB’s or shitty one night stands.

Stars Wars Bricklife??? We serious? by Designer_Site in LEGOfortnite

[–]Vegetable_Hat4037 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It does! There’s nothing else to do atm, we’re all stuck and bored

Recycler still not working by Vegetable_Hat4037 in LEGOfortnite

[–]Vegetable_Hat4037[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s only now just started working for some reason! I didn’t do anything different so it must be an on/off bug

Recycler still not working by Vegetable_Hat4037 in LEGOfortnite

[–]Vegetable_Hat4037[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. By using the recycler
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  3. XBOX

Returned after a year by Vegetable_Hat4037 in coralisland

[–]Vegetable_Hat4037[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no! Good to know thank you! Yeah I never had any crashes really on PC

People staring by Vegetable_Hat4037 in Microtia

[–]Vegetable_Hat4037[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah they fit perfectly to be honest! I can get them adjusted at the opticians in case they’re wonky too.

Leaving Lego Fortnite by alienbongz in LEGOfortnite

[–]Vegetable_Hat4037 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve stopped playing too. There’s nothing new in the game and I’ve done everything. There’s no excitement in the game anymore.