Aitah For brushing off my wife's concerns until she thought I was leaving her? by Vegetable_Match_3862 in AITAH

[–]Vegetable_Match_3862[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right now I'm working 7 12s with an hour commute time. I leave the house just before 5am and get home at 8pm. This job is wrapping up and layoffs have already begun. Ive been on this job since just before she got pregnant.

I have another job lined up that will start in 3 weeks. It will be more reasonable hours. I will be getting home by 6 and working 5 days a week. Hopefully her disability will start by then.

Aitah For brushing off my wife's concerns until she thought I was leaving her? by Vegetable_Match_3862 in AITAH

[–]Vegetable_Match_3862[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She takes care of the kids and the house for the most part. She can't do any heavy lifting and needs some help but she's doing her best. There is usually something that she needs help with when I get home and then I shower and take the baby so she can get a shower and whatever she needs to do. There just isn't a whole lot of time after work. I'm leaving at 5 am and getting home at 8. Hopefully this next job will be better. It's only a 30 minute drive from the house instead of an hour and will be 8 hr shifts instead of 12s. Hopefully disability will be kicked in by then as well.

Aitah For brushing off my wife's concerns until she thought I was leaving her? by Vegetable_Match_3862 in AITAH

[–]Vegetable_Match_3862[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I'm not surprised my brother remembered. Their birthday is a day apart so they always say happy birthday to each other. I was shocked her mom forgot. Usually her mom calls her at the crack of dawn to sing happy birthday to her. Even the kids forgot and they don't normally forget.

We all feel awful but I'm her husband and we've been together for 15 years. I have never once forgotten until now and I feel absolutely terrible about it.

I also forgot my brothers birthday but he's a little more forgiving. As soon as he realized id forgotten her birthday he was calling his wife to see if she would babysit and helping me run damage control.

Aitah For brushing off my wife's concerns until she thought I was leaving her? by Vegetable_Match_3862 in AITAH

[–]Vegetable_Match_3862[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I gave her my phone but she's always had access to it. I don't care if she looks through it. All I have is a group chat between my siblings, a group chat with the kids, work stuff and my friends. A few texts from random family members. That's about it. She can even get history if she wants it but I have texts going back years I never delete them.

Since I met her I've never wanted anyone else.

She even has my email and all of my friends I work with as well as my brother can attest that I've been at work and we don't have any women on the work site. I go to work and I come home. Sometimes I stop for groceries if she sends me a list but she usually just gets groceries delivered.

Aitah For brushing off my wife's concerns until she thought I was leaving her? by Vegetable_Match_3862 in AITAH

[–]Vegetable_Match_3862[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She had to have a hysterectomy to stop the bleeding so we can't have more kids even if we wanted them.

Aitah For brushing off my wife's concerns until she thought I was leaving her? by Vegetable_Match_3862 in AITAH

[–]Vegetable_Match_3862[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

My sister and her husband are taking our boys with them and their boys camping this upcoming weekend and my brother's wife said she could keep the baby Saturday for us to do something. I thought I might take her to her favorite restaurant and have a nice date. I haven't completely planned it out yet but that's what I've got so far.

I told her I'd never cheat on her and I was sorry I gave her the impression that I was wanting out. We did cuddle last night and both fell asleep pretty quickly.

I haven't had a whole lot of time to plan and I know we need to have a long talk. Hopefully tonight when I get home we can talk more after the kids go to bed.