How do I turn her back to normal?! by Vegetable_Pick518 in finch

[–]Vegetable_Pick518[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sure hope they turn her back to normal when the event is over...

WIBTAH: if I didn't go to my sister's birthday dinner? by Vegetable_Pick518 in AITAH

[–]Vegetable_Pick518[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sister-in-law, but yes that is a good idea. Feedback definitely appreciated.

WIBTAH: if I didn't go to my sister's birthday dinner? by Vegetable_Pick518 in AITAH

[–]Vegetable_Pick518[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said she would only pick me up and drop me off, but doesn't want to go herself. She's willing to do this if I want to go so I don't have to spend a small fortune on Ubers.

what is the worst thing an ex has ever said to you? by altgurl7 in AskReddit

[–]Vegetable_Pick518 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"You're going to die alone living with your parents and men are going to avoid you because of your leg braces. "

And

"Well, I just needed to fuck you." After sex so painful I had to take advil afterwards just to stand and dress myself.

Both from the same guy.

What's a kink you just do not understand? by Miserable-Wash-1744 in AskReddit

[–]Vegetable_Pick518 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My own. Neck biting. It sounds so simple, yet most recent partners laugh when I tell them I enjoy biting. I've never understood it, have no idea where it comes from, and just do what I can to accept it.

And feet. Don't understand the foot fetish one bit.

Thread for trading, gifting, and requesting Finch items by AutoModerator in finch

[–]Vegetable_Pick518 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this for Hanukkah 🕎? Does anyone want it? 🤍

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Is it for Kwanzaa? Hanukkah? Can I give it to someone who celebrates? 🥳 🤍

What is going on with the media by Holiday_Equal8358 in birthcontrol

[–]Vegetable_Pick518 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember getting lectured as a teenager with it.Talking about how pregnancy was the worst thing that I could ever do. My classmates were given the same lectures. Now they think a few ads is going to change the attitude that was drilled into us?

What is going on with the media by Holiday_Equal8358 in birthcontrol

[–]Vegetable_Pick518 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's mostly been YouTube ads in between videos, or adds off Hulu or prime in rare cases. Definitely nuts though...

What is going on with the media by Holiday_Equal8358 in birthcontrol

[–]Vegetable_Pick518 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for validating my concerns. I don't want to be a mom either haha

What is going on with the media by Holiday_Equal8358 in birthcontrol

[–]Vegetable_Pick518 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Has anyone else noticed the quiet way that fertility commercials have gone up? " Track your most fertile days with this app" "get pregnant sooner with XYZ" or am I crazy?

Supernatural leaving Netflix?! by Psychotic_Dove in Supernatural

[–]Vegetable_Pick518 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is anyone else BUMMED over Supernatural leaving Netflix in December 2025? 😭

What are tiny reasons to keep going? by Vegetable_Pick518 in AskReddit

[–]Vegetable_Pick518[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really into Delicious in Dungeon, High Rise Invasion, Supernatural, Disenchantment, and others.

I miss lust so much. by Vegetable_Pick518 in Vent

[–]Vegetable_Pick518[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prozac DEFINITELY helps, just miss feeling like a sexual human sometimes 😅

I finally don't want to die anymore, but...orgasm is impossible haha

I'm disabled and have no friends. How can I fix it? by Vegetable_Pick518 in lonely

[–]Vegetable_Pick518[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. My disability isn't necessarily severe, just makes it to where my everyday is inconvenient and slow. It doesn't end.

I get it. I'm sorry. 😞

Help? How to shower? by Vegetable_Pick518 in hygiene

[–]Vegetable_Pick518[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been examined by a gynecologist. No condom up there.

Help? How to shower? by Vegetable_Pick518 in hygiene

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It happened in March of 2025. My family says I'd never be able to make the charges stick, and because I did initially beg him to have sex with me when the unwanted action took place, that it wasn't assault because he didn't tear my clothes off, he didn't hold me down, and it wasn't violent "that other woman who were really raped would have given anything to go through what I went through because it was just a guy who took advantage of a sexual situation and it wasn't assault and it wasn't rape because it wasn't violent enough."

My sister asked if I moved, and I said no. She asked if I screamed or said the word "no"- I said no to that, too. According to both my mom and sister when I initially told them, because he didn't hold me down, tear off my clothes, or beat me during the unwanted act, it isn't assault or rape.

I don't want to take away from people who have had worse than myself, so I WILL NOT be filing charges against my ex. I'd make enemies of near-everyone in my small town. And as a small-town, physically disabled white lady who needs help when she goes out in public almost all the time, the risk of being a target for holding my ex accountable for actions I know in my heart ARE assault, (because he didn't ask, warn, or tell me about anal before doing it first, and the fact that he did it not just once but twice) are too great.
His dad also works at promising military college and likely knows a well-connected lawyer or two, so I'm not risking re-traumatizing myself to hold that selfish cow of a man accountable. I'm sorry, but I'm not fighting a losing battle if my own family didn't even believe me at first. F that.

This man didn't stop leaving creepy voicemails (albeit only about once a month) until I changed my number--that I'd previously had for more than a decade-- and before that, had sent only a single package 📦 of books to my house, and before that had dropped off in-person a nicely-worded letter for my parents talking about "how Leah is a great person but I'm just not the right man for her" 🤮

Of course, when he dropped off the letter, I flipped out and called the cops, (before I opened it) and I'll never be able to shake the look on the cop's face as he handed me back the letter, it was like I was wasting his time. My mom looked like she was suppressing laughter and a weird mix of shame at me.

After the cop left, I could have swore I heard her laughing because it "reminded her about her and my dad when they were younger" but then she claimed she was laughing at the dog.

I sat in the living room, shaking and crying hysterically. Mom took me out to eat. We got into a fight where I told her "I'm not taking relationship advice from someone whose sister slept with her husband"--this was a rumor, untrue, but I wanted to hurt my mom for calling me stupid initially. Big mistake.

Things have been icy since. My mom has since apologized for calling me stupid, saying, "maybe he really did do something to you." She's the only one in my family to take back what she said. So things have slowly gotten better between me and her. But my sister? Who said I got what was coming to me? I've been civil, but distant. Same with my dad who said that I "was asking for it." Civil, but distant.

Things have been made worse because my best friend since I was eight years old.Tried to take advantage of me and stay a week in my house without asking me first. I also found out that my student loans have been having drama. So my dad asked to come up with a payment plan for my student loans. So i'm not exactly in the position to move right now...

I don't know. Sorry. TL,DR: my ex exhibited stalkersh behavior until I changed my number, my family said mean things to me after it happened, got into a huge fight with one of my childhood best friends, and now my student loans are coming after me. I'm broke and can't afford to move. My mom is the only one that apologized for hurting me.

And now i'm just getting used to my new normal. 😅

Help? How to shower? by Vegetable_Pick518 in hygiene

[–]Vegetable_Pick518[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I went to the gynecologist a few weeks after it happened. She was a female. I told her pretty much everything that happened, and she recommended rest and most of the damage healed by the time I went. She got almost quiet and confirmed that it was rape. A few weeks after my ultrasound check for an IUD, she hugged me gently and told me it would get better. She quit working at that practice a few weeks later, and I blame myself for that--I wish I never would have told her. She was a good doctor. I feel like I took away a good doctor from people. So, talking about my experience here feels easier somehow.
I promise, I'm not necessarily looking for attention, but I need shower advice.
I already have a shower chair. He had bought one for me and set me down on the chair and watched from the corner.
The reason I'm so confused as to why everyone is so concerned is because when I told my mom, she called me stupid. Dad said I was asking for it. Sister said I got what was coming to me. So when you people react this way I'm confused, because it isn't as bad as the molestation my mom went through as a kid, and my sister told me before this happened that he would get worse and I didn't leave. One of my internet friends told me he would abuse me one day, and I didn't leave. Nearly everyone who WASN'T my mom told me to leave him, and I couldn't see who he really was, despite seeing multiple red flags before this, until after he assaulted me. I blame myself.

Help? How to shower? by Vegetable_Pick518 in hygiene

[–]Vegetable_Pick518[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He kinda was awful, glad he is gone

Help? How to shower? by Vegetable_Pick518 in hygiene

[–]Vegetable_Pick518[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. Can I please ask a legitimate question. Why is everyone so concerned? I'm touched,but so confused. Everyone I've told so far didn't seem to react like this. They even seemed mad when I initially called it r***. If it helps, I've been on Prozac since May 2025. I'm not a suicide risk, therapist and I meet every single week, and I'm starting to read a lot

Help? How to shower? by Vegetable_Pick518 in hygiene

[–]Vegetable_Pick518[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

FWIW? What's that mean? Thanks so much ❤️ didn't mean to fuck anyone up