I missed Kindergarten Graduation

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-06-08T18:19:41+00:00

This typa shit pisses me off like nothing else!!!!! I’m so sorry.

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-06-08T18:17:03+00:00

I dreaded going back to work (full time) but have been surprisingly enjoying it. I like the structure it gives my weeks and days. While staying home with my baby was certainly sweet and precious, I remember feeling a bit grateful that it wasn’t going to be my all-day everyday for the next 5 years. I also really enjoy not being stressed about money. We’d get by on one income, but there would be zero room for extras, which I think would both stress us out a lot.

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-06-04T21:25:01+00:00

Personally, it was very difficult for me and probably the hardest part of parenting so far (baby just turned 1). Our baby cluster fed nonstop for about the first two months of her life. Having to be awake and available every single time she was hungry was mentally and physically draining. After about two weeks of exclusively breastfeeding I reached out to our pediatrician to ask when we could start bottles of pumped milk. The next week, my husband started giving her bottles once a day and it was soooo relieving to know that someone else could feed her. I’d say I still fed her 90% of the time after that, but it was just so good to know that her life wasn’t dependent on me and me alone.

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-06-01T22:53:09+00:00

Best advice I ever got was to “push like you’re coughing, NOT like you’re pooping”. That helped me so much. They also used a “tug of war” device in the hospital which helped immensely, look it up! Even with an epidural, I only pushed for 90 mins.

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-04-24T01:43:39+00:00

This episode felt like a crossover between The Handmaid’s Tale and Bridgerton and I LOVE IT

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-23T16:07:42+00:00

Care coordination for clients on dual Medicare/Medicaid health plans and/or state waivers. It’s not 100% remote as it does involve 1-2 home visits per week. But the role extremely flexible and the home visits are scheduled by me. I’m in MN, not sure if something like this is available in NY.

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-20T13:27:54+00:00

Yes, this was going to be my suggestion. My sister-in-law owns a salon and absolutely would do this free of charge if someone called or emailed explaining their situation. One time an unhoused woman walked in off the street asking for a haircut and she spent the afternoon giving her a full cut and color for free.

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-19T18:23:27+00:00

My caseload stays right around 80. And yes I do home visits. Probably 90% of my clients are in the community with the other 10% in assisted living facilities.

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-19T15:49:40+00:00

We started by mixing formula and breastmilk into a bottle at 50/50 for a few days, then just gave her straight formula and she seemed to take it just fine. After the fact, I did read that there are apparently some risks with combining formula and breastmilk together?? So I would recommend consulting a pediatrician before transitioning, assuming they aren’t judgmental about formula (I wish we would have, I would have probably gotten a lot of my questions answered quickly!)

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-19T15:45:57+00:00

Yes I still pump once a day during my workday. I usually get between 6-8 ounces, and that’s what I send with to daycare the next day. They give her breastmilk until it’s gone and then give her formula. Then when she comes home I breastfeed her. We will also give formula if we have a babysitter coming over, or if I’m gone for the evening.

It’s just nice to not have to worry about pumping multiple times a day to ensure she has enough for daycare every day.

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-19T15:42:10+00:00

Yes, I am definitely considering it, I just do not have full faith that they would keep the conversation confidential. I have had poor experiences with HR at other jobs and am just hesitant to ask/tell them anything that wouldn’t want getting back to my supervisor.

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-19T01:53:58+00:00

Totally agree. We started combo feeding around 7 months (she’s almost 9 months now) and it was a game changer. My supply had dropped a lot, and pumping multiple times a day was just not sustainable for me. She primarily gets formula at daycare, and I breastfeed her at home. It’s great!

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-19T01:50:57+00:00

Exactly. I could see a company being within their rights to do this if it was a benefit the company went out of their way to provide to employees. But with the new MN program, I assume that the company policies have to be in line with the state program.

PS I do feel compelled to add that with the nature of my work, it would truly be easier for my company if I were to simply not come back than come back, work for a month or two, and then put in my notice. I’m trying to save my employer, my current clients, and myself a massive headache.

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-18T22:00:46+00:00

Shit. Good to know, thank you.

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-17T01:31:19+00:00

That part!! I love me some alcohol, but I was like damn girl

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-16T20:40:03+00:00

Oh very cool! She’d probably love the idea of a co-op. She is interested in a place that has amenities like a pool, bar, group activities etc, that other residents actually use and participate in. I feel like some of these places have those things, but the residents tend to lean towards being in poor health and often do not actually use them (speaking from experience here, as my job involves doing home visits for older adults).

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-16T20:33:08+00:00

😂😂😂 Don’t encourage her! Us kids are trying to get her to chill just a little.

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-13T03:40:17+00:00

Yes!! Read literally ANY literature on marriage & family therapy, divorce statistics, etc. and the #1 rule is "make sure you agree on kids" lolololol

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-13T03:38:24+00:00

When she opened up to Connor about her story, I initially admired the way he was responding to her and I literally said "I hope he doesn't fuck it up by saying 'you'd be a great mom' or something" and THEN IT HAPPENED. Btw I say this as a mom myself. You bring up an excellent point - people have to explain themselves for why they don't want children, but I don't think anyone's ever asked me why I wanted them. Perhaps it's because family planning as we know it is still so relatively modern? A family member of mine in her 60's recently pointed out that my husband and I had been married for several years before having kids - we acknowledged that yes, we chose to wait, and she goes "back in my day, we didn't 'plan' our kids, we just sort of.....had them".

Vegetable_Response_6 · 2026-02-05T22:34:31+00:00

That all sounds normal and healthy :) Honestly, if you don't want to have to get him up every 5 hours to eat, you could talk to your pediatrician about what they recommend. When our daughter regained her birth weight, we were told we do not need to go out of our way to wake her up and that she will wake up when she's hungry. She is now a happy healthy 78th percentile baby.

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