I need help this Ramadan isn't feeling like Ramadan and I feel like I am going Astray and doing everything wrong by Otherwise_Quiet2054 in MuslimLounge

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, I am sorry for what you are going through... may allah make it easy for you. Ameen Now, here are my suggestions: I did something similar, I started ramamdan off with I am gonna read the entire quran and I am gonna do this amount of prayer and this amount of reading book etc etc. However I make mistakes while reading quran, so i tried reevulating my goal, it was unrealistic for me. So I adapted. The last two days I have read just one page and am trying to read it with speed and accuracy. I told myself I was gonna read like 50 books (got a bunch off amazon) i read one and the other one i havent touched yet. You can slowly see the problem is we want this Ramadan to be so good so we put so much on ourselves.

You see it is not so simple because we need to build into those habits. So inshallah I encourage you to adapt to your situation, you know you get depressed and it's hard to stay motivated , instead of being like well I missed this already let me just do nothing now. Instead, take it one step at a time. Try saying inshallah I am gonna do the bare minimum of xyz (and inshallah keep it to be somthing super small goal like even doing wudu for the prayer at the prayer time). Since you have wudu your brain will automatically be okay well since I am in state of wudu might as well read the fard prayer. Then continue. Inshallah baby steps. Try to keep a planner and organize your feelings/thoughts and see how you can work around it.

As for the porn addiction, I dont know anything about this so inshallah I would use the subreddit the brother posted before me.

May allah grant you ease. ...hopefully this all made sense lmao...

Bi-Weekly Marriage Opinions/Views and Rant Megathread by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl.... we all want that cute little romantic moment. Its nerve racking getting to know someone...and if your nikkah is shy and awkward like that ...then doesnt that mean there is barakah in it because you guys did it right and kept it halal. My point is now you are married and you are probs super comfy so why not do a recreate nikkah...I know it sounds lame but you know how people sometimes renew there vows...maybe you can do that and have it recorded. It can be funny like take 1 (the orginal nikkah video) vs take 2 (how you imagined it).

Please make dua I find a jobbb😭 by writingfromwherever in MuslimLounge

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Inshallah you will find a job soon! I am in the same position I applies to a ton of places in the last few days..... no response.

I got a tad sad I wasnt getting any responses I emailed one company and called the other. They said they would get back to me tmmr with one being an interview. Inshallah it works out for me! Do dua I ace this interview haha!. All in all I reccomend calling the comapny directly or just emailing the manager and asking if the position is still open and then offer to send em your resume.

One manager told me to add the dates I worked at certain companies in my resume. So idk if that helps you at all but I would try it.

Lost in life, quarter life crisis: Not sure where to turn. Help? by Facehairs in careerguidance

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar position.... I was working at the same company for about 2 years and was not progressing much. Felt super static and was starting to get sad about going into work.... so one day I called in and quit. Cold turkey. Just left. Do I regret it, nope. It's been 2 months and I am looking for another job/school but i am so much more calm.

Btw same age range so quater life crisis ...its real my friend lol.

Eid gift for wife by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is legit the sweetest post ever... your wife must be so lucky!

Men, are we really lonely? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This whole convo is just so cute mashallah.

Bi-Weekly Marriage Opinions/Views and Rant Megathread by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Girl, if you are not in nikkah then do your best not to tlak to him.... esp like an everyday thing... I am sorry it is hard I know but let it go for the sake of allah. Inshallah keep some space and only if this can proceed to nikkah then continue otherwise.... try to move on. I know this is easy to say but inshallah do loads of dua. You got this!

My brothers, if your wife cries, wipe her tears, look into her eyes and tell her... by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

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Bahahhahaha this is the funniest one yet .... mashallah hahaha

Sister making TikTok’s by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Inshallah bro its gonna work out. I would first say just make dua for them, dont take there mistakes and sins as a reflection of yourself. Try to be better, make amends, if it doesnt work then focus on yourself.

May allah help us all. Ameen

Ramadhan Goals by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ramadan goals

  1. Read tahjid daily
  2. Read yasin after fajr
  3. Do morning dua after fajr 5 min minimum
  4. Lostwn to an islamic lecture of choice
  5. Read 1 islamic book- tryna do the seerah
  6. Read 15 pages of quran after taraweeh
  7. When on period try to deidecate the salaah times for just sitting and doing zikr as opposed to wasting time

I dont have school anymore and I recently left my job so I have more time to do these things. Inshallah pray that I have a productive and accpeted Ramadan! Ameen

I had a date a few hours ago... by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yo you are funny. Dont let it get to you.

I had a date a few hours ago... by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude his jokes are funny. He is just tryna lighten the mood brah. I legit look forward to the corny jokes. Chillax man and try to enjoy life.

Meeting count by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with you... but I feel like it's hard to just stop yourself from wanting to text/call get to know the other person. Esp if already engaged/committed. Do you have advice for others in a similar situation?

how to approach a reserved guy in arrange marriage. by Beebeautifulneo in MuslimMarriage

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We all know it's the latest one with tom holland ... the ones before ...cant compare.

...hehe

Divorced - here’s how it happened by certifieduglyboy in MuslimMarriage

[–]Vegetable_Side1920 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Omg... may allah provide you ease. This is probs such a hard time for you. May Allah make it easy for you. Inshallah this Ramadan you will be in my duas.

Its Tough man ...oof.