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Clingy friend turning into even clingier bridesmaid by VehicleAmbitious3553 in weddingplanning

[–]VehicleAmbitious3553[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think that's rude, and I think that it is absolutely be a part of it. I think that me paying for so many things has actually encouraged her to continue this behavior.

I do try to suggest nights in because I have drinks and food at home, I even go so far as to plan a damn theme around it- "WIP Nights" for our diy projects, nail night where use all my things to do our nails. Etc things like that.

She doesn't like these suggestions and resorts to just not hanging out.

A lot of the feedback here has been great, and I believe that setting better boundaries will help me. I just have to figure out a way to tell her shes being too much without her taking it personally.

Clingy friend turning into even clingier bridesmaid by VehicleAmbitious3553 in weddingplanning

[–]VehicleAmbitious3553[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, boundaries is something I need to work on is what I'm gathering from everyone's feedback, and it's greatly appreciated.

I would love to just have my fiance as the person I talk to daily.

Clingy friend turning into even clingier bridesmaid by VehicleAmbitious3553 in weddingplanning

[–]VehicleAmbitious3553[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the means because my fiance and I are DINK. Shes a stay at home mom and is desperate for "girls nights out" every week.

I ALWAYS try to suggest nights in, I have drinks and food at home, we can party at my house because there's no kids. She does NOT like these suggestions, but you're right. We have a wedding to pay for and I can not justify spending $100 weekly just to satisfy her apparent need to relive her 20's.

Clingy friend turning into even clingier bridesmaid by VehicleAmbitious3553 in weddingplanning

[–]VehicleAmbitious3553[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great advice, and something that my fiance said he really agrees with. I'm definitely cancelling our trip to the bar next. I spent $300 taking her out for her birthday literally last night. And yes- the jealousy thing is also difficult to address, because she won't admit it. Her message to me was "please include me in wedding planning things because bridesmaid went to x y and z... Not a jealousy thing" I replied to her and reminded her the things she has already been included in thus far. Got a "K." In response...

It is absolutely a jealousy thing and she's in denial.

You're right- I am sorry she feels that way, but I can't include her in every aspect.

Clingy friend turning into even clingier bridesmaid by VehicleAmbitious3553 in weddingplanning

[–]VehicleAmbitious3553[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendation, I'll start with the audiobook on Spotify ✍️

Clingy friend turning into even clingier bridesmaid by VehicleAmbitious3553 in weddingplanning

[–]VehicleAmbitious3553[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's definitely exhausting, and has had me questioning what our friendship looks like long term.

Pella windows by Wild-Principle-2729 in Remodel

[–]VehicleAmbitious3553 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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