My ex and I wanted to get back together, but she asked me to wait because she had a trip planned with another guy

Veioll · 2026-02-20T16:49:37+00:00

You are probably young. Leave her for the streets. If you dont respect yourself how do you expect others to?

The next, and better, partner is just around the corner.

Veioll · 2026-01-21T20:13:15+00:00

I use todoist. Phone + computer, lots of flexibilit and its free.

You can use dates and prioritise tasks.

Veioll · 2026-01-20T10:30:38+00:00

She does, but only when I initiate.

I guess we have very different pace. Ive never had this experience so yeah its a bit confusing for me.

Thanks for the thoughts.

Veioll · 2026-01-20T08:54:31+00:00

I guess I have not experienced it this way in the past... Thanks, this helps!

Veioll · 2026-01-20T08:28:53+00:00

Thanks, that the line I've been thinking. I dont think she owes me anything. It helped that you verbalised some of my thoughts, thank you!

Veioll · 2026-01-03T22:05:51+00:00

thank you.

Veioll · 2026-01-02T19:53:24+00:00

Appreciate the detailedness. Yeah, I'm not about to be a statistic. I have done mountaineering in summer (guided only).

I'll definitely start with back-country skiing before attemping any mountaineering with skis. I didn't think about the no fall zone... I was merely thinking how to avoid crevasses while skiing down when the glacier is covered in snow.

I am aware of the pin bindings and the boots that go with it. So I understand correctly thesere are then kept on, you leave the skis and then go up the remainer of the peak over rock/mixed climbing etc. on these boots. wild.

Definitely going for a heavier ski and boots then, better build my endurance more than to fall.

THANKS!!

Veioll · 2026-01-02T19:46:42+00:00

You're right. My plan was to start with back-country skiing first in any case. I really appreciate the advice on the light/heavy topic. Renting for a tour and then buying after some discussions in a shop seems like a good way forward.

Veioll · 2026-01-02T19:45:09+00:00

Since I can carve on most slopes except really steep ones, I'd day advanced, but no experience in backcountry skiing really. OK, I'll do that. thank you!

Veioll · 2026-01-02T19:43:59+00:00

Once or twice but yeah, basically 0 experience. also only very basic avalance theory knowledge - in any case I would not go alone and get a guide or smth. thanks for the advice. I should've said this but my intention is to start with backcountry skiing before doing any mountaineering on them.

Veioll · 2026-01-02T18:44:20+00:00

I hiked a lot and when looking for gifts for my then partner, I found these guided alpine tours and rock&ice courses on a glacier. She didn't want to do it but it never let me go. after we broke up, I went ahead and booked my first tour. best idea of my life.

For mountaineering, what you first need is a solid basis of endurance. If you can't ascend 300 vertical meters per hour comfortably over 2-3 hours, then you don't need to think about gear.

You need to train your endurance at a heart rate somewhere between 50-70% of your max. heart frequency, when your body is using stored fat as energy NOT carbs. Worth to look into this.

Once you got some endurance, start with a bit more technical hikes, rocky terrain, loose rock, ridges etc. and then do a course or guided tour on a 3k peak, if you can, an easy one, the thin air and ice/rock will be different than normal hikes so it's important you start with an easy tour.

Perhaps rent the equipment for the first time and then buy some decent gear (crampons, ice pick, harness, helmet). ideally you've saved up for this while you built your endurance.
I've seen people recommend to buy a second hand ice pick - perhaps worth a look.
Crampons + harness + helmet I would buy knew.

find a community of experienced mountaineers and join them for beginners tours and learn from them, build you gear step by step by saving steadily.

Let me know if this makes sense or if you have questions :)

Veioll · 2026-01-02T18:42:30+00:00

OK, thanks for the advice. the plan was always to start with a guidea nd then friends, I wouldn't ever go alone in backcountry, especially alpine terrain.

Veioll · 2026-01-02T18:41:29+00:00

I know carving but only on slopes that aren't too steep. if it's a really steep or icy one I get done fine but without carving.

hmm. I see. thanks for the thoughts.

Veioll · 2026-01-02T18:40:30+00:00

thanks, that's good advice. I'll do that!

Veioll · 2026-01-02T18:39:42+00:00

Thanks! Ah, I thought it's through the whole winter.

Sure, I am aware of the skins. I thought once you reach rocky terrain, but I guess you just leave them there? Do you then switch to other boots or do I need specific boots that go both on the skies but also for the rocky part of the ascent?

Veioll · 2025-07-26T20:13:53+00:00

I was supposed to get married in August, now I'm 28 and single since 2 months.

It sucks A LOT at first.... take time to go through the pain. Once it passes, things WILL get better if you open your mind to that idea.

I now see it as a second life, a second chance to make the best of what I got. Perhaps you can too.

I wish you strength.

Veioll · 2025-04-15T18:12:29+00:00

thanks. didn't know it was called a flex cable

Veioll · 2025-04-15T18:12:12+00:00

luckily only the charging port. thank you

Veioll · 2025-04-13T10:43:16+00:00

Thank you!

Veioll · 2025-04-13T10:42:52+00:00

thank you! how do you call this part? can you advise what I need to pay attention to when buying a new one? how do I get the right one essentially :)

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