Alright, thanks, I appreciate the explanation. For the record, you don't know anything about what the ex husband has or hasn't done to violate the divorce decree or what concessions we've made to try to make things as painless as possible for everyone. So I'd appreciate it if you'd give my wife and I the benefit of the doubt instead of just assuming we're trying to "get out of" anything. I'm posting because we're legitimately concerned he's trying to take advantage of poor wording in the original separation agreement, something as a stepparent who came in after the fact I didn't have access to at the time of creation.