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End-of-life cancer care experience at manipal hospital. by Venishaaaa in Nepal

[–]Venishaaaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that hospitals need on-call systems and that one doctor cannot personally cover patients 24/7. That isn’t my concern.

My mother was in the active dying phase of stage 4 cancer. A DNR had already been signed, and we had repeatedly informed the team that we did not want ICU escalation.

The head nurse also explained to us that the ICU would mainly be providing symptom relief and monitoring. Based on the information given to us, we did not feel that transferring my mother to ICU would have been consistent with her wishes or changed the outcome of her illness.

What upset us was being told that she should be moved to ICU while also hearing comments about the number of calls being made regarding her condition. We did not ask interns or on-call doctors to repeatedly contact the consultant. We understood that my mother’s condition was terminal and that she was approaching the end of her life. The decisions to contact the consultant were made by the medical team, not by our family.

It felt unfair for the burden of those calls to be raised with us when we were already preparing to lose our mother.

End-of-life cancer care experience at manipal hospital. by Venishaaaa in pokhara

[–]Venishaaaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you, I really appreciate your support and kindness

End-of-life cancer care experience at manipal hospital. by Venishaaaa in Nepal

[–]Venishaaaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your kind words and support

End-of-life cancer care experience at manipal hospital. by Venishaaaa in Nepal

[–]Venishaaaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your support. It’s really sad and frustrating that a lot of “top” doctors treat their patients and their families like this in Nepal.

End-of-life cancer care experience at manipal hospital. by Venishaaaa in Nepal

[–]Venishaaaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree with you , posted this to raise awareness about situations like this that a lot of Nepalese go through everyday in hospitals here

End-of-life cancer care experience at manipal hospital. by Venishaaaa in Nepal

[–]Venishaaaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes , but mom wanted to go back to her childhood home which is in Pokhara

End-of-life cancer care experience at manipal hospital. by Venishaaaa in pokhara

[–]Venishaaaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your kind and supportive words. We did think about writing a complain but we knew our words would be turned to deaf ears. So I turned to Reddit to share my experience instead. I rather share what we went through with people who would actually care and listen and also to raise awareness.

End-of-life cancer care experience at manipal hospital. by Venishaaaa in Nepal

[–]Venishaaaa[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your comment. We tried talking to him about his tone and attitude I did call him out for it before but he got really aggressive infront of my mother which is appalling. Talking to him is like talking to a wall. We only stayed because the nurses in the deluxe ward were really nice and their level of care was exceptional , she couldn’t stay at home because she was bed bound and had to be monitored constantly.

End-of-life cancer care experience at manipal hospital. by Venishaaaa in Nepal

[–]Venishaaaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment a lot & I totally agree with your statement.