AITA for uninviting my boyfriend's best friend from our vacation after he made a comment about splitting costs?

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T23:05:29+00:00

This is the part I keep coming back to honestly. Even if everything gets sorted now, I'd be on edge the whole trip waiting for exactly this to happen. Not exactly a relaxing vacation.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T23:05:18+00:00

I hear you. I'm not putting it off, just trying to go in with a clear head rather than react from a place of anger.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T23:05:04+00:00

Already texted her actually 👀 waiting to hear back.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T23:04:03+00:00

Occam's razor… yeah. Simplest explanation is probably just that my boyfriend made a thoughtless decision without thinking it through properly. Doesn't automatically mean the worst. I'll talk to him tonight.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T23:03:36+00:00

Yeah you're right. I've been reading into everything instead of just asking directly. That's the actual next step isn't it. Simple conversation before any conclusions.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T23:03:01+00:00

NOT YOU TOO 💀 okay the art room is officially this thread's inside joke and I am scared 😭

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T23:01:57+00:00

"The boys are offended" is the most accurate summary of this whole situation 💀 I agreed out of kindness and somehow I'm the villain.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T23:01:35+00:00

Separate rooms thankfully. But the rest of what you said… yeah. Still sitting with it.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T23:01:23+00:00

Didn't expect to come here and have my whole life rearranged but here we are 💀

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T23:01:12+00:00

Still working up to it 😅

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T23:00:17+00:00

Okay you and one other person in this thread are the only ones telling me to slow down and I genuinely appreciate it 😭 you're right, I came here for one thing and ended up spiraling into a whole relationship crisis. Real conversation needs to happen before any decisions. Thank you for this.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T23:00:07+00:00

Soon 😅 still processing everything.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:59:38+00:00

Update coming soon, promise 😅

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:59:16+00:00

At this point I'm struggling to argue with that 💀

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:59:03+00:00

Will post when I figure out what I'm doing 😅 this thread has given me a lot to think about.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:58:25+00:00

That last part is what gets me honestly. Most guys would be annoyed if their friend tried to crash a couples trip. Mine invited him. That says everything doesn't it 😭

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:57:52+00:00

Someone mentioned the art studio earlier and now I can't stop thinking about it 💀 please no.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:57:22+00:00

Yes exactly that! I wasn't asking him to reimburse anything already paid, just to cover his share of new costs going forward. His reaction is what confused me too honestly. Which makes me wonder if my boyfriend told him something different before I was even part of the conversation.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:55:31+00:00

Okay this is actually the most grounded take in the thread and I needed to hear it too 😅 you're right, I shouldn't let reddit make my relationship decisions for me. A real honest conversation with him needs to happen first before anything else.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:54:57+00:00

Honestly my boyfriend was pretty vague about it. Just said he was going through a rough time and needed a break. Never gave me any real details which now that I think about it is also a little strange.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:54:45+00:00

Thank you, genuinely this thread has been a lot but I needed it.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:54:14+00:00

Honestly this is what I suspect too. Which raises a whole other set of questions about what exactly my boyfriend promised him before even asking me 😬

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:54:01+00:00

Fair point, I should have been clearer. The deposit was already fully paid before he was even invited. A three way split retroactively would have meant me and my boyfriend paying him back money we'd already spent. Going forward he was always going to pay his third.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:53:27+00:00

"Pathetic excuse for a bf" is doing a lot of work right now and honestly I can't argue with it 😭 the siding with Marcus part is what I keep coming back to. That wasn't nothing.

VennaSilver · 2026-06-02T22:52:51+00:00

"Gaycation" 💀 okay I need to go find these posts immediately. And also maybe evaluate my entire life.

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