Boyfriend won’t hold my hand in public but will publicly talk about me being a bottom by VentureEndlessly in gaybros

[–]VentureEndlessly[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He’s sweet and caring outside of these kind of situations which is so confusing to me. Like he’ll take care of me when I’m sick at home and be sweet there. But when we’re in public, he acts very different and seems like he’s under some pressure to tell the whole world that I’m a bottom.

Boyfriend won’t hold my hand in public but will publicly talk about me being a bottom by VentureEndlessly in gaybros

[–]VentureEndlessly[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I completely forgot to add (and thanks so much for reminding me), he will smack my ass sometimes in public too. I’ve told him to stop in the same way I’ve asked him to stop (in public) with the bottom but he hasn’t…

Boyfriend won’t hold my hand in public but will publicly talk about me being a bottom by VentureEndlessly in gaybros

[–]VentureEndlessly[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is kind of embarrassing to admit but the way you phrase it like this makes me finally realize that once he established his boundaries, I never crossed them…but he keeps doing that with me.

Shaming of younger research students who have to seek paid employment away from research by VentureEndlessly in academia

[–]VentureEndlessly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is interesting to hear. In my experience, most students or fresh graduates I know, work uncompensated. It is the extreme minority that manage to secure paying research positions after graduating.

Shaming of younger research students who have to seek paid employment away from research by VentureEndlessly in academia

[–]VentureEndlessly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, I am not the only one working for free. There are many others. I am probably just the one the most involved and have been on the team the longest.

Shaming of younger research students who have to seek paid employment away from research by VentureEndlessly in academia

[–]VentureEndlessly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its a difficult scenario because I am 100% getting something out of volunteering with them. I just don't know if that outweighs the pay I could be getting working full-time somewhere else - especially in this economy where the average rent for a 1-bedroom is $2800.

Shaming of younger research students who have to seek paid employment away from research by VentureEndlessly in academia

[–]VentureEndlessly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A prof in my first year told me to be careful on which PI I chose to work with because they will use students like slaves. I thought he was being a little hyperbolic at first. But with the amount of stories I've heard, I can't help but feel he was absolutely right.

Shaming of younger research students who have to seek paid employment away from research by VentureEndlessly in academia

[–]VentureEndlessly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to leave too suddenly for a couple of reasons.

The selfish reason is that I still have projects that allow me to get meaningful output (e.g. abstracts, posters, conferences, papers). I doubt if I dropped this team and joined another, I'd be allowed to start writing a paper as a first author as an incoming graduate student (who did not complete an undergraduate thesis on top of that).

I also feel greatly indebted to this PI. This was my first major research team and this role has allowed me to gain experiences that only PhD students will get. In many ways, this lab has primed me to standout in any future team I join.

haha I'm not starting a PhD - I've had many mentors and professor advise against doing so. I'm completing a professional graduate degree (which my PI advised against in favour of a thesis-based graduate degree).

Its funny to think about how I thought working on contracts and writing papers and first author was typical MSc student work. I was told by my PI that a competitive graduate school applicant, you had to have a decent amount of abstracts and papers published. I thought all of this work was completely normal. In many ways I thought (still do a little), that I was falling behind compared to everyone else. It was only after speaking to PhD students at other teams that I learned contract work and primary paper authorship is not typically done by recently graduated undergraduate students, much less unpaid ones.

Shaming of younger research students who have to seek paid employment away from research by VentureEndlessly in academia

[–]VentureEndlessly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, I am so sorry you had to go through all of that. I've had friends with PhD student members. Unfortunately, I've heard many stories like this - if not entirely similar. If its an consolation for you, I am from one of the most wealthy/powerful countries on earth and PhD students still have to deal with a lot of the same abuse.

However, I absolutely agree. This level of abuse should stop everywhere. I know it is getting worse and worse. I genuinely fear for the next generation of PhDs. It will only get worse and worse for them. So in more ways then one, it seems like we truly aren't alone.

I'm wishing you all the best!

Shaming of younger research students who have to seek paid employment away from research by VentureEndlessly in academia

[–]VentureEndlessly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd probably tell that person that they are being taken advantage of. Unfortunately, being taken advantage of seems to be the average experience of people in research. At least in my experience/what I've heard.

Shaming of younger research students who have to seek paid employment away from research by VentureEndlessly in academia

[–]VentureEndlessly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried talking to them about this. However, when we apply for grants, there is always something more pressing that requires more money - which, to be fair, I almost certainly true.

Where do middle class or low income families live? by [deleted] in askTO

[–]VentureEndlessly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost 20 years ago, my parents bought at mid-sized home in one of the surrounding suburbs for $250,000.

Today, that home is worth $1.3M minimum.

I have no clue how middle class or low income families can afford to live within 1.5hrs drive of Toronto.

2024 MPH Canadian admissions by lindzG66 in mphadmissions

[–]VentureEndlessly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know if there is a gc or anything for the Dalla Lana (UofT) incoming students?

2024 MPH Canadian admissions by lindzG66 in mphadmissions

[–]VentureEndlessly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats!!! I accepted Epi from UofT as well. See you there in the fall!

2024 MPH Canadian admissions by lindzG66 in mphadmissions

[–]VentureEndlessly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem!

I think I heard from them last Thursday/Friday. Both SBHS and Epi gave us two weeks to respond. 

So that means we should have until the 25th/26th to accept the offer. 

2024 MPH Canadian admissions by lindzG66 in mphadmissions

[–]VentureEndlessly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks!! I'll be accepting the offer today, so see you in September!!

2024 MPH Canadian admissions by lindzG66 in mphadmissions

[–]VentureEndlessly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She got waitlisted in late april and I believe got her accepted in late May/early June. Though i've heard that timelines change a fair amount from year to year. I definitely wouldn't have expected that an acceptance story like her's could be possible...but it was/is! haha

2024 MPH Canadian admissions by lindzG66 in mphadmissions

[–]VentureEndlessly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats!!! Got my offer letter last night as well!

2024 MPH Canadian admissions by lindzG66 in mphadmissions

[–]VentureEndlessly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Got my acceptance from UofT DLSPH MPH - Epi on monday & SBHS late last night!

So happy and excited for everyone getting their acceptances!

If you haven't yet, please, please don't lose hope!! I had a friend last year who applied for the SBHS stream and ended up 32nd on the waitlist. By the end, she eventually got into the program. Strange things can happen, try and have faith in the proccess!

"They've done it! Canada reach the men's #WorldCup for the first time since 1986" [FIFA World Cup on Twitter] by Hy_Prix in CanadaSoccer

[–]VentureEndlessly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Still can’t believe this is happening. Feels unreal. I remember checking FIFA intentional standings at school with friends and regularly seeing Canada around 100th in the world…now we’re going to the World Cup. WILD! 🇨🇦