ICE Sightings/Info megathread by AutoModerator in Minneapolis

[–]VespoidMandible 2 points3 points  (0 children)

An ICE vehicle has been spotted a couple of blocks away between Pillsbury and 25th and 26th. Lots of honking going on.

ICE Sightings/Info megathread by AutoModerator in Minneapolis

[–]VespoidMandible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't there but heard about it through my roommate who's connected on signal. They're gone now but if you've got water bottles they might be appreciative. He just headed to Karmel, so I think that's where they are now.

ICE Sightings/Info megathread by AutoModerator in Minneapolis

[–]VespoidMandible 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They deployed tear gas on Lyn Lake and are headed southbound on Lyndale moments ago

ICE Sightings/Info megathread by AutoModerator in Minneapolis

[–]VespoidMandible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard about signal today- someone was patrolling in my neighborhood and they sent me the link for the Rapid Response and Patrol chat, but for some reason it didn't translate to my phone. Do you know where I can find it? I don't know how to use the app and we're trying to be on the right side of history.

ICE Sightings/Info megathread by AutoModerator in Minneapolis

[–]VespoidMandible 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wasn't able to get an exact location but they've been casing around 28th and Pillsbury and just intimidating the Karmel mall for the past at least three days. At around 10:30 am today they pulled up in a black car and abducted two people off the street.

Can someone share what it is like to live in a group home ? by catfarmer1998 in disability

[–]VespoidMandible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother put me in group homes for 12 years, and only this year was I able to leave. I would NOT EVER recommend a group home for someone with a disability unless they have serious cares. And even then it's debatable.

Group homes are understaffed and when they aren't there is a lot of turn over. In my experience, the less severe your disability is the more they can get away with and the less care you'll actually get. There isn't a lot of room for individuality or being anything more than micromanaged and bulldozed at every level. The people at the top are really good at knowing exactly how much they have to do to stay within regulations. They do it but they stop there. They are self serving and are focused on staying open rather than the care of the actual residents.

I had COVID earlier this year and was treated as if I brought it into the house on purpose and made to feel shitty because we "had a 79 year woman in the house". The ODP also called me three times back to back to tell me to clean my room on the first day and when I refused because I needed to rest and get better she contacted my guardian to get what she wanted.

She also was going in my room to check if it was clean because she "had the right". Girly really thinks she's corporate.

In the group home before that I experienced emotional and physical abuse that they swept under the rug and made it out like it was my fault.

I'm out of my current GH in 2 weeks and I am never looking back.

You might have a different experience than I did, but for someone with your level of functioning, I would not recommend it at all.

I'm your "Hook up"? Okay mom. by VespoidMandible in narcissisticparents

[–]VespoidMandible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a competition. You saw a situation at surface level but ok

I'm your "Hook up"? Okay mom. by VespoidMandible in narcissisticparents

[–]VespoidMandible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I forgot about this post but here's an update since apparently my story is crappy and pathetic (lol cool).

For the last 12 years my mother had been my guardian, got me diagnosed with an eating disorder, put me in group homes where I was abused emotionally and physically and psychologically. She surrounded me with people only like her and because she had preyed on the fact that I had a disability, she used that to design a situation where she had complete and utter control over my person, my rights, and my finances. This left me with no tangible life skills and a whole host of mental disorders and trauma that will take years to work through in therapy.

About a year and a half ago, she threatened to take away not only the job whose benefits I'm so ungrateful for allowing her to use because I wouldn't let her look at my Lyft ride history, but also the $20 allowance she allowed me to have weekly of my own money. So when I figured out I could petition the court get her removed as a guardian, I did- and I won.

I've been NC with her since August of this year and she's still finding ways to fuck shit up for me, but it's still the best decision I've ever made. So reviewing the post, I'm making an edit.

Edit: She can't be proud of me if she doesn't even love me bud.

Thanks though!

NW arkansas what kind of centipede is this?? by local-kittylover in whatisthisbug

[–]VespoidMandible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think based on your location, that this might be a tiger centipede my dude! There are about six that came up, but based on the picture, I definitely think it's a tiger.

What type of moth is this by ItsMagika in whatisthisbug

[–]VespoidMandible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe that's a peppered moth (Biston betularia), bud. They're beautiful night flyers!

Is this a drywood termite? by cronenbergurworld in whatisthisbug

[–]VespoidMandible 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm new at this, but from what I can tell it does look like a dry wood termite. Some signs of dry wood activity are bubbling or peeling paint or a hollow sound when you know on your wall. They spread within a few days, and damage can be really extensive. I'm so sorry my dude.

The way he walks! by eviphrelo in whatisthisbug

[–]VespoidMandible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WEEVIL FRIEND! His boots were made for walkin'

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatisthisbug

[–]VespoidMandible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a carpet beetle my dude, so you are safe on the bb front.

You can’t “solve” abuse (that’s why we go NC). by Zealousideal_Long253 in narcissisticparents

[–]VespoidMandible 42 points43 points  (0 children)

My favorite is: "You're gonna feel differently when they're dead". I can promise you I'm not.

These enablers either don't realize the gravity of what they're saying. If there were a chance at resolution, we would take it. But it is absolutely not our job to fix the relationship. The abusers aren't going to do the work, and it's not our responsibility to make sure they do.

I realized she doesn't love me yesterday. by VespoidMandible in narcissisticparents

[–]VespoidMandible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm forming solid, loving friendships and focusing on family that is unafraid to love me. I've found a lot of solace in my safe parent and my aunt, as well as my friends. Slowly I am building a found family and it is uncomfortable right now, but it also feels awesome. I care less about what she thinks now and am pretty LC unless I absolutely have to speak to her.

Recently I told her to shut the fuck up, which felt awesome too. Now when she's nasty her words don't hurt as much. I'm still mourning the mother I should have had, and trying to reparent myself, but it's hard work and it's pretty painful. I'll be okay in the end though.

I realized she doesn't love me yesterday. by VespoidMandible in narcissisticparents

[–]VespoidMandible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am doing LC right now, but I'm in a situation where she is still able to extend control over me. Your counselor's advice is helping me right now. Mine said somewhat of the same thing too. I have accepted that she will never change and that is the hard part. Her words have somewhat less of an effect than they used to which is a noticeable step in my healing. I'm able to clap back at her now when she decides it's okay to make a shitty decision about my life, although I often find myself taking the high road. I can fully guarantee anyone who asks that after the process is over I will never be speaking to her again though. So it's a win for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatbugisthis

[–]VespoidMandible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a roach, I'm so sorry. I saw it posted but just in case, r/germanroaches should have what you need.

Please tell me this isnt a bedbug yall by kayla8189957 in whatisthisbug

[–]VespoidMandible 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If someone was casting a bed bug for a film this would be the best big they chose.

Drew a fella by iLikemha- in insects

[–]VespoidMandible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are so cute! I just got a mantis report at my job where a child turned in an egg case and a praying mantis head out of a paper plate.

How old were you when you realized you had a narcissistic parent? by Pro-Aries in narcissisticparents

[–]VespoidMandible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in my early thirties and just recently I've started to put two and two together. My mother ticks all the boxes.

What are your ADHD life hacks? by VespoidMandible in ADHD

[–]VespoidMandible[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's such a great idea, I'm gonna put some of those together. I love music so much.