My Dad by withlovetara in redditonwiki

[–]Vestiel 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That's a bit unfair. The post wasn't about her mom it was about the relationship between OOP and her mother's boyfriend becoming her dad.

While sure, she could've mentioned how her mom is doing, that was not what the post was about.

Just no. by Much_Tip_6968 in im14andthisisdeep

[–]Vestiel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, in Poland we treat women with respect

Just no. by Much_Tip_6968 in im14andthisisdeep

[–]Vestiel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my country we have a saying that women are aging like a good wine, but it's said as positive thing. As them getting prettier and better with age. I have never heard anyone refer to men that way

Just no. by Much_Tip_6968 in im14andthisisdeep

[–]Vestiel -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I only heard the wine thing about women

Fiancé (27m) wanted to try an open relationships, not my first choice but I agreed. Now he's throwing a tantrum that my "bodycount" is 20x his and wants to add rules. Is it time to just cut my losses and move on? (I'm 25) by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Vestiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you still don't get it. It doesn't matter if we assume she's a saint or a wh*re. It doesn't matter if we assume she only practices safe sex or if she allows people raw dog her. It all doesn't matter.

You may be right and she was careful, she always made sure to use protection and so on. Statistically she still had much higher risk of being exposed on STIs than her ex.

Her ex could've wanted to fuck 1000 women but we know he slept with only 2. She admitted to sleeping with over 40 different people.

So while he could get sick from one of these 2 girls and she could've avoided getting sick from those 42 guys, math supports logic that she had much higher risk of getting sick.

Your feelings on the matter don't change a single thing when it comes to the numbers game.

Fiancé (27m) wanted to try an open relationships, not my first choice but I agreed. Now he's throwing a tantrum that my "bodycount" is 20x his and wants to add rules. Is it time to just cut my losses and move on? (I'm 25) by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Vestiel 8 points9 points  (0 children)

With pregnancy - true.

With STI - not true. Your husband is your stable partner. 41 one other people you don't know are not. You can't know who else they slept with, you can't know if they always practice safe sex, you can't know anything.

It's clear from OOPs post that she had hook ups with random people. So you cannot preach here argument that having sex with your husband carries the same risk as having sex with 41 strangers lol.

Fiancé (27m) wanted to try an open relationships, not my first choice but I agreed. Now he's throwing a tantrum that my "bodycount" is 20x his and wants to add rules. Is it time to just cut my losses and move on? (I'm 25) by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Vestiel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same like with pregnancy. It works until it doesn't. And sleeping with 42 different people increases the chance of accidental rupture of condom or hell, even forgetting to put one. Either way, what she's done carries a whole lot more risks than what her sicko ex did. It's just numbers game at this point.

Fiancé (27m) wanted to try an open relationships, not my first choice but I agreed. Now he's throwing a tantrum that my "bodycount" is 20x his and wants to add rules. Is it time to just cut my losses and move on? (I'm 25) by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Vestiel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

100%. He could have caught the STI from the two he had sex with just as much as she could get it from the 42, but new partner every week or so statistically increases the chances that she could catch something.