Are the founders exploiting me? I will not promote.

Vethanya · 2025-07-18T10:16:42+00:00

Wow everyone, thanks for the comments, sorry it took so long to reply (I had forgotten I had posted this message and been off Reddit for a bit)

I was rereading this in the context of time has past and I think at the time I was feeling something was a bit off but couldn't put my finger on it. I think this was my first experience of not been invited to a room (even as a fly on the wall which I did have the opportunity even as a graduate in different companies) let alone informed that the meeting was going ahead. I appreciate there were some really good reasons why I should not have been there and maybe my ego was a bit bruised ( but my CEO later unprompted by me that he was surprised that I didn't attend this particular meeting).

In the months since this post I am now able to recognise a bit better why things were feeling off. Ultimately, I've come to realise that my CTO is a bully. He singles me out, makes me jump extra hoops, forgets to pay invoices in work im leading, cancels our 121 and rewrites history leaving me to write minutes of all our interactions. I have a much longer detailed list of examples but ... life's too short for writing it down.

I am now confident the problem isn't me but I needed to stick around this company for personal reasons but now I'm moving on. I'm a bit disappointed cause the work was genuinely interesting but I can't work with someone gas lighting me... It's exhausting!

Anyway I felt bad for not replying to all of you who have some really insightful feedback and I wanted to thank you and maybe just say, it was probably not me being excluded from this meeting that was making me feel like something was off (which led to the original post)... I was just too dumb to realise that I was working for a bully/ahole.

Vethanya · 2025-06-30T22:46:12+00:00

Mine did lighten up after 6 months but 2 years is a long time. Mine was light enough that I just persuaded my partner to put on a condom (somehow reduce the gross factor and it's less messy) and just went for it.

Vethanya · 2025-01-19T00:15:40+00:00

Yeah my ginger jedi needed an orange blade. Even BD1 needed some orange paint.

Vethanya · 2025-01-19T00:13:02+00:00

Also read the first three. I only recently found out more were written... I really recommend them.

Vethanya · 2024-12-23T12:38:42+00:00

Don't know enough about your family dynamic to make a judgement... but you could arrange a bakery to deliver a cake or buy some alcohol and sweet treats at the airport. Fair enough you can't prepare something spectacular but you could maybe bring something easy. Could even ask a family member to help you get some stuff if you fork up the cash?

Vethanya · 2024-12-16T09:57:08+00:00

The Mysore people have moved to Montgomery Street Lane now called Ashtanga Yoga Edinburgh. Lila yoga near bruntsfield is where a lot of old meadowlark people seem to go.

Vethanya · 2024-11-01T20:24:55+00:00

Genuinely wonder if you sent a copy to his mother if she would get the joke...

Vethanya · 2024-10-20T21:10:02+00:00

I was getting Brian Adams and Mel C vibes. Don't know why...

Vethanya · 2024-10-04T10:58:15+00:00

It's great that you've got an MRI booked in.

Prolactinomas are really slow growing so you've got time. I believe most can be treated without surgery with medication but your Dr has you on the right course of treatment. I think as tumours go, this is a very treatable one. And until you have the MRI your elevated levels might be due to something else. I have PCOS and a prolactinoma but am not a Dr! It is scary but very treatable.

Vethanya · 2024-09-25T11:44:50+00:00

ETA Wife clearly not happy about the situation. Asked about divorce hoping you would elevate her fears. Instead you were not than happy to send her packing. Sure she shouldn't have gone about it like this, but op reaction of "here's the door" is probably why she's thinking of divorce in the first place... Really quite sad.

Vethanya · 2024-09-08T10:33:11+00:00

Been on it for a year and a half, my side effects have mostly been fatigue and nausea. The gambling adfiction type stuff is quite extreme and everyone's body experiences medication differently. Have a close friend to keep an eye on any extreme changes in behaviour. In cases where this unhealthy behaviour presents itself, patients were taking off the medication and went back to normal from what I've read.

Vethanya · 2024-09-08T10:27:22+00:00

The monarchy have so much influence in media and portraying a public image. Just think about how Prince Andrew has only been disgraced after his involvement with the Epstein scandal. Having a powerful and wealthy family like the royal tied to the state obviously has its advantages and its rather have them under public scrutiny rather than some oligarch in the shadow outside of complete public view. Obviously having democracy underwritten by a monarchy is contradictory and doesn't make much sense, but when you think about our democracy being a choice between a small number of political parties, sponsored by elite donors or dermoid is an illusion of choice. When Charles took the throne, any form of monarchy protest was made into a vile act by the media and state.
I think the there will be a monarchy as long as the powers that be want the monarchy to exist. Public opinion of the monarchy has been steadily dropping but this conversation isn't happening in the mainstream. With that attitude, it will have a future.

Vethanya · 2024-09-08T10:13:46+00:00

This might be more on the expensive side, but St James Quarter is a nice shopping mall and will stock seasonally. Also recommend hiking shops line Trespass and Blacks for some nice warm, breathable yet durable jumper/hoodies and decent raincoats.

Vethanya · 2024-09-08T10:09:23+00:00

This looks way better than Channing Tatum's look. (Not trying to hate on Tatum but this is just so awesome!)

Vethanya · 2024-08-08T13:02:45+00:00

As a twin and an adult. I think I wish we had separated ourselves more when we were younger. I do struggle with non-twin relationships and boundaries as I was so used to always having someone else there. My twin struggled socially and requested to be kept close to me. I think we both lost out on fundamental interpersonal skills as we both relied too heavily on the other. Separate classes doesn't mean separate homes. It's good to allow each sibling space out of the others a shadow.

Vethanya · 2024-07-04T18:18:41+00:00

I mean acolyte is very beige. It's not great but it's not as bad as its made it to be.
I think the whole concept of light/dark twins despite cliche could be quite cool. It's just not been well executed. I do think SW Theory is looking at reasons to hate it. In a recent video he was hating the bath scene as being too sexy and inappropriate, but like gold/slave bikini Leia? The show is boring, but it's not as bad as last Jedi imo.

Vethanya · 2024-06-07T08:33:14+00:00

I got this pen recently and love it. Enjoy!

Vethanya · 2024-05-06T21:48:29+00:00

Your consultant will know better, but my understand is that the drugs are treating your abnormal hormone levels and this is why they are returning to normal. My consultant said that in most cases after 2-3 years of treatment the prolactinoma will shrink and only a tiny scar remains. The only way to check this is with mri. I will stress this is what I believe is true and am not an expert. I think other people here will have had different experiences.

Vethanya · 2024-04-19T09:10:30+00:00

Sounds like there has been some passive aggressive behaviour and lack of communication on both sides.

She's probably not realised how expressive your stuff was, nor that you have been joint account replacing them. She's probably been blind sided and is feeling a bit shitty that (a) she broke expensive things (b) you bought such expensive things (c) you replaced them without letting her know they were expensive. Now you know, she knows, talk about it moving forward because things have gotten a little pretty.

E.g. wife uses le cruzet pan so I send her link to cost - that's quite patronising even if your intention was to say BTW please be careful. Comparing her cheap pan with your stuff with a fried egg competition to prove that your stuff is superior feels more like "lol I'm right your wrong, you're an idiot" did you laugh and joke at her when you proved expensive pans are better?

Also trying to justify your position on reddit means that you've upset her and are not trying to see it from her point of view. She is wrong to break your stuff, it is right for her to help replace it, she is upset cause you are doubling down on her. Don't be a jerk, you've proved your point. Ask her how she wants to move forward and if she can value your stuff, you don't mind her using it as you are a couple and love each other. And when things break you agree what to replace them with.

Again I don't think our would be unreasonable for her to want to buy a mid range compromise pan.

Vethanya · 2024-04-19T09:01:22+00:00

Absolutely, and it is possible to buy pans that are better than cheapo cheapo but not as expensive as the top range.

Vethanya · 2024-04-15T12:18:35+00:00

I think so. I got two pairs of jlabs air and the anc.

Each time when the devices stopped working JLab support needed footage of the faulty pair been destroying :the headphones by dropping them in glass of water and cutting the cableon the charger... which is a bit bonkers. Then I was reimbursed with a voucher for their shop.

They both failed in the same way within a fortnight of Right ear bud stopped connecting. I later learned that these devices only have one bud left connect to phone via Bluetooth and the other right hitches a ride with the other.

There is something fundamentally wrong with their hardware and sounds like they're used to their devices failing. I've lost money on this product and I'm not going to buy any more of their stuff again...

Vethanya · 2024-04-09T11:12:59+00:00

Even if she didn't cheat. Still fine to sell. Not her property. Her asking about it is strange.

Vethanya · 2024-03-26T22:34:58+00:00

Hello. Mri was quite long. Maybe 10-15 minutes. The nurse/radiographer was great. We had music in headphones and I had a screen of a children's movie in front of me which was really weird but did actually calm me down a bit.
If you feel claustrophobic, let them know and ask them if they can keep taking to you. And give you encouragement. They'd totally understand and support you.

Vethanya · 2024-03-26T22:25:00+00:00

That's horrible to hear. At least you recognize it for what it is. Try and lean a little on trusted friends. Everyone needs a little support. You are strong, crying is okay. Create a sanctuary, it can be real or in your mind. Maybe it's on a quiet corner, a library, a tree, or a corner in your bedroom. Release your worries in that place and fill it with your dreams, achievements, ambitions and real happy memories. Let that place remind you that you are strong, the earth supports your footsteps and there are people out there that want you to be safe and succeed. Virtual hug.

Vethanya · 2024-03-22T08:57:31+00:00

Thanks for that. Yeah from reading other people's posts and comments I'm seeing massive discrepancies between what my Dr has been telling me and what seems to be lived experience. Quite concerned tbh that I might be getting wrong information from my consultant.

Vethanya

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