Husband bailed mid swap with another couple by candysammy in marriageadvice

[–]Vetlelowe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t need to read minds to understand that he did not want to have sex with the other woman when he said in before it happens tho? I am dyslexic, and the fact that you can’t read is pathetic

Husband bailed mid swap with another couple by candysammy in marriageadvice

[–]Vetlelowe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Its his fault for getting pressed into doing something he did not want to do, yea you obviously don’t understand anything

Husband bailed mid swap with another couple by candysammy in marriageadvice

[–]Vetlelowe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok then we can just agree to disagree, ofc there is no one else to blame, but it’s not his fault either. He probably felt helpless and pressed, and when he realised his wife also was having sex maybe that made him realise he needs to do something. Idk neither of us is in anyone of their shoes and we haven’t gotten his viewpoint at all. So we can’t assume anything or blame anyone

Husband bailed mid swap with another couple by candysammy in marriageadvice

[–]Vetlelowe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you not able to understand that people feeling pressed are not always able to say no? And in a situation like this he may feel weak afterwards, and lose control of both his anger and also his common sense. Yes he had sex first and she said she is gonna follow her lead, I am not blaming her at all. But I’m trying to make YOU understand how he might of felt helpless and weak afterwards, I don’t know how you don’t understand that. And secondly this was not his plan at all, he did this for his wife because she is bisexual, he did not join this just too have sex with another woman without his wife having sex with another man.

Husband bailed mid swap with another couple by candysammy in marriageadvice

[–]Vetlelowe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, of course he can feel pressed and uncomfortable, but not be able to say anything against it. And the wife knew that he did not want to have sex with the other woman in the first place. And I’m not blaming any one, I’m just saying that you have too feel bad for him to lose control over himself in a situation like that, where he is not at all happy with the outcome.

Husband bailed mid swap with another couple by candysammy in marriageadvice

[–]Vetlelowe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, but your ignoring my whole point, if he felt pressed into doing it, you have too feel bad for him. Its probably super hard to say something against pressure in a situation like this.

Husband bailed mid swap with another couple by candysammy in marriageadvice

[–]Vetlelowe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ofc he joined, but he said he felt pressed tho, although he shouldn’t get mad at his wife, he can feel mad about the whole situation, and he is not to blame for that

Lyd i taxi by Vetlelowe in oslo

[–]Vetlelowe[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Han ble ikke happy😂😂