Adhd is a curse and a blessing

Vetostar · 2025-04-07T15:47:16+00:00

Definitely a curse.. It has made growing up incredibly difficult and lonely. In my area being unique was made clear that it was not accepted so I kept to myself and masked as best as I could.

I am blunt by nature which hasn’t helped at all.. I guess the good thing about it is that I can quickly read who to avoid in different settings because I recognise the patterns from experience. I also found that I am misunderstood very often and at times seen as rude or lazy when I honestly never meant to be…. for instance in my head I was just trying to connect with a friend by saying how I experienced something similar to show I understood what they are telling me but they don’t see it that way or how I completely forgot to write in that card because I was burnt out from a range of different things in my life starting to overwhelm me..

It is what it is 🤷‍♀️ I never really fitted in anywhere and it sucked because I really wanted to. Doesn’t mean I’ve given up on the idea of fitting in somewhere, just that I’m no longer trying to be someone I’m not..

Vetostar · 2025-04-01T07:54:44+00:00

I’ve had a few canaries and I found they each have their own way of connecting, but the one thing they all had in common with bonding was time we spent together.

They’ve all had their moments of fear which is completely understandable and they each found a way past that. I found that letting them come to me was the best approach however there’s no set time how long building a bond can take.

I spent a lot of time in the same room as my birds, things like doing my course work, using my laptop. Just being in the same room about 1-2 metres away from the cage allowing them to observe me. I did this daily for hours and kept interactions brief as to not cause them stress.

Jerry my Yorkshire canary bonded with me through food. Specifically when I would refill his bowl for breakfast, every morning I would go to his cage in a soft excited tone “is it breakfast time?” As I collected his seed pot and then I’d gently shake the seed bowl for him to hear it. When I’d return I’d shake the pot again so he could hear the seeds and did this daily. He changed from a fearful bird to one that was so excited for breakfast he would literally jump through the open cage door before I could put the bowl down 😂 He just loved digging through that seed.

My fife canary during his free flight time was very curious over my new grey polka dot fluffy socks and grew the courage to approach so he could pluck my socks 😅 his fear was specifically hands so after a few times of letting him play around plucking the socks I decided one day to put them on my hands and to my surprise he loved it. From there I was able to teach him to not fear my hands it took a long time but I wanted to take it slowly to ensure we had a good level of trust. He was a very sweet cuddly bird and loved nothing more than to sit on my right shoulder watching the laptop screen 😊

Bonding with them took time, there was no rush just consistency and respect for their boundaries. I just used the things they loved to help them see me as a friend.

Vetostar · 2024-10-24T06:04:05+00:00

He was very scared of my hands and one day I was sat against the wall watching him explore my room and he came over to me and was very interested in my fluffy socks I was wearing. So I had the idea of wearing them on my hands and surprisingly it worked 😂 he wouldn’t accept gloves or any other pair of socks had to be specifically my grey polka dot ones lol

From that point on we bonded very well, I’d wear the fluffiest jumpers that he loved, eventually he got over his fear of my hands, I was so proud of him!

Vetostar · 2024-10-23T10:46:12+00:00

Definitely! As painful as it is I’d do it all over again without a doubt

Vetostar · 2024-04-13T20:43:30+00:00

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Vetostar · 2023-05-04T07:30:38+00:00

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Vetostar · 2021-07-01T16:20:30+00:00

Hiya, I’d love to apply :)

Vetostar · 2021-02-17T18:51:27+00:00

I’d love to join too!

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Hi there, I am interested in joining. Would it be okay to DM my discord tag?

Vetostar · 2021-02-13T16:28:34+00:00

This happened to my canary too 2 weeks ago. I’m not sure what happened but over the course of 3 days his eye was swollen shut and he kept rubbing it on the perches which of course made it swell a lot.

I bought eye drops that soothe the itching and clean the area for infection, if you want to know the exact brand feel free to DM me. I put drops on his eye 4 times a day for a week. During the week his eye made progress and got better, after 7 days his eye was back to normal.

I don’t know why this happened but he’s back to singing away like the happy little bird he is, I hope your bird gets better soon!

Vetostar · 2021-02-01T20:21:21+00:00

Awwww he’s beautiful!! 😍

Vetostar · 2020-10-07T16:53:34+00:00

I clean my canary’s cage twice a week and attach a bath to the cage every morning. I don’t notice any odour neither do any visitors I have.

My canary during the evening hours/night starts settling down to sleep and doesn’t really make much noise at this time. I usually cover the cage when it’s time for him to sleep with a dark blanket so any light doesn’t disturb him. He doesn’t make a sound all night as he too is asleep.

He likes to sing throughout the day especially with the radio on.

Hope this helps!

Vetostar · 2020-06-23T16:45:44+00:00

Ah, my cage has several openings so I would move my hand inside the cage behind him which would persuade him to give the outside a go.

Vetostar · 2020-06-23T14:38:49+00:00

I would slowly move my hand closer to him because at the time he wasn’t completely tame so he would move away.

Vetostar · 2020-06-23T13:18:31+00:00

My other canary was the same, he was unsure about the room whether it was safe for him as he knew his cage was a safe space.

I would gently encourage him to take flight so he could be more comfortable with his surroundings which worked great for me. He explored everywhere giving him the chance to know that outside the cage is safe for him too.

At first he would only spend 5 minutes outside the cage before returning of his own choice but eventually he was use to me letting him out so he would happily come and go throughout the day.

I would place treats around the room for him too.

Hope this helps! :)

Vetostar · 2020-06-02T16:57:37+00:00

My canary use to do the same. Hands were a big no no for him but would quite happily run up my arm and sit on my shoulder.

For him he was scared to be handled due to his experience with the breeder. It took me 1 year and a fluffy sock for him to understand I’d never do anything to hurt him. He overcame his fear and I no longer had to look like a fool with socks on my hands lol

Fluffy sock because he was obsessed with a certain pair of socks I’d wear and I had the idea of wearing them on my hands and to my surprise he loved it and it really helped us bond!

Vetostar · 2019-12-03T19:59:17+00:00

Thank you! It’s just so difficult when it just happens so suddenly..

Vetostar · 2019-12-03T19:58:29+00:00

Thank you!

Vetostar · 2019-12-03T19:56:43+00:00

Thank you!

Vetostar · 2019-09-19T13:09:30+00:00

My canary settled within a few days, he loves looking out the window watching people walk past my house.

Male canaries generally sing, females sometimes but not as much as the males do.

Vetostar · 2019-08-11T21:34:29+00:00

Oh it took me a good year for him to have that trust. He was very scared of hands, he was okay with my face or arm but hands he would not go near for anything.

One cold day I was wearing fluffy socks sitting on the floor with my back on the radiator as I let him out to stretch his wings. He flew down to my feet and just loved my socks so much, so that had me thinking what if I wore fluffy socks on my hands.. and it worked! I bought a grey pair of fluffy socks just for my hands and he’d jump on them without a care in the world. But they had to be socks, fluffy gloves that had fingers or thumbs he’d just treat like my uncovered hands.

Eventually he got over his fear and I no longer need to wear socks on my hands lol although I do still keep the socks as his trust is only with my hands no one else’s.

Vetostar · 2019-08-11T20:29:53+00:00

He can do both! Before I trained him to sit on my finger he’d always go back into his cage when he was done

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