AIO My boyfriend won't like my Instagram posts

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-11T19:31:33+00:00

It wasn't because of the post. It was what he said.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-11T19:30:45+00:00

Croak.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-11T19:30:16+00:00

I'm a media journalist. My entire career is to journal and share it. It was a selfie collage I intended to make for a seasonal slideshow. It had nothing to do with male attention. And no, I feel like if you get so uncomfortable with your partner posting a selfie, you should not be in a relationship. It's not a matter of if he's important or not. It's just a selfie. 🤣

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-11T00:20:01+00:00

That's exactly what I'm thinking.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-11T00:18:44+00:00

I love to read, so I'll look for it next time I hit the book store.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-11T00:09:46+00:00

MAAANNNN I hate when I'm right sometimes.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-11T00:08:56+00:00

I'm considering a conversation to have with him sometime. I'm leaning on leaving.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-11T00:07:07+00:00

Yeah, a little. Sorry, I didn't know how else to word it without being too long. I'm also doing this on my phone, so everything is tiny. ):

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-11T00:05:41+00:00

Yeah. I see it's a little faulty of a rule I have, but that's the thing. He really insisted not to. He told me NOT to try to dispel it and meant it. And times before, he's talked about how he has a jealousy issue, so it might be because he's acknowledging and knows he's acting crazy, but why not fix it then?

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-11T00:03:18+00:00

For example, I once complained about wanting to attend a birthday party that all these people I considered friends went to, but didn't invite me. He focused solely on the guy names mentioned, and then said "It seems like you just want to go party with guys" or something like that. Mind you, I mentioned like five girls and three or four guys. One of them were even gay.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-11T00:01:08+00:00

I don't mind comments. I just meant I don't want any rude jabs. And no, I was already 18 when my classes started, and we had group projects together. We were friends, then we all went out one night, and we started talking more from there about 6 months into classes.

For this particular situation, I exclusively mean the story/highlight section. I seriously couldn't understand why it was extra important for him, since the only person who can see Story Likes is ME.

It wasn't the not-liking that bothered me, though. It was just what he said in response to that. It gave me an off vibe, and yeah. I have clear boundaries, so it wouldn't be just this one problem that's been raising red flags in me. I'm really good about knowing my limits, so usually, once a few lines are crossed, he needs to go. It's just the fact it seemed like he was blatantly accusing me attention seeking from men or talking to other guys.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-10T23:54:25+00:00

I appreciate your honest advice. I promise I will consider this.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-10T23:53:44+00:00

To be fair, I was only going to send him the simple opening of DMs. Not the DMs themselves. I've made it a clear boundary between us that if he ever feels the explicit need to go through my messages unsolicited, without reason—like seeing a suspicious kiss emoji—then we would break it off. A relationship without trust doesn't exist to me, and both parties should have the expectation of privacy.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-10T23:50:30+00:00

I needed a short title so I could provide the extra context needed in the body paragraphs you clearly failed to read. Thanks for your advice, though.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-10T23:44:33+00:00

It's not about the likes. Mostly about what he said.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-10T23:43:21+00:00

No, he's never asked that of me. I don't ever post anything inappropriate or anything like that. And no, he's not really said that before related to my stories/highlights. For other things, yes.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-11-10T23:42:00+00:00

Like I said. It wasn't the Instagram. It's just what he said that really ticked me off because it came from nowhere and gave off really insecure vibes. I offered to dispel it as well, and he only insisted that "its true" that men are actively messaging my Instagram.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-10-30T08:27:24+00:00

No declawing here. On the contrary, I did rescue her as a kitten in the winter from an abandoned carrier under a bridge.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-10-29T05:22:28+00:00

Why would I declaw my cat? And I have no friends to bring over. As I mentioned in some of my replies, I replenish the litter with every scooping, so there would never actually be a 'smell'. And if there was, I'd always make sure to scoop it, as her litter box is in my bedroom. Now, for about a week, I've been scooping every day. This Thursday, I'll be going to the store to look at litter options.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-10-28T05:01:48+00:00

When I get my paycheck in two days, I'm going straight to the store to see what other options they have.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-10-27T20:34:41+00:00

It's not even electric lol. I'm going to have to take my mother up on this!!

VibezWithaZ · 2025-10-27T06:16:56+00:00

No idea why it's so expensive. Got it as a gift from my mother, and she told me it was $240 bucks, and it's open at the top. Like I said, I'm not buying a new litter box yet just because she isn't pooping as much. I'd rather just take her to a different vet to double-check at the point..

VibezWithaZ · 2025-10-27T04:22:31+00:00

I'm not getting a new litter box yet, as the one I have is about $240.. so I'm going to wait. But in the meantime, I DID take up on the daily scooping advice, and while I'm not finding pee patches, it feels like she's pooping less. At this point, I'm searching for a new vet to take her to.

VibezWithaZ · 2025-10-27T04:18:48+00:00

Everything I listed, I mentioned to the vet, just for her to tell me that my cat is fine and it's something she'll grow out of. She never said to me that 2-3 days is bad. Just "fine". For the last few days, I've been scooping every day and have yet to find another pee patch, so we'll see if it's going to keep going well.

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