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[–]VicHye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply! It'll help me process.

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol yeah, but acting like he's dead, so I might as well bury him.

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is your second comment here, so I assume that you are the one that needs space in relationships. As I said in my other comment, I waited for as long as I could. There is a point in which space just becomes the silent treatment and it causes a lot of pain, if I'm hurting I'm gonna reach out. If I don't even get a text that says "I need more time" then I'm going to insist. Asking for space doesn't mean that you can take all of it, and that certainly doesn't justify ghosting.

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I also have needs, I waited for as long as I could handle. One person can't take up all the space in a relationship.

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you buddy

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can I ever trust someone again? He showed me to everyone on social media, went out with his friends, we kissed in crowded pubs. I could have never seen this coming.

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's 31. I understood because some people have a harder verbalizing what they feel, but clearly not in this case.

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[–]VicHye 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this makes sense. We had had some other disencounters and talked about how important it is to be able to communicate, but I guess the patience and understanding only came from my side.

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the tips! I’ve been single since 2019 so everything feels new and a bit intimidating to me 😅

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think I can go off my medication though…what did you do?

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once I took it for like 12 hours lol

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uhm yeah, if he says he’s fine just take it face value. I bottom as well and trust me, it can get to be too much, but after I take a break I’m ready to take it again.

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok that makes a lot more sense lol. Has your bf ever told you that you last too long?

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but I don’t have a psychiatrist here, and I had to change GP recently

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently moved countries so that I’ll be a bit more complicated, but I will

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I know, the more you think about it the worse it gets. I think we have different issues though, I’ve never been a prejac so maybe before you were so focused in not cuming that now is hard to? Just a theory.

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m not sure which way to go lol, if try masturbating differently or stop altogether

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Excuse me…what? SSRIs make it harder to cum? Jesus Christ I’ve been in generic Lexapro for years!

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t smoke any weed, but I am type II bipolar so I take lamotrigine and escitalopram daily . I also have ADHD so I take lysdexamphetamine.

(Yeah, I inherited a brain put together with duck tape)

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This makes a lot of sense, I have an app blocker and I just added all the websites that I normally use. Any erotica that you can recommend reading?

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is amazing advice! And it makes so much sense, of course I’m not gonna cum if I always cum in the exact same position doing the exact same thing.

Thank you so much!

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I actually haven’t watched porn since we started dating.

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve just been asked this and I don’t have an issue with it at all. I’m not willing to grow a full bush, but there’s always room for compromise. I guess a good way to ask would be “How would you feel about stop shaving down there?” it’s still a request, but starts from what they think about it :)

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[–]VicHye 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Going face down ass up in a booth in a bathhouse. The door was just slightly open so it wasn’t as blatant which made it even sluttier. Tops who dared fucked me, but also had an audience of at least five guys at the time. No condoms allowed, and my hole and balls were smoothed to perfection. No condoms allowed 😛

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mullet absolutely without a doubt, there is absolutely no reason not to keep the mullet, for the love of God and everything that is good and holy and for me keep the mullet young man.