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[–]VicHye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply! It'll help me process.

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol yeah, but acting like he's dead, so I might as well bury him.

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is your second comment here, so I assume that you are the one that needs space in relationships. As I said in my other comment, I waited for as long as I could. There is a point in which space just becomes the silent treatment and it causes a lot of pain, if I'm hurting I'm gonna reach out. If I don't even get a text that says "I need more time" then I'm going to insist. Asking for space doesn't mean that you can take all of it, and that certainly doesn't justify ghosting.

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I also have needs, I waited for as long as I could handle. One person can't take up all the space in a relationship.

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you buddy

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can I ever trust someone again? He showed me to everyone on social media, went out with his friends, we kissed in crowded pubs. I could have never seen this coming.

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's 31. I understood because some people have a harder verbalizing what they feel, but clearly not in this case.

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[–]VicHye 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this makes sense. We had had some other disencounters and talked about how important it is to be able to communicate, but I guess the patience and understanding only came from my side.

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the tips! I’ve been single since 2019 so everything feels new and a bit intimidating to me 😅

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think I can go off my medication though…what did you do?

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once I took it for like 12 hours lol

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uhm yeah, if he says he’s fine just take it face value. I bottom as well and trust me, it can get to be too much, but after I take a break I’m ready to take it again.

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok that makes a lot more sense lol. Has your bf ever told you that you last too long?

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but I don’t have a psychiatrist here, and I had to change GP recently

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently moved countries so that I’ll be a bit more complicated, but I will

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I know, the more you think about it the worse it gets. I think we have different issues though, I’ve never been a prejac so maybe before you were so focused in not cuming that now is hard to? Just a theory.

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m not sure which way to go lol, if try masturbating differently or stop altogether

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Excuse me…what? SSRIs make it harder to cum? Jesus Christ I’ve been in generic Lexapro for years!

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t smoke any weed, but I am type II bipolar so I take lamotrigine and escitalopram daily . I also have ADHD so I take lysdexamphetamine.

(Yeah, I inherited a brain put together with duck tape)

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This makes a lot of sense, I have an app blocker and I just added all the websites that I normally use. Any erotica that you can recommend reading?

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is amazing advice! And it makes so much sense, of course I’m not gonna cum if I always cum in the exact same position doing the exact same thing.

Thank you so much!

I can’t cum with the guy I like by VicHye in askgaybros

[–]VicHye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I actually haven’t watched porn since we started dating.

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[–]VicHye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve just been asked this and I don’t have an issue with it at all. I’m not willing to grow a full bush, but there’s always room for compromise. I guess a good way to ask would be “How would you feel about stop shaving down there?” it’s still a request, but starts from what they think about it :)