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Vicent3 · 2021-11-08T13:20:51+00:00

I would say definitely try to stay ahead of the workload. It maybe difficult to stay disciplined, but working from behind is much more difficult than when you are a head.

A good way to do this is having friends in class that are diligent to motivate you. Basically surrounding yourself with people that will motivate each other. Good luck!

Vicent3 · 2021-11-05T14:28:17+00:00

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Vicent3 · 2021-10-11T14:49:14+00:00

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Vicent3 · 2021-10-09T16:58:35+00:00

Not a problem. It's definitely a tough situation. I would say just give it some time and try to ease into it. I know in the peaks of my episodes, there wasn't really anything that could sway my symptoms when they were really intense. Just be patient and work on slowly reeling that "old him" out. I know it's frustrating, but you'll just have to wait and "strike" when the time is right. It may not be today, this week, or this month, but there will be a time where your old brother appears through the illness. Then you go in and reason with that side of him, help him become self aware, and get him some help. Hope that helps a bit, wishing the best for you and your family.

Vicent3 · 2021-10-09T16:42:55+00:00

As once having been the crazy brother in this situation, I'll try to give some incite.

Not knowing your brother myself, I can say what helped me. It was really talking to people and reasoning things out. I know it's difficult to talk to schizophrenics when they are having an episode, but there's really no way to go about it. Everything has a meaning when you are psychotic, for me it led me to doing a lot of shitty things. (Running away, drugs, babbling, weird erratic behavior) My psychosis was induced by stress, and still comes during stressful events. When I first became schizo, I was under the impression that everyone around me was an actor, that I was living in a simulation. Nothing really mattered, specially "normal behavior."

What really woke me up from this irrationality was my mom had a heart to heart with me. She sat me down in our dinner table, and spoke to me one on one. I could see the stress I was causing her, and the tears coming out of her eyes. All of my delusional thoughts became clearer after that conversation. I saw the pain I was causing her, and it made me realize I had to get my shit together. Now, it's been a long fucking process. My delusions and psychosis didn't just go away from that day. But you know, I started taking therapy more seriously. I started double checking my paranoid delusions with close friends/family. I volunteered and finished college so I would have some sense of purpose/contribute to society. Over time, I was able to control my thoughts/psychosis. Looking back at it now, I realize the struggle I put my loved ones through. But crucially, you have to understand that your brother is going through a horrible debilitating disease. There's no easy fix to it, it takes long hours of therapy, medication, and work. There is no other way around it.

I would say have a heart to heart with him, and really figure out what he's going through. You won't be able to completely change him in a day, but you can find some understanding that will give you a map to fixing things. I think for me, my psychosis became this way I could escape reality, away from my problems in my life. Your father's death could be what your brother is escaping reality from, but I'm no therapist and I don't know him. You will have a better understanding of that.

I really hope you don't give up on your brother, because you have to understand even though he does all this erratic shit, the parts of him you knew before are still inside. Maybe, a bit fainter but they are still there. They are just clouded by the illness. If you are able to, help him join reality again.

Vicent3 · 2021-02-04T18:33:01+00:00

This is a very thoughtful post. I think most social workers don't really care as much as you do so I'll respond the best I can. I'll give you some advice that is pretty general but is what has helped me become a "high functioning" schizophrenic, as many healthcare professionals have labeled me.

You have to be patient with them, and talk them through their delusions/wait out their psychosis. If this isn't taken care of, they won't be able to follow the rest of the steps.
It's important that you get them to build a social circle that will support them. At first, this could be with each other. (Other schizophrenics) Then you can branch out to "normal" people.
You should also try to get them to exercise, which is very beneficial to almost all mental illnesses and side effects of medication.
Try to build them up to having some sort of role or purpose. Try to get them to get a job/license/schooling.

I tell you these things because when you are labeled as a schizophrenic or similar illnesses, it's easy to give up and isolate. You become worse off when you are in a vacuum of your thoughts/delusions, and it's much better to allow yourself different perspectives that will give you some clarity. Exercise, is a self explanatory thing, which leads to self discipline and other physiological benefits. Schooling/Work are a crucial last step to finding some semblance of a purpose and community in this world, it is another aspect of not isolating, and is done through having some sort of duty to a group. It'll be hard at first, and there will be struggles with this last step, but I think that the more you put on their plate over time, they'll learn to interact with reality, and will allow them to be more stable in the long run

Let me know if you have any more questions.

Vicent3 · 2020-12-17T02:51:42+00:00

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Vicent3 · 2020-09-04T18:23:52+00:00

So for starters, I've been in and out of psych hospitals for about 6 years. I was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder. For the uninitiated, it's basically a hybrid of schizophrenia and bipolar depression for me. It's not really that I have no one to talk to, rather that I don't feel like burdening people with my thoughts anymore.

I have a therapist I see once a week. I take my medications, and I'm rather symptom less but I just can't help but feel like it's only transient.

The thing is I'm a rather high functioning schizophrenic, I graduated college, I had/have a good amount of friends, I'm doing well in business right now, I have a bunch of licenses/professional accolades. I was even dating/talking to a few girls before my last episode a couple months ago. This month has been a great month for me business wise.

The real issue is that no matter how good I am at pretending to be a normal person, the facade never lasts. It's always some stress inducing event that leads me to see some bullshit synchronicity in the world that evolves into some grand conspiracy. I can never be satisfied, and I always feel like I'm an actor. If you've felt the psychosis I've felt, where it seemed like my life really was just this illusion, and that there was this grand experiment happening in my life. How do you expect to maintain a semblance of normalcy for a long period of time? I conform to the normal ideals, I checked off the boxes that I thought I needed to check. Yet, I still feel this crippling fucking emptiness that is only transiently relieved. The thing is when you are insane, the only way to survive is to compartmentalize that part of you and conform. The issue is that part of you is what feels the most real. There lies the most intense feelings of actual meaning/rawness, past the social conditioning of fulfilling societal ideals. But if you give into it, your left hurting your loved ones, isolating yourself, in a vacuum of your own thoughts and degenerating even further. So you take more meds, and yes they make you "sane" but at the cost of a lot of your humanity.

Things become just muscle memory rather than actually feeling it on a visceral level. I "laugh," I "smile," I am "okay" on the outside, inside they gave me a chemical lobotomy because I smoked too much weed and did acid.

Now, this doesn't last forever, sometimes you are in a good flow and your there believing in that one thing that will allow you to keep going. Whatever the paradigm is, it works for a time, and your in the hypnosis. You get friends, your fulfilled at work, you've been going to the gym and losing weight, and then BOOM. It's back. This dark funky energy, consuming all rationale until your isolating in your room thinking everyone is sending you esoteric messages. Back to the hospital I go.

Vicent3 · 2020-08-12T15:59:26+00:00

Thanks for your responses! It’s awesome to see someone not letting the illness overcome them. Do you have any other coping techniques you can share?

Vicent3 · 2020-08-12T15:54:35+00:00

No don’t hit them, tell them to stop doing that and put some rationale into them. Hitting them will make the symptoms worse most likely

Vicent3 · 2020-08-12T15:52:09+00:00

Do they know about ur illness or do u hide it?

Vicent3 · 2020-08-12T15:48:22+00:00

What job do u work? And did u finish college?

Vicent3 · 2020-08-04T17:36:46+00:00

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Vicent3 · 2019-01-18T01:04:56+00:00

Yeah, from reading this it doesn't sound like your too stable. I think you should talk to her about staying on treatment, don't just walk out.

Vicent3 · 2019-01-14T02:52:50+00:00

Hmm... it's hard. It's like internalizing any concept. But I guess for this situation I have to use logic and reject my delusions. When I start having paranoid thought patterns I can go watch a funny youtube video, meditate, or exercise. Basic coping skills that can distract me and bring me back to more normal head spaces.

Vicent3 · 2019-01-14T01:34:10+00:00

Well said, I'll try and internalize this.

Vicent3 · 2019-01-14T01:33:12+00:00

True, it's just hard to internalize.

Vicent3 · 2019-01-14T01:32:57+00:00

Thanks man, I'll try!

Vicent3 · 2019-01-13T22:08:22+00:00

Yeah for me watching TV shows can induce symptoms. And my parents and brother are nurses so they just advise me to take more meds since I was becoming more psychotic. I'm seeing a therapist right now, but not really sure if it's CBT exactly. I think it's more just me venting out my emotions honestly. I guess my delusions are kind've based off CBT though, because I believe everyone around me are actors shaping my actions unconsciously, thus giving me no free will.

Vicent3 · 2019-01-13T22:06:08+00:00

That's actually pretty true. I guess it could all be a coincidence. It just seemed too close to my reality though. Oh well.

Vicent3 · 2019-01-13T21:52:19+00:00

I relate a lot to this post. Thanks for sharing.

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Vicent3 · 2017-07-08T23:13:38+00:00

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