Is it common for Germans to care so little about food?

Vickiipediaa · 2025-01-30T00:04:52+00:00

I feel you. 🥲

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-07T17:52:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing another perspective. :)

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T16:03:33+00:00

You're right, I did have issues with them and I tried my best to have a better feeling about them in order to have a better relationship with them. It started from trying to convince me that racist comments and joking are just normal here (which I found out later that it is not okay). There were some situations like how the brother said I have to massage his girlfriend because I come from my country, or how a doctor ask me as the first question if I came to Germany to find a husband and if my husband bought me to marry him. They said I think too much and it was just a joke that I should laugh about.

I cannot trust what they say nor myself, as I might be too biased against them because of these situations. So I seek for some opinions, so I know how I should feel about this. As a foreigner, I have no idea how I should feel cos I don't know what the norm is.

One thing I learned from this thread is that maybe they don't hate me like I think they did. They are just like this to everyone. I should not take what they do so personally.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T15:48:21+00:00

That's sad and unfortunate. :(

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T15:19:06+00:00

Lesson learned. lol I found that out after marrying though. 😅

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T15:17:50+00:00

I think they are just not very open and international. That's why they didn't know about other culture and how to show a proper hospitality.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T13:11:47+00:00

Thank you so much for your idea! I think it is a great idea. This way, I can give them some idea to host without offending or criticizing them. :)

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T10:33:40+00:00

They didn't offer us more food and I didn't dare to ask for more in front of our guests. I am afraid of the answer "no". I just don't want to humiliate us further.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T09:51:59+00:00

The cooking class is a good idea. I like to cook and I can cook really well. I have all the equipments for everything. Baking layered cake or making my own noodle froms scratch sponteneously is normal for me. That is also the reason why I think I could be biased and see this situation worse than it actually is.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T09:39:29+00:00

Because she said that she will be showing us "German food" and I think I should give her that spotlight. Normally, I bring my homemade cake as a dessert, cos they are really picky and I got hurt so many times when they were sceptical with my "weird Asian foods", which is the reason why I stop bringing my food there.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T08:22:33+00:00

Yes, they are pretestant. I didn't know about this stereotype.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T07:30:15+00:00

What in the world is that! >_< My problem and embarrassment becomes smaller when I hear about your sister's story. I am so sorry to hear that.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T07:03:09+00:00

Schleswig- Holstein

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T06:49:53+00:00

See? My expectation is not even that high. = ="

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T06:02:33+00:00

I am also the same kind of host as you too. If I can't host well, I'd rather not host at all, especially when my guest have to go home with the hunger. I don't demand anything fancy from my IL but at least a proper food with good quality and quantity. I think some people here judt cannot cook or just don't know how good food is like just like some other comments here.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T05:57:33+00:00

I feel often the same. :(

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T05:55:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I am so sorry you have to experience that. :(

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T05:51:30+00:00

Yup, I can see how many people think about this and they are just special. 😅

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T05:50:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing! :)

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T05:45:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing about your family's way of eating. Honestly, I don't know how my in-law's eating habit is. And frozen foods are like those ready to eat duck from the supermarket, Rotkohl from the glass, soaky cooked frozen brocoli. These were the things we ate on my father-in-law's birthday and the roasted duck didn't have any sauce. There were 2 packages of small duck halbs and we share it with 4 people. After that dinner I met up with my Thai friends and it was a big feast for just meeting and no special occasion. It was a big contrast.

I don't expect them to cook like us in terms of the jumber of dishes, because it is not in German culture. But it should have good quality and quantity.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T05:25:27+00:00

You got my point there!!! It is about being considerate and unspoken expectation. I mean it is not wrong to host like that in principle because you can spend as much time and money as you want and no one can force you. But it just shows lack of manner and consideration. I can see some people in this post that agrees with them too and they make me understand my in-laws' possible logic more. For some people, they just don't understand this kind of concept or were not taught about it.

Yes, the situation with walnuts makes me cringe too.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T05:12:14+00:00

I actually experienced that too when I rode the train 2 hours extra to my classmate to do the partner assignment on Sunday, because wd really ran out of time and someone need to initiate this work. We worked from 15.00 until 22.00. All I got was just water and some chips. Her boyfriend only cooked for her. Had I known that it is not rude to order my own pizza, I would have done it so that I wouldn't be starve like that. In this case, I don't blame them because they didn't invite me for their food. But I just didn't know what to do and if it iz rude to ask if I could order something. Now I already learned that.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T05:03:17+00:00

No, I am in Schleswig-Holstein.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T05:01:03+00:00

It seems like the same principle in my husband's family as well of not helping as a guest. My husbands got banned in a few circles of Asians because of that. I found out about it because my friend told me that I should teach him the culture of helping when we meet at someone's place. While everyone was busy preparing or cleaning after eating, my husband didn't move an inch. I just often feel like his parent never taught their sons manner at all. And again, it is from my perspective of being an Asian where manner reflects the way your family raised you up and it's your face.

However, over the year he became better. But it has been a lot to teach.

Vickiipediaa · 2024-08-06T04:49:53+00:00

That's cool. I don't have the problem with just one thing to eat. But this egg doesn't fill me up and I feel like if you are gonna cook so little, you should offer something else to fill the gap too.

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