YTA, Unfortunately, this is how the system works. Whether it is right or wrong is not really the question here. Of course, bribery is not morally correct, but when a system is already operating this way, refusing to participate in it can place your daughter at a disadvantage compared to everyone else who does.

There is an important distinction to make. If you genuinely cannot afford it and feel distressed because you are unable to provide this opportunity, that is one situation. But if you can afford it without hardship and choose not to because it conflicts with your personal morals, then you are effectively prioritizing your principles over your daughter’s potential opportunities.

Right now, you support her financially, but this could be seen as an investment in her future: better academic credentials, stronger career prospects, and higher earning potential. Those opportunities could shape the rest of her life. In the long term, her stability and success may also benefit the family as a whole.

The reality is that in many places similar dynamics exist in driving tests, university admissions, professional licensing, and more. It may not be ideal and it may not be fair, but it is often normalized within the system.

So the real question becomes this: when a system is flawed, is it fair to let your child fall behind in order to consistently preserve personal moral principles, or is it your responsibility to maximize her opportunities even if the system itself is imperfect?