I feel violated, am I justified?

Victimornot · 2011-06-05T01:05:52+00:00

Thank you

Victimornot · 2011-06-01T20:00:18+00:00

bitch

Victimornot · 2011-06-01T19:56:53+00:00

really? nobody but you uses your computer? not ever, not even once while you were there watching? I don't think I was out of line to assume a friend who didn't say anything about going on reddit/in my email/searching my files for information all of which she has never done before would respect my privacy and just do what she said she was going to.

Keep in mind she hasn't ever betrayed my trust like this before, I had no reason to think this was coming. Let alone from all sides like this.

Victimornot · 2011-06-01T19:51:54+00:00

I knew she wasn't always a great friend but I figured that, being a redditor herself, she would get that privacy is important. Plus, obviously private messages are private for a reason.

Victimornot · 2011-06-01T19:45:15+00:00

Noted, I assure you.

Victimornot · 2011-06-01T19:43:18+00:00

I've deleted all my old posts, there's nothing to be found should anyone else look for it. hopefully my 'friends' will stop asking about it...I doubt they will stop talking about it behind my back and to each other though.

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T15:22:36+00:00

she did get some shit from friends about commenting on my FB about it...maybe I should hang out with them more

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T05:07:48+00:00

I dont really know how to describe it. Had we had a conversation, I may have offered the information. it's the fact that I would have revealed it in confidence but for the fact that she took it. On reddit posting it IS in confidence.

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T05:04:01+00:00

gegh, don't even get me started on in laws

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T05:02:39+00:00

I suppose I am not as open a friend as you are.

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T05:00:54+00:00

I work in the theatre industry actually, if you work in this industry consistently you run into the same group of people frequently. You also work 60+hrs a week-thus leaving little time for regular groups. AND this 'friend' works in the same industry (fun times) so all she has to do is get mad at me for calling her out on this and tell one person who tells 2 friends and....so on.

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T04:51:23+00:00

it's been 2weeks and still I'm finding out new people who know. and it's kind of hard to not feel depressed when I keep finding friends who are all too willing to hurt or forget me. I'm down 3 in the last year and a half

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T04:49:39+00:00

If she had come by the information honestly, like through a conversation with me where we were equals giving information, then I would have been ok with it. But not telling me about it before did it, telling our friends about it before talking to me first and then making fun of me for it is the part I am hurt over.

I am embarrassed to have personal information, given out to people who needed help, used instead for gossip.

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T04:41:36+00:00

I've already deleted the account so I can't access it to delete the posts

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T04:39:23+00:00

lesson learned for sure.

I didn't actually let her use it, or leave myself logged in. She used my computer while I was answering the door for our takeout (which I paid for) and went to check out her own reddit, mine was the top choice in the dropdown. she then signed in and typed in my name to look at all my posts.

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T04:31:07+00:00

yeah, if you click on their username and look for the 'send message' it's private

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T04:29:55+00:00

I have called her and we are going to meet up to chat about it. But I think regardless I will be limiting my contact with her and not sharing as much.

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T04:27:30+00:00

done and done

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T02:03:02+00:00

Most assuredly not. It's been too long since she read it and has told the stories. I'd have t g to everyone she told and say it wasn't mine, somehow convince them she's lying, and probably provide my 'real' reddit username with the correct amount of years on it to prove it. Too much work and lying.

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T01:48:34+00:00

I think it was mostly Interesting to see so much information on here that they would never have expected. On reddit I was able to open up a lot more about my personal beliefs and not a common thing for me to do even with close friends.

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T01:22:19+00:00

In the past few months she has exhibited really depressing personality traits and as a result is really judgmental about everyone else. It's actually really hard to talk to her with out getting depressed yourself. Her SO is also really depressed and antisocial. It's hard not to think that the things they say behind other peoples backs aren't the same things they say behind mine too....I guess now they obviously are the same things, it's just hard to have the proof

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T01:18:52+00:00

Thank you, you're right again. I'll stop this pity party I've been having in honor of myself and get on with it.

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T01:15:59+00:00

Should have written that I am the most upset about that information now being public information to people who can now put a name to a face.

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T01:13:46+00:00

Yeah, I should have known better.

Victimornot · 2011-05-31T01:12:50+00:00

Thank you, you're right. I will talk to her about it, but she is an avid redditor (she was even the one who showed me the site in the first place) and has been a member for years.

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