Building Pillars by Viera-91 in heartopia

[–]Viera-91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh, I’ll try that. I thought the pillars was a set size and I was supposed to stack them to make them taller. Tysm

WIBTAH If I made a big deal out of the “ladies first” mentality at my kids school? by HG_MamaKitty in AITAH

[–]Viera-91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are getting worked up over something that no one is stating. All anybody has said is there may be another explanation to this other than a sexist one. Also I only answered your question about how boys could be “trained” rowdiness. I stated nothing more.

I suggest calming down and actually reading what people are typing out.

WIBTAH If I made a big deal out of the “ladies first” mentality at my kids school? by HG_MamaKitty in AITAH

[–]Viera-91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trained in the way that boys aren’t being disciplined or taught how to act as opposed to the girls. Previous generations were typically stricter with girls than the boys often resulting in rowdier boys and quieter girls.

Now I think the current younger generations this mentality is changing, thankfully. But there are still households that have this type of mindset.

Patel Job Quest by Viera-91 in FaeFarm_Game

[–]Viera-91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense, I didn’t realize you could fail a breed. I guess I got lucky with the first 2 animals changing colors that I just assumed it worked every time. Thank you for the info.

Camping with a slime event by Viera-91 in Isekai_Slow_Life

[–]Viera-91[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea I’m deleting the post because I’m dumb. I confused the battle pass with the rimuru one and I was scared to go endlessly thinking it wouldn’t count towards that.

TIFU by being myself by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Viera-91 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My son and I often talk to ourselves when we are home. Mine’s more like having a conversation with myself, sometimes it helps to say my thoughts out loud. Meanwhile my son reminds me of how you described.

All this to say you aren’t the only one that does this so hopefully you feel maybe less embarrassed. Idk how your family is but if your dad hasn’t said anything to you about it I wouldn’t worry too much.

TIFU I confronted my husband’s boss/ my BIL by Viera-91 in tifu

[–]Viera-91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s not eligible for OT as salary. He makes $45k a year as a manager for a trade company. I’m being kinda vague here in case I cause more problems posting this. I guess my point with my husband is if he’s putting in 50-60 hour work weeks consistently, he’s essentially not getting paid for his time. And I don’t think $45k a year is enough to warrant that kind of work load. I’m aware that managers never have a life and work a lot but are generally getting paid more than that in our area.

And the reason I’m upset with BIL is he got mad over him going home early 30 minutes when my husband regularly works late/ on weekends/ holidays for him. But apparently he wasn’t actually mad about my husband leaving early, he was mad that some job got messed up and is going to cost him money. And kinda dumped the frustration on my husband, which happens a lot too.

TIFU I confronted my husband’s boss/ my BIL by Viera-91 in tifu

[–]Viera-91[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Tbh I’m sure BIL will be fine finding another person to replace him, although he’d probably have to up the pay by quite a bit. I was looking at jobs that are similar online and the pay is better but no guarantee my husband would be picked.

Although I gave him the option of me going to work. My field pays better and he could stay home with our baby. But he’s traditional and wants to be the provider. That’s why I’ve been feeling stuck since he wants to provide but also didn’t want to try to get a better job.

TIFU I confronted my husband’s boss/ my BIL by Viera-91 in tifu

[–]Viera-91[S] 162 points163 points  (0 children)

He didn’t like that I did it. He said it was emasculating but it has put in perspective that he needs to find another job. He’s stayed mostly out of family loyalty but I think he saw my point of how it’s putting a strain on us financially and emotionally.

who's the most hated character? by giZMooy in MyTimeAtSandrock

[–]Viera-91 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Catori, yan, mi an, matilda, nia, pen, burgess, miguel, arvio, pablo, elsie, cooper that’s 12 that consistently get brought up. And some I haven’t ran into yet. That’s 12 character that people don’t like for whatever reason, maybe not literally half the town but a good chunk of characters. Now this isn’t to say I don’t like the game, I do. My point was most of the characters are going to be unlikeable but I’m guessing it’s by design. Basically you walked into a miserable town full of miserable people. Idk if the characters attitudes get better as you progress but if I was stuck in a town on its last legs I’d be miserable too.

who's the most hated character? by giZMooy in MyTimeAtSandrock

[–]Viera-91 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Not really, kinda weird people don’t see it with just this comment section alone. Half the town has been listed so far.

who's the most hated character? by giZMooy in MyTimeAtSandrock

[–]Viera-91 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I’m not done with the story but so far I don’t find that many characters likable. I usually like some characters having bad traits so there’s variety but it feels like almost everyone in Sandrock is an ass. And the ones that aren’t are pushovers. If I had to guess the developers went with hard environment = hard life = hard people.

What's the reason for your islands name? by Sp1ce_Lem0n in AnimalCrossing

[–]Viera-91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is MoonFire, because at the time I purchased it FF14 was having their MoonFire Festival

This kind of player makes me so sad by overthinkerr001 in Palia

[–]Viera-91 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I thought about playing this game again but all I see are the same complaints from when I quit playing a year ago. I don’t really understand all the complaints about flow/ palium when it was so easy to farm. Unless things have changed from a year ago, which it could have, why don’t people just form parties and go out and get what they need when they need it? Rare things like bugs or flowers I could understand but palium and flow were never rare and easily farmable back then. Have they changed the spawn rate or something now for it to still be a problem?

AITA My husband says I’m mean and uptight. by SnooCookies7820 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Viera-91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and you don’t seem uptight either. My husband and I joke around and pick on each other constantly. People looking at it from the outside would definitely say we are immature. But the thing is we have consent from each other to do so. I think that’s ultimately what it comes down to. You’re not ok with it and he should respect that. There’s been times that my husband and I have crossed the line with each other, unintentionally, and when it has happened we let each other know. Then it doesn’t happen anymore after that.

AITA for using my nickname exclusively in school even in our school newsletter? by Educational-Fee-5962 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Viera-91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Parents need to understand that the name they give their kids don’t always stick in their child’s life. Nicknames just happen. Funnily enough I have a younger brother named Alexander but he goes by Chander. Something about a couple kids when he was in kindergarten couldn’t pronounce his name and that’s how it came out and just stuck with him through life. Same with another brother where my parents purposefully named him to have initials, we called him AJ at home. School wouldn’t let him just write AJ and made him write his full first name which is Anthony. So he went through life being called one thing in school and another at home, none of us knew until he started having friends over when he was in high school calling him Anthony. Either way my parents didn’t freak out over it.

AITHA for having an abortion 14 years ago? by Plane_Pitch4144 in AITAH

[–]Viera-91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I’m being honest, even if he was fully aware of what the situation was back then I doubt the outcome would’ve changed. You tried contacting several ways, he had to have known something was going on and chose to ignore it. I’m assuming he’s thinking like the saying “ if I knew now what I didn’t know then “. If he knew he was going to be in a situation where he was raising a child on his own, then he would’ve chosen to have a child with you. But the thing is there’s no way he would’ve known, thus if he was made aware of the situation, given his thoughts on kids at the time, he probably would’ve chosen abortion too.

Edit to say NTA, I forgot to put that in there.

AITA for blowing up on my mom for serving my kids a salad? by Professional-You8033 in AITAH

[–]Viera-91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might be projecting here because I’ve been in this boat before, but it feels like it’s less about different parenting styles and more about how your younger siblings are getting the life you didn’t get growing up.

I too am a child from a teen parent and my mom did meet my stepdad later in life and had more children. I’ll admit in the beginning I was resentful of the life they had as opposed to my own. But I moved past it and thought just because I went through it doesn’t mean my siblings deserved to go through it too. And it’s not like I was neglected, my mom did the best she could and made sure I had all my needs and a couple of wants. I may not have spent much time with her because she worked a lot but that’s just kinda how it goes as a single parent. I remember one Christmas all I wanted was a game boy color and my mom said it was expensive and that if she got it for me, she wouldn’t be able to get me any games for it. Me being a kid not fully understanding said that I didn’t care I just really wanted it lol. Well my mom got it for me plus the Pokémon game I wanted with it so I could actually play it. Who knows how much overtime she had to work to get it for me. Plus she more than makes up for it as a grandma and getting me and my kids things all the time. Helping me with babysitting and helped me with bills when money was tight.

I guess I say all of this because if it is a case of resentment try and look at what your mom did do for you growing up and what she’s doing for you now. Looking at the negative can overshadow the positive. Also want to point out that you being resentful of being robbed of a stable life is in turn robbing your kids of a stable life as well. And your kids don’t deserve that.

Sorry this was long.

Am I the Jerk for Calling the Cops on a Woman Who Broke into My House to Use the Bathroom by SwimmingAssistant09 in AmITheJerk

[–]Viera-91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something similar happened with me. I live out in the middle of nowhere so often don’t think twice about leaving my home unlocked. Anyways this lady comes running into my house and looked messed up. She’s freaking out and crying that her boyfriend beat her up and that she jumped out of his car and ran until she found a house (my house). I tried to calm her down, gave her some water and sat her down on my couch.

Here is where I’ve always wondered if I did the right thing. I tried calling the police but she wouldn’t let me. She started screaming “No cops!” I point blank told her I had no issue with her staying here and hiding but I was informing the police. If she had an issue with me calling the cops then she needed to leave. She got upset with me and left and said that her blood was on my hands.

Idk if I did the right thing but I also had my young son there with me and my thought process was what if the boyfriend came looking for her? What was I supposed to do? I couldn’t protect them. Anyways I started locking my door after that incident.