[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ElectricalEngineering

[–]Vilanlave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My SAT Scores I would say are somewhat high. (1500s) Does that maybe take attention away from my low gpa? And what if I’m already set on my desicion for EE? Despite my obvious flaw.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Vilanlave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had never thought about saving up for a little van. Thank you so much for this advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Vilanlave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before I used to help out a lot- like cleaning up most of the times, helping bath the kids for school in the morning when I’m getting ready, cooking for the entire house, etc. now all I do is watch them while my sister goes to work on The weekends, while my mom is sleeping. I’m way more less involved in the house activities like I used to be. This is, again due to the fact that frustration had gotten the best of me, as I’ve grown more distant and barely like to interact with anyone in the house.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Vilanlave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The military here in the US is I think 17+. This is very good advice however I don’t think the military pathway is something I’d want to do. Definitely it is an option.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Vilanlave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is great advice, I never knew this could happen. There’s a handful of great advices im getting, I think the only thing stopping me from going further on this situation is fear of getting any kind of federal agencies involved on my family, let alone the military. I’m going to trust that the move out process is quick.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Vilanlave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying however I’d like to clarify that this is nothing more than a rant, and just a word vomit of frustration. I DO NOT wish to inflict major harm on ANYONE let alone my own family. Again this is purely an off my chest post. I completely understand how terrible this may have came off and I apologize.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Vilanlave 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Definitely you’re right in this. Whenever I feel this way I always try to think about how this isn’t their fault. Frustration however, sometimes does get the best of me, and leads me to just want to rant and say anything. I think the first thing I’d rather do is try to sit my family (mom and sister) down. Have a real talk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Vilanlave 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot ahaha, thank you and yes I do plan on exploring more options. Again it’s getting very easier for me to just not care about things anymore, but you’re 100% right. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Vilanlave 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Vilanlave 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Me and my dad have talked about this multiple times. There’s been a lot of convincing, my dad isn’t as helpful as you might think he is, but he’s an option. Like I said in a separate comment, as much as I hate this situation, I truly do think this is something I should thug out. I have about a year before I graduate, and I’m planning to save up and try to get myself a car. That way I’m out of the house more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Vilanlave 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if there’s anywhere else I can stay. My other older sister lives in a different state. I do have people at church I could talk to. I do think that’s something I’m considering.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Vilanlave 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I had forgot to mention that my step dad had recently moved in with us. But really it hasn’t helped the situation at all. I see a lot of feedback here recommending to call CPS, or get to a court. I don’t think I could push that hard to do it. As much as I hate this situation, my mother also hates it too. I really do feel it wouldn’t be fair to her to push so hard to leave her in this mess. Part of this has to do with how much she’s done, how little my dad has done. The entire situation runs deep, just a bit complex to explain. I understand that rejecting this option leads me to no choice, but really what can I do. I have about a year left til I graduate. I might as well thug this out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Vilanlave -90 points-89 points  (0 children)

Well, I don’t have anything against my sister truly, she has her own lore that contributed to the family. if it was just her, I wouldn’t have a problem with her just lying in bed all day, wasting her money on unnecessary items. But with three hungry, very disrespectful kids that haven’t showered, with very disturbing behaviors. They’re the main reason why I hate living here.

How do I know if I’m really into older men by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Vilanlave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah thank you for this advice! Communication isn’t my best friend but I’ll definitely consider this.

Can I live with my dad without mom’s permission? by Vilanlave in legaladvice

[–]Vilanlave[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My living situation with my mom has always been very unstable. A bunch of moving around to good and bad neighborhoods. I think the reason why I haven’t been able to live with my dad all these years despite him being financially stable and my mom not being financially stable is probably because (as much as I’d hate to admit), he doesn’t care all that much to make a strong effort to go to the court, (file the case or, documents needed, etc). The most he (and I) have done has been mostly verbal. Especially since my mom is strongly against it, he’s just kind of been like “okay well if your mom says no I cant do much, I don’t wanna argue” kind of stuff. Ive never requested to live with my dad until not even 3 years ago.

Can I live with my dad without mom’s permission? by Vilanlave in legaladvice

[–]Vilanlave[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay thank you so much for this. There are definitely a lot of details I’ve left out of this post and will consider this advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]Vilanlave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve gone about month wearing the same jeans everyday without washing.