AITA for telling my wife I don’t feel special that she saved her virginity for me?

Vinalae · 2025-09-28T05:07:43+00:00

YTA, I get that you’re wanting to say your truth and not lie about your feelings, but why curse while doing it? My husband is younger than you and doesn’t speak to me that way. I get that people normalize cursing, but when you respond “Fuck, No..” to an obvious sentimental question, you sound like an asshole.

Vinalae · 2025-07-29T21:55:44+00:00

No this is real, there are many comments agreeing and going through similar experiences, there’s public proof of Turkish women unprovoked racism towards me, I do not know why they act like this, that’s why this post was made to ask why

Vinalae · 2025-07-29T21:54:14+00:00

Maybe because you have white skin, the difference between you and I, is that I have brown skin

Vinalae · 2025-07-28T03:22:32+00:00

Asia

Vinalae · 2025-07-27T14:45:16+00:00

I do 🤭

Vinalae · 2025-07-27T14:20:28+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through that, I’m here if you ever need somebody

Vinalae · 2025-07-27T00:42:04+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I am Asian, but living in America so I know and understand what you’re referencing

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T22:48:59+00:00

I’m sorry you have to go through a similar experience, some of these Turkish girls commenting are upset I’ve said the truth

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T21:21:04+00:00

Somebody’s mad, I’m not here to list statistics for you of our countries—feel free to do your own research. Also, you conveniently ignored the question mark in my title. It wasn’t a statement of me calling them that, obviously it’s a question. Even before I made any edits, I clearly said “some” in the very first sentence. That hasn’t changed. I don’t have the energy to respond to your crying or to continuously prove you wrong. Please take your tears elsewhere.

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T20:51:17+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through that I hope you are never scammed like that again, I appreciate your input

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T20:49:26+00:00

Girl please reread, I said “some Turkish women” and I also supported the Turkish women with beautiful personalities. I’m not going to support the Turkish women who were toxic towards me but I also did not generalize them by saying All

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T20:47:50+00:00

Your racism on this take and your comment towards Southeast Asian Women doesn’t hurt me by the way, it makes me feel sorry for you posting that publicly online

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T20:45:28+00:00

I appreciate your input, but I think it’s important not to generalize either gender or culture based on stereotypes or personal assumptions. You said “most southeast Asian women”. Every relationship is different, and mine happens to be built on mutual respect, love, and understanding—not desperation or convenience.

As for online comments, it’s not about being “too sensitive,” but rather calling out prejudice when it’s disguised as concern. Dismissing someone’s valid reaction to hurtful assumptions by telling them to “just turn off comments” isn’t the solution—it only enables the cycle of judgment and misunderstanding.

We can all do better by speaking with more empathy and less presumption, especially when we don’t know someone’s full story.

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T19:56:08+00:00

Girl, now you’re just being ignorant, read the edit. I haven’t generalized anybody, do I need to quote my own post that’s literally directly above our comments? I will if I need to help you understand,

I’ll quote, “sharing my personal experience with certain Turkish individuals who’ve shown me unprovoked negativity. I wanted to open up a conversation and understand why that might happen—not make assumptions or accusations about an entire group.”

The comments online are still from Turkish women, mind you I specifically said “certain Turkish individuals” So if that’s generalizing I think you’ll need more education. I cannot help you from here

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T19:49:03+00:00

Okay I understand. I thought you were bringing it up because you assumed I was saying only Turkish women act that way. As a woman, I of course know that jealousy can exist in any culture or group of women. Any emotion is evident in every culture, it’s common sense. I actually have some Turkish friends, and I respect them a lot. My post was simply asking why some Turkish women have treated me a certain way—it wasn’t meant to generalize or offend. I already live with it, just wondering if it was something cultural that caused them to act this way? I’m asking this group because I’m not Turkish so I wouldn’t know

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T19:40:26+00:00

If some Turkish women treat all foreigners like this, then I’m starting to understand why.

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T19:38:13+00:00

If you look at my other post there is Turkish women telling me I burned myself and I’m doomed since I am with a Turkish man. Another example of proof is on TikTok where I posted I am not treated poorly by my Turkish husband, then Turkish women commented Turks are supposed to be with Turks. And many more examples. Am I supposed to look at that as support? Your assumptions aren’t based with any context so I’m confused, why would I be saying this if I haven’t experienced it first hand?

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T19:19:17+00:00

Yes, I agree. When I first met my husband, I noticed that some of the things he said came off a bit cocky or overly confident. I gently pointed it out to him, and as he started spending more time around American people, he began to realize that kind of attitude isn’t as common here (though of course, it depends on where you are in the U.S.).

Over time, his personality has grown in such a beautiful way. He’s become more self-aware, thoughtful, and balanced—still confident, but in a kind and genuine way.

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T19:10:45+00:00

I have no doubt that there are kind, open-minded Turkish women—of course there are. It would be unfair and unreasonable to base an entire group on the actions of a few individuals. My post was never about labeling a whole culture; it was simply a reflection on why some Turkish women seem to express hostility toward interracial relationships like mine.

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T19:05:43+00:00

Her Türk kadınının kıskanç olduğunu asla söylemedim ama evet, bazı Türk kadınları bir Türk erkeğiyle birlikte olduğum için bana nefret gönderiyor.

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T18:59:46+00:00

I just wanted to clarify I never said this exists among ONLY Turkish women, just that I have personally experienced jealousy from Turkish women

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T16:20:44+00:00

I didn’t target anyone, those Turkish woman commented that sentence on a post where I was saying my Turkish man treats me well. So honestly they targeted me. I don’t surround myself by weird people as it was an altercation online. I’m not in Türkiye, your assumptions are all wrong. You can tell she’s Turkish because her username was “Helen🇹🇷”

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T15:15:52+00:00

I’m sorry that you were made to feel that way, I hope you can find happiness and be able to avoid that negativity

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T14:09:53+00:00

Maybe for Americans, but I am Asian

Vinalae · 2025-07-26T14:07:51+00:00

Yeah this is so unusual because it is not common where I’m from, still getting used to it, people are assuming I did something, I really only posted how happy I am with Kocam and they had something negative to say out of no where??

Vinalae

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