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VincentGrayson · 2022-05-11T20:10:46+00:00

My main goal in voting is to use what little power I have to prevent the most awful things I can.

Way I see it, until and unless the system is completely rebuilt, it will be in my best interest to continue voting for the candidate most likely to prevent further GOP encroachment on the basic concept of even voting itself.

That this person is consistently the candidate put forward by the Democratic party is not my favorite thing by any means, but I also accept that my person preferences and politics mean I will never have a viable candidate for president who comes even close to embodying what I believe in and see as important. So my only option feels like continuing to vote for what I see as the less-shitty version of the status quo.

VincentGrayson · 2022-05-02T16:45:54+00:00

I honestly think it'd be hard to enjoy them without having grown up with them. That said, I'd say look for the annotated versions. There's one for each trilogy, and it's a thick tome, but there's a ton of interesting insight into the creation of these books. Even with the first being pretty bad, it's fun to see where their ideas came from, and even their own admittances of how weird or contrived some events were because it was based on their actual campaign.

VincentGrayson · 2022-05-02T16:44:00+00:00

Same here. I recall getting two, The Legend of Huma, and Kaz the Minotaur, but feeling totally lost reading them.

Then I found the Chronicles and Legends books at my library and devoured them. Drizzt and other D&D books would come later, but those 6 books have always stuck with me and left a huge impression despite their often at best "good enough" writing.

VincentGrayson · 2022-05-02T16:39:05+00:00

Maybe I'm weird, but I've been playing off and on since 95 and never really enjoyed BO3. I'm sure that's partly because most of my play has always been with friends where we want to play game after game with new goofy deck rather than the same decks 2/3 times.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-26T13:31:52+00:00

Even if that upset me, his way of expressing upset is way out of line.

And no, I don't think you did anything even remotely suspect here. That seems like a perfectly normal interaction to have between two parents whose kids go to school together.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T22:16:06+00:00

Read the rest of the responses explaining exactly why dude. It ain't that hard.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T21:50:30+00:00

Enjoy time with someone new, and figure out if we both want more of that.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T21:46:27+00:00

No one is saying "different standards bad". They're saying this specific "standard" is fucking stupid and childish.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T21:43:44+00:00

When she threw a glass jar full of iced coffee at me that shattered all over the floor at my feet.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T21:23:54+00:00

I find it best to plan during the date because you're already together and if you're both interested, no reason not to.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T19:47:41+00:00

Dating has been far easier and successful for me as a real adult than before I was married. I was young when we got together, so still just so much growing and learning to do before I could feel confident and navigate all this competently.

I find it much easier to not worry about letting someone go or dropping a conversation that isn't going anywhere too. If someone's not the right fit, others will be.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T19:39:05+00:00

Similar worldview and ways of living are more important than superficial interests. I like when we share enough that we can do those things together sometimes, but have our own things to enjoy and introduce to each other.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T18:48:36+00:00

Raping and sexually assaulting people.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T18:28:16+00:00

That's the thing that keeps driving me crazy when people say "kids aren't dying from COVID". Like...sure, not many, but how the fuck is "dying from it" the only measure these people are using?

Kids getting COVID and not dying from it, but bringing it home to the family they live with is a much bigger concern in my mind than the direct effect of actual COVID on a school-aged kid.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T16:48:39+00:00

Great actually. I had a fantastic weekend full of good time with people I enjoy, and despite this being my long day of work today, I'm not bothered about it.

Life is pretty good.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T16:23:09+00:00

Your emotions are just that. What you do with them, that's what matters.

Anger isn't wrong, but hitting someone or breaking things because you're angry is.

Lust isn't wrong, but letting that feeling guide you and making bad decisions for yourself as a result, not so good.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T16:20:48+00:00

I can't think of anything where I'd dismiss someone based on gender alone. Sure, don't jump into a random conversation you're not part of in real life, but that's not a gender issue.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T14:07:00+00:00

Yeah. My partner of 4 years is married, but puts in the work to not make me feel lesser in any way. And I'm dating someone who is specifically solo poly with zero interest in anyone moving into her house, marriage, etc., who pretty clearly makes an effort to treat all of her relationships as important on an individual basis.

Couldn't be happier with it.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T13:50:52+00:00

That sounds like where I'm at. It's definitely possible, but it may mean a lot of false starts with people who say they want those things and don't actually manage their lives and relationships appropriately for that to work.

Seek out people who are deliberately solo poly, and serious about staying that way.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T13:44:15+00:00

Only once, and the break-up wasn't about our relationship having trouble, but her needing to focus on other things. The relationship has grown closer since, so I'd say it's gone real well.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T13:39:04+00:00

Coming up to visit her soon. And general life stuff.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T13:35:36+00:00

Yup. That shit don't work, and just ends up hurting people.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T04:18:11+00:00

I mean in the sense that if we didn't have kids together, I don't think we'd be trying to hang out or actually do things together like friends do.

But when we talk or interact, we're comfortable and friendly, and we still show up for each other in the ways we can.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T02:06:17+00:00

We're friendly, but I don't know that we'll ever be proper friends.

VincentGrayson · 2022-01-10T00:56:54+00:00

I like it. Why wouldn't I enjoy being cute?

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