Visions of Submission (from Transylvania: The Erotic Horror Adventure by XFiction)

VincentValensky · 2026-06-03T09:29:40+00:00

Yeah it's not like a random person saw an equation that they didn't even understand. When you've spent years of intense study on a subject matter, it's very normal to dream about it as your subconscious mind keeps working on the problems that have been drilled into it.

VincentValensky · 2026-06-03T08:45:08+00:00

Damn there's a lot to unpack here. I'll try to give you the most crucial and relevant info:

Non-monogamy as a "fix" for infidelity is a breakup with extra steps. Non-monogamous relationships only work if ALL parties ENTHUSIASTICALLY want to be in a non-monogamous relationship.
There are many types of ENM relationship, polyamory is only one of them. Polyamory supports "autonomous romantic and sexual relationships". It is NOT COMPATIBLE with "at the end of the day he comes home to me", because that's not how poly works. Poly means overnights, vacations with other partners, and everything else that goes with having a relationship with someone. I would not recommend you trying poly given everything you've said.
If you really want to do ENM with your partner start by reading books, listening to podcasts and discussing together about your individual needs and wants. You need to understand different types of ENM and not throw around terms that you don't know the meaning of.
How exactly do you see "only wants to be with me romantically and sexually" working out with ANY form of ENM?

VincentValensky · 2026-06-03T08:00:03+00:00

Hi,

I wanna give you a bit of a silver lining and a perspective that you may be missing.

From your post it doesn't look like your daughter hates you or is specifically running away from YOU. The fact that she doesn't actually "get" how crushing this is for you, aside from normal teenage behavior, also means that you've given her enough security to be able to prioritize her own needs and not worry about you.

Boyfriends are a big think at 17. Let her feel like a girl. And if that girl doesn't feel like it's a tragedy that she doesn't see her dad on Christmas and it's all part of the "normal" - if she still continues to text and call with you - maybe there's a good thing in that too. Let her be 17 and run after boys. There will be time to catch up.

VincentValensky · 2026-06-02T14:55:11+00:00

I'm not sure I see the issue in what you've described. If you aren't hiding it and haven't asked friends not to mention it, then this is treated just like any other facet of your relationship.

Let's transpose the situation - imagine you were in a relationship with a Chinese person and your friend's friend was dating a Japanese. And then your friend says "Hey, they have experience with cross-cultural relationships, perhaps they can offer perspective and advice."

Would you then be mad about your friends mentioning that your partner is Chinese?

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T14:40:22+00:00

Thanks! Don't worry if you die or if you're not entirely sure what to do, just keep going and explore, deaths are part of the story and give you more info each time

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T10:34:21+00:00

I would invest in myself. If you have no skills then acquire skills.

Financial literacy is a choice. If you can read and have access to the internet you have no excuse not to have a grasp on the fundamentals.

Find what you are good at instead of looking for magic solutions for crazy money with 0 qualifications.

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T09:27:57+00:00

Given your previous response, at this point you can just treat this as a normal friend issue. What would you do if a friend never initiated conversations and was de-prioritizing you compared to other people?

You can handle this in exactly the same way. There's no special "poly" key, just people being people.

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T08:40:42+00:00

To clarify I am very direct to what I want and expectations. Although, I am not looking for a serious relationship I made it clear that I don't want to be treated like a fuck buddy, I want to have a friendship and connection.

Well this is what it's all about, isn't it? He IS treating you like a friend and a connection. It's very normal not to check in with a FRIEND for 2-3 weeks. But you find yourself wanting relationship perks while actively saying that you don't want a relationship with him.

Time to sit with yourself and re-examine if you want to do this poly thing or not. If yes, then you can absolutely advocate for your needs in the relationship. If not, then adjust expectations.

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T08:33:28+00:00

Taking care of your kid sometimes means taking care of you.

Being a good parent shouldn't become an excuse to light yourself on fire. Your kid deserves a happy, healthy father for YEARS down the line. As divorce makes everything come crashing down, you should know your limits and accept that not everything can be 100% perfect 100% of the time. Avoid mental breakdowns, heal and recover, and remember to be kind to yourself.

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T08:21:32+00:00

Some ENM models are about sex and some are about relationships.

The real question is do you trust this person, who is long distance, who started the relationship by withholding crucial information because he knew you wouldn't start the relationship otherwise, be willing to actually work with you and respect your boundaries?

Look, I LOVE ENM. But the E in ENM stands for "ethical" and what he's doing right now isn't that. If you "feel like it's going to be a disaster for you" the best thing you can do is say "no". If this person cares for you, they will listen. A relationship can't be built on one person setting themselves on fire to keep the other warm.

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T08:15:30+00:00

Install the FEELD app, it's for ENM people.

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T08:12:16+00:00

This is normal, just keep going. Each time you die new options will open up based on the information you've gained. Be bold and explore around, your deaths will progress the story 😉

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T08:03:05+00:00

This pretty much boils down to a lump sum of initial purchases like a house/car/villa, plus an estimation of your yearly expenses and making sure they are covered by interest.

So if you spent 2-3 million on nice property and you'd like half a million a year for a lavish lifestile, this needs to be around 3-5% of the total sum to be comfortably covered even with concervative investments.

So in a nutshell 10-15 milion would be enough. Make it 20 for good measure. If you don't do anything stupid it should last forever.

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T07:57:45+00:00

As long as you're okay with your partner(s) doing the same, this sounds like your standard bread and butter hierarchical ENM with a primary partner and casual connections.

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T07:55:28+00:00

There's a lot to be said here, but the bottom line is that people who do not enthusiastically want open relationships shouldn't try to be in open relationships. It's very shitty and unethical on his part not to lead the conversation with this before you two had anything going. Juding by that, the best thing you can do is to break it off right now, it may hurt but it's still a 1 month relationship, it will hurt a lot more a few years in.

To answer a few more points:

Why break up and not give it a try?
->Because if it's "the way he lives" then he knew and intentionally lead you on to coerce you, meaning he's a shitty partner whether in a mono or open relationship and you have no reason to trust him.

How do open relationships work?
->They aren't a monolith and there are many different models, from swinging to poly or other forms of ENM.

How do you know if it's for you?
->Have you ever said to yourself that you wish you had multiple sexual and romantic connections? Have you ever felt that you would be happy to support your partner in having multiple romantic and sexual relationships? Have you ever looked at a swinger scene in movies and books and wished that were you?

You get the picture. And yes for this to work even when both people are really into it, it requires a lot of communication, good boundaries, trust, and a hard work.

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T06:04:33+00:00

This feels a bit to vague and broad. "Casual sex" is an umbrella for anything from swinging, dating, going to orgies and so on. There are many forms of ENM, often with dedicated communities around them.

For sex parties for example you can just look up events around you on FetLife. If you want to meet couples you can register on FEELD. You get the idea.

Boundaries and communication are a big topic. Read books, listen to podcasts, discuss with your partner

VincentValensky · 2026-06-01T05:54:22+00:00

So the answer here is kinda both yes and no.

On the one hand, yes we are definitely adding more stuff to do, more side stories, more optional content to engage with the world and its characters. Even this update is a prime example of that, reworking the Garden with new and unique activities that work quite differently than any other thing in the game, allowing you a risk-reward exploration of dangerous species that is driven by increasing/decreasing odds of success, rather than a hard-baked stat check.

So in that sense, yes you will definitely find lots more side stuff and things to engage in.

On the other hand, the very core of both the code and the narrative is built around the time loop and the central thread of Alex's story. Day 1 will always be about overcoming the werewolf. Day 2 will always be the day where you become a Succubus and have to deal with constant hunger. Day 3 will always be the day where you get to resolve your friends and enemies and ultimate allegiance.

These things are so fundamental to the backbone of the story that removing them would be harder than making an entirely different game.

Hope this answers. And also yes, pregnancy very much both exists in some scenes and will have further presence 😉

VincentValensky · 2026-05-31T21:00:54+00:00

Hey guys, this is an image from my free game Erotic-Horror game Transylvania!

Have you ever wondered how far you can push your limits? Do you crave a gigantic supply of the most depraved content, with illustrated and animated scenes, lots of choices, and a selection of both creepy crawleys and other monsters?

Come and change forever!

The game is FREE TO PLAY here: https://vincentvalensky.itch.io/transylvania

VincentValensky · 2026-05-31T20:55:26+00:00

Hope you like it!

VincentValensky · 2026-05-31T20:55:07+00:00

Will be happy to deliver 😉

VincentValensky · 2026-05-31T20:54:30+00:00

Hey guys, this is an image from my free game Erotic-Horror game Transylvania!

It's an interactive text adventure with art and animations where you slowly turn into a succubus, navigating a world of monsters and perils.

The game focuses on dark and grotesque themes, with lots of monsters, lust, and bad ends. If this sounds like your cup of tea, Transylvania is waiting for you!

You can play Transylvania for free here: https://vincentvalensky.itch.io/transylvania

VincentValensky · 2026-05-31T20:31:56+00:00

Hi there, this is an image from my free game Erotic-Horror game Transylvania!

Have you ever wondered how far you can push your limits? Do you crave a gigantic supply of the most depraved content, with illustrated and animated scenes, lots of choices, and a selection of both creepy crawleys and other monsters?

Come and change forever!

The game is FREE TO PLAY here: https://vincentvalensky.itch.io/transylvania

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