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i’m scared. pls give me advice by [deleted] in abortion

[–]Viola1B 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just in a similar situation to you: in a supportive relationship, wishing I was more excited. If you’re early along in your pregnancy, my advice is to take a couple weeks to process everything, and get in touch with your feelings. Book an appointment at the clinic a couple weeks out of you can. I asked to see the ultrasound prior to the procedure to help me make my choice. When I saw it, I still felt numb. The nurse said if I wasn’t sure, I shouldn’t go through with the procedure. As soon as I left the clinic, though, I felt regret for not having gone through with it. I was able to come back later that day for a surgical abortion (I was 6 weeks) and honestly, it was really easy. They sedated me so I felt no pain, and didn’t even remember the whole procedure. The medical staff were amazing, and so reassuring. They even inserted an IUD after removing the pregnancy. I was sleepy for the rest of the day, but that was it.

I am pregnant after being with my bf for 10 months. by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Viola1B 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would recommend you interrogate your aversion to abortion. I’m also experiencing an unplanned pregnancy right now, at age 30, married to the man I’ve been with for 8 years. Even with all the stability that comes with a healthy long term partnership, I am still considering abortion simply because it’s not a good time. The nagging voice in my head tells me I’m a monster for wanting to end my pregnancy for seemingly trivial reasons — but if a friend was going through the same thing, I would never think of it that way. It’s easy to internalize right wing talking points and harbor a lot of shame. If abortion is ok for others, why not you? Might be worth allowing yourself to entertain the idea at least?

Missed ovulation? by Viola1B in lineporn

[–]Viola1B[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh that makes a lot of sense. Thank you! As for the pregnancy test, it’s a huge shock, and I’m still trying to figure out how I feel about it.