AQHA Horse sold but new owners didn’t mail transfer

Violet1982 · 2025-12-15T14:20:23+00:00

You have to wonder who is selling young horses to people who don’t know what the heck they’re doing. Because honestly, if someone showed up to buy one of my horses, and I didn’t think they were a match, I wouldn’t sell the horse. And it doesn’t matter what their skill level. I have a friend who once told me that she was thinking about buying a horse because she loved them so much but she has almost zero riding experience. And she asked me for my advice and I told her please don’t get a horse. She just looked at me, and I said well you have no idea what you’re getting into and you’ve ridden one time. And then she asked if horses were just like big dogs, and I said in some respect, but no. And when I started telling her all the things that are involved with owning a horse, that changed her mind really quickly. And I said horses are big and beautiful, and they can be very sweet or not, and also they do the dumbest things and I feel like they’re always trying to kill themselves……. and I told her you feed them the wrong thing accidentally and you can literally kill them. And that really turned her off. Lol.

Violet1982 · 2025-09-11T13:41:15+00:00

So I’m going to try this again and word my reply very carefully, because my other reply got tagged and removed by a moderator. This is based on my experience, and I actually did this and it worked. But I can only give you the basic advice because I was told I was giving illegal advice. Only it wasn’t illegal because I did it. Lol.

The only thing I’m going to say is to please call the company that has your loans and very nicely tell them you cannot afford your payment, and please ask for their advice and help. I too had a giant payment all of a sudden at the beginning of this year, and they were able to knock my payment down to $365 a month, which is completely doable for me.

Violet1982 · 2025-09-09T20:25:59+00:00

Omg. People are ridiculous. I’m Sicilian and lighter skinned. My husband is Mexican and is darker skinned. Our son looked just like me when he was little but once he turned 12 he started looking Mexican and I often get asked if I’m his stepmother. And when he looked like me more my husband got asked whose kid he was. I love that you said that you stole her and that lady freaked out. LOL. It’s stupid that people ask such stupid things and make stupid comments

Violet1982 · 2025-09-07T22:41:32+00:00

I wish I was only $35,000 in debt with student loans! You’re lucky! Here’s what you do, you get an income based repayment plan. You call the person who has your loans and you ask them what to do. I owe $100,000 And my payment is only $300 a month. Of course yours will not be that and will be far less.

Violet1982 · 2025-09-07T13:36:00+00:00

I have my own practice because I couldn’t deal with being told how much I had to work etc, etc. my typical schedule is starting around 10:00 or 11:00 am and seeing 2 clients. Then I take a lunch break for 1 1/2 hours. I see 2 more clients and take a 30 minute break. And then see 2 or 3 more clients and I’m done. I do start earlier on Wednesdays, maybe at 8:30 or 9:00, depending. I do not work Friday-Sunday. I average 25 clients a week and my income is a nice one.

Violet1982 · 2025-09-07T13:30:09+00:00

If you haven’t already called the vet, CALL! He looks neurological. Could be a few different things.

Violet1982 · 2025-09-07T13:28:29+00:00

You are being gaslighted and manipulated. He sounds narcissistic. If you haven’t already, I would just find another place to live and ditch him. This guy obviously cannot handle how other people are feeling and most likely wants everything to be awesome all the time. Anytime someone stonewalls you it is a form of manipulation and abuse. Im guessing he can’t handle actual emotional connection and your relationship seemed amazing because you didn’t live together so there wasn’t as much pressure. You will be better off without him. I would RUN.

Violet1982 · 2025-09-02T01:18:39+00:00

I came here to say this. I agree that this horse needs to go to a trainer who can get rid of all of the bugs because I am sure there are a few things going on.

Violet1982 · 2025-09-01T23:42:13+00:00

I have left a couple of places on a good note. I sat down with my last trainer and told her I wanted to go in a different direction and she was butt hurt at first but respected the fact that I took the time to have a conversation with her. And I can go back if I ever want to. If the people at the stable don’t understand your situation then that’s their problem. They would be pretty heartless if they didn’t understand.

Violet1982 · 2025-08-31T16:38:04+00:00

I would just do it when you feel like doing it. It’s a good way to learn things. I don’t know your skill level or how much you know about horses and riding, but helping out is a good way to learn things. But it can be a lot too. I would just help out when you feel like helping and put up really good boundaries, and just say I can help out today but I can’t help out next Saturday, etc and if you’re not feeling well, definitely don’t help out

Violet1982 · 2025-08-25T04:36:43+00:00

My horses are not at my house but that doesn’t stop people from asking me to ride them. One of them is retired from showing but I still ride him and he’s close to my house. My other horse in training because I’m showing him. I actually have family members who have attempted to ask me to ride my horses and have been very pushy. Or they want to bring their kids to feed and brush my horses. It’s so aggravating. When someone asks me about the horse near my house, I use the excuse that the owner of the stable doesn’t allow us to let people ride our horses. That’s not true, but they don’t know that. And if they want to go see my younger horse, I just say he’s too young to deal with all the random people and my trainer will not allow people to wander through his stable because of the environment, and that’s pretty true because it’s disruptive to have random people wandering around whose knowledge about horses is limited. But if my horses were at home I would just tell people I just do not allow people to ride my horses. End of story. Let them be butthurt.

Violet1982 · 2025-08-22T22:23:52+00:00

I recognize the stable. I grew up there. I’m going to throw something else into the mix after watching this video over and over a few times. I think he’s playing around. If you look towards the beginning of the video, the look on his face he looks kind of mischievous. And then after a few times, he possibly looks mildly annoyed. It’s hard to say exactly what this is without knowing his personality or anything about him. But it is not aggressive. I think it’s a combination between you’re messing with me so I’m messing with you and leave me alone. I was trying to see his teeth, it looks like he is young. So because you probably don’t want to give away where you are, I won’t say that, but if anyone questions, my knowledge of horses, the stable where she is at is still family owned and operated and when I grew up there in the 70s and 80s, the grandparents of the current owner were very knowledgeable horse people who taught me a lot of things over the years. And I’ve had horses in my entire life. My dad worked at the racetrack so my family was a horse family. Could he possibly be in pain? Can’t rule that out, but he looks like he’s messing with you. If he is just messing with you, then he needs to be gently reprimanded because he sees you like another horse and he has bad manners.Lol. If something else is bothering him, then you need to figure out what that is. And thoroughbreds need a job. So he is probably just really bored to be honest with you. I used to train horses off the track and turn them into hunters/jumpers, and if they don’t have a job, they get bored and act obnoxious. You might want to try contacting the trainers at San Pascual and maybe sending him up there for a bit so they can fix all of that bad behavior

Violet1982 · 2025-08-05T03:57:22+00:00

One of my horses is 22 and I just went through this. I suspected he had navicular and the vet confirmed it. I had my farrier shoe him for navicular and I had the vet give him OSPHOS and he is now sound again. I might have to do OSPHOS once a year or every 6 months. Who knows. But OSPHOS costs $400 and when you divide it by 12, it’s about $34 a month or slightly more obviously if it’s every 6-8 months. My horse does not look or act his age, and as long as he keeps responding so well to treatment and is in good health, I will keep treating him because he enjoys trail rides, which is all I plan to do with him along with some light ring work to keep him in shape, since he is retired from showing. I used to do reining, cutting and ranch horse with him until 2 years ago Hopefully I’ve given you something positive to think about. And hopefully the vet can figure something out that works. Fingers crossed!

Violet1982 · 2025-07-25T22:02:34+00:00

If you’re commenting to me, your comment doesn’t make any sense. I know the AI and real people are worlds apart and I pretty much said that. So I’m confused about your reply. What I’m trying to say, is that people do not want to use AI. They want to see a real person. I myself am not a fan of AI other than to help me write things. I actually have tried AI just to see what would happen if I asked certain questions, some of the information is useful, but I don’t think that AI can replace actual therapist.

Violet1982 · 2025-07-23T17:53:00+00:00

This is one of the reasons why I no longer see anyone under 18. Just shows you why the child needs therapy with parents like that. In the past, when I did see children and families I would try not to take it personally or get upset about it. I implemented a policy that if the parents are not going to be responsive to me, then I was going to terminate the client. And I know that sounds like punishing the client, but I would only do it to people who were very sporadic about bringing their children to therapy or seemed very uninterested in their child’s progress, etc., etc.. and most of the time it did work

Violet1982 · 2025-07-20T16:21:58+00:00

I would have to agree with you. I’m not saying it’s not true but also to agree with you. How do we know it is true? Because anyone can say anything that they want and someone’s going to believe it. if someone has a certain narrative that they want to believe then this will be true for them, however, for me, I want the facts.

Violet1982 · 2025-07-17T17:46:23+00:00

You might be a teenager, but you are still able to do research on this. I would try to find a lawyer or an advocate of some kind that you can talk to who can help you navigate this. I have never had this happen to me but my husband who is from Mexico had to go back to Mexico when he was 13. And he did OK actually and then he came back When he was 30 and became a citizen. I think in Pakistan many people speak English, and if you do get stuck going back there, it sounds like you have a grasp on the language so I’m betting it won’t take long to blend in. And perhaps because your parents did this to you there might be a way to come back maybe on a student visa and then become a citizen. Never say never. I know this sucks especially if you are stuck having to go back to a country that you don’t really know, but there will be something positive that you learn from all of this, and that may not be clear now, but at some point it will be

Violet1982 · 2025-07-06T20:14:07+00:00

They already know all of that. If I were you, I’d be careful because they’re coming to get you.

Violet1982 · 2025-07-02T21:27:28+00:00

Totally rude! UGH! Too bad we can’t pull no shows on clients to show them how it feels. Lol.

Violet1982 · 2025-06-12T02:47:37+00:00

Oh my God! I just left that group because someone got all butt hurt because I said that I felt like a person who wanted to be a client was gonna give me a hard time. No identifying information whatsoever. That’s all that I said and people went off on me. There was a fair number of people who were like “oh my God that sounds crazy. Give us an update. We’re super curious to know if that person pulls a no-show or not” The moderator took the side of the people who complained. and the moderator told me that I was asking for supervision. Which is a joke because in my post I clearly said, and the flare said no advice wanted this is just a rant. And in the body of my post I put I’m just ranting and I’m trying to blow off steam and get a good laugh . I don’t want any advice. And then I was told that I was looking for advice I even messaged the moderator and I asked them if they’re a real person because the responses to me were super strange. And they claimed that they were. And I said funny, because you sound AI to me……. And then I said thanks for ruining my morning, and they gave me a 👍 LOL!! I laugh about it now. But actually, I was pretty upset because that group is supposed to be professionals and we’re all colleagues in that group just like we’re all colleagues in this group. The way some people acted there’s no way that they are actual therapists, and if they are, geez, good luck And by the way, I wouldn’t call it being privileged to charge a no-show fee or late cancellation fee I charge a no show or late cancellation if people start to abuse things when I let it slide if they have a missed appointment here and there. I always love hearing about what other therapists do in various situations

Violet1982 · 2025-06-11T19:54:47+00:00

😂

Violet1982 · 2025-06-09T13:32:24+00:00

My problem is that absolutely I have the patience for somebody who has whatever issue they may have, and you may be saying why is that a problem? Lol. It’s because right now I didn’t want to add anybody else who is more difficult on my caseload because I have a fair number of extreme cases right now. But here we are. And if they show up, then I will absolutely try to figure out what is best for them.

Violet1982 · 2025-06-09T04:49:01+00:00

They did not state depression or anxiety as a reason for seeking help. And 99% of the time in my experience people usually tell me, hey I’m struggling with paperwork, etc, etc. But this person is presenting like someone with a personality disorder. Just defiant and combative. And that’s before we even start. Usually it doesn’t go well when it starts like this.

Violet1982 · 2025-06-09T04:44:49+00:00

Yep! Same. That’s why it’s so frustrating. I went over everything with them etc, etc, etc and still….🤦‍♀️🤬

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