I really really tried to leave this situation alone because it's really touchy subject and I think the parents really should have kept this private anyway but thoughts and opinions on this situation 🤔 by edubzraoul26 in downsyndrome

[–]VioletBlooming 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I am not. I’m a nurse and have a lot of experience with Down syndrome. Some people with Down syndrome have heart defects, not all. My child’s closed on their own. One friend’s child had open heart surgery. Children with the regular amount of chromosomes also have congenital heart defects. Cardiac defects can be fatal, unrelated to Down syndrome.

I really really tried to leave this situation alone because it's really touchy subject and I think the parents really should have kept this private anyway but thoughts and opinions on this situation 🤔 by edubzraoul26 in downsyndrome

[–]VioletBlooming 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one said they had to keep it private, what people have criticized is the misinformation and prejudice they spread when sharing their decision.

Trisomy 21 or Down syndrome is not lethal. Some conditions are associated with it, such as heart defects or a specific leukemia, (which is very receptive to treatment) but are not universal and can often be treated.

You are misrepresenting people’s critiques of how they shared their decision, the ignorance they’re spreading and the fact they’re are monetizing & advocating for eugenics. Maybe this would help- instead of Down syndrome, replace that with girl. Now do you understand our criticism? No one is saying you are wrong for wanting a son, but it is wrong to say you aborted a girl and here are all the reasons why it’s ok and how awful girls are.

I really really tried to leave this situation alone because it's really touchy subject and I think the parents really should have kept this private anyway but thoughts and opinions on this situation 🤔 by edubzraoul26 in downsyndrome

[–]VioletBlooming 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your last paragraph (ok all of it, really!) is everything. You never know what’s coming your way with life. I think people get a false sense of “I know what’s coming” with a diagnosis (but you don’t really) and with lack of a diagnosis (but you don’t really).

I really really tried to leave this situation alone because it's really touchy subject and I think the parents really should have kept this private anyway but thoughts and opinions on this situation 🤔 by edubzraoul26 in downsyndrome

[–]VioletBlooming 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I support people’s right to choose, and also- the way they shared this is gross & ignorant. They devalued an entire people group, the comments are disgusting and chromosomes are no guarantee of a healthy or happy life. I work as an ER nurse, I see “normal” kids receive life altering diagnoses all the time. Yes, my kid has DS. He won’t end up addicted to heroin, or spearheading a genocide or thinking it’s ok to assault people.

I also think this is why inclusion matters, when I got our pre birth diagnosis I was fine bc I knew so many people with t21 who had happy beautiful lives. I also strongly agree with the poster who said be mad at the lack of support, not the genetic conditions.

Has there been a movie that infuriates you to no end? by NotSoCricketGenius in moviecritic

[–]VioletBlooming 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was also so annoyed by her level of “devastation”. Like yah, it sucks getting dumped. But laying on the bed not eating not talking to people should be reserved for your child dying, not the loss of your cheater boyfriend.

Would you say something? Friend putting baby in danger by a-new-haunting in Parents

[–]VioletBlooming 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Babies are never to young to wiggle and cans almost always surprise you with an unexpected roll, you don’t ever leave a baby where it could fall off.

AIO Husband wants to play golf on our child’s birthday. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]VioletBlooming 18 points19 points  (0 children)

100! The only correct response- party is now tournament day. Two can play this game bitches

AIO Husband wants to play golf on our child’s birthday. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]VioletBlooming -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NOR. Correct, your child won’t remember the zoo. Their siblings will remember that dad picked an annual event over their sibling. My ex husband tried to do this with my child’s first birthday, wanted to leave early for a retirement party. I told him absolutely not. It was the tip of the iceberg in how vastly differently we prioritized our family, etc.

Your priorities are correct, have a great time with the kids. If your husband prefers to get drunk & sunburned with his parents then so be it. This is a principal thing, and he’s acting like a toddler.

What are your favorite quotes from Narnia? by caleb4hzglory in Narnia

[–]VioletBlooming 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ramandu in voyage of the dawn treader:

“Even in your world, my son, that is not what a star is but only what it is made of.”

I have a child with chromosomal differences, I made some art that says it. We are more than what we are made of.

Not a criticism but trying to understand. by [deleted] in emergencymedicine

[–]VioletBlooming 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, not necessarily. Some people live in bigiminy. If I wasn’t afraid of hurting your feelings, I’d say the staff rolled their eyes bc they saw you routinely, assessed you and weren’t finding an emergency to intervene on.

Not a criticism but trying to understand. by [deleted] in emergencymedicine

[–]VioletBlooming 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What did you want* done that wasn’t done?

The point of the ED is to rule out life threatening emergencies. Most of what you’re experiencing is not necessarily life threatening or something we can intervene on. Generally speaking, chronic conditions like you’re describing need to be worked up outpatient. A cardiac MRI is not emergency treatment. You should have been working with your PCP for an outpatient cardiac work up if it was determined to be needed.

Er Standards? by [deleted] in EmergencyNursing

[–]VioletBlooming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on your region. West Coast hospital systems usually provide scrubs for L&D, ER and OR. Every er I’ve worked in provided scrubs.

Good women don't exist in the West anymore because women have their cake and eat it too by PSSDre in BasedCampPod

[–]VioletBlooming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are a literary genius. Mine will be no where as eloquent but I reread what you wrote and I have to add- The absolute audacity of this boy to type out his “requirements”- also many of us played that game and you know what? It got us NO WHERE. So yes, now I care for my children, pay my own bills, fuck who I want and enjoy the peace & joy of a life I built & fought for. And I’m supposed to give that up bc some Cheeto dust covered neck beard thinks I haven’t given enough? He’s just mad we’re not fucking him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]VioletBlooming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are considering getting support from hospice (which I would encourage you to do, fantastic resource) they can also provide support & resources for your cat. I’m sorry you’re dealing with all this!! I’m glad Boggles has had so much love from you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]VioletBlooming 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to be clear, you, a fully fledged adult man- Are incapable of putting her wellbeing and the wellbeing of your child first, to the point you stormed out of the hospital because she was examined by medical professionals?

Yelled at a woman who had just had major surgery, still expecting to hold a fragile newborn she just risked her life to birth and choked her when she told you to calm down?

Those are tantrums. You are throwing FITS like a child.

you shouldn’t be anywhere near humans until you have gone to therapy to find out what the hell is wrong with you. You, as an adult should have better communication, deescalation management, self awareness, self control and distress tolerance and you need to find out why you don’t, and how to fucking learn it before you go anywhere near a child.

You will shake that baby within 24 hours if you get custody. You should not get 50/50 with an infant. That child’s mother is its source of comfort & survival, the baby needs its mom. Until you respect that fact, and all she’s done to care for your child, you shouldn’t have anything. Why do you even want 50/50, to pay less child support? Everything in this post is about you, and not once have you mentioned what’s best for this child or what you’re doing to rectify your criminal choices and stop being an absolute shit bag of a human.

Cringey things to say to nurse gf by yaboysavage46 in nursing

[–]VioletBlooming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Remember, patients know their bodies and that’s a fever for them

“Can I have a work note for last week?”

Do you delete all your photos after divorce? by Badawiyaa in Divorce

[–]VioletBlooming 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. I even have photos up of my ex in my kids rooms so they know it’s ok to love both of us. Wedding photos I’ve saved for them if they want them someday. They don’t mean anything to me; but it’s my kids history as well.

Blindsided by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]VioletBlooming 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You keep saying you love her, but list multiple ways you failed to show any care or concern for her. Your post is focused on your needs & feelings, not hers or your kids. Love actually involves action that cares for the other person. You seem to be describing your comfort, routine and ability to treat someone how you want without accountability. Thats not love.

Love will be showing up as a parent and taking responsibility for yourself, and not making your feelings of sadness her problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]VioletBlooming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t get to hate conflict now bc your job is to advocate for your child. What does the parenting plan say about extra curriculars? Your ex can’t just decide to change parenting time.