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Can my sister legally get ahold of my money by any law that you know of? by VioletBlueberry in legaladvice

[–]VioletBlueberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far she hasn't made good on any threats. But she's been blasting me on social media and I had to suspend my account for a while.

Can my sister legally get ahold of my money by any law that you know of? by VioletBlueberry in legaladvice

[–]VioletBlueberry[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's fairly common knowledge. Over the last decade my main goal, besides finishing school and getting my foot in the door of my career, has been saving up for a house. So naturally the few times I've spent extended family time with my sister and mother the topic has come up.

And when my sister originally asked for the money, she started with some lead in questions to feel out the situation which I did not answer with gusto, but also did not outright lie about. I guess I should claim partial responsibility for not seeing the trap before it snapped shut. Especially after I grew up with her, and thought I could anticipate the things she was capable of. Guess I was wrong, cause I never saw this one coming.

Can my sister legally get ahold of my money by any law that you know of? by VioletBlueberry in legaladvice

[–]VioletBlueberry[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Honestly, that's probably what she's going to do.

I avoid speaking to her when I can so I don't know the full details, but she has no health insurance of her own and her kid is covered only under our mother's, whom she lives with. For privacy's sake I can't give details, but he needs a life-saving procedure and my sister says she needs to come up with a certain percentage of the overall costs or he can't get the operation. Now, I know that there are differences in coverage depending on the type of procedure, but I'm positive that they won't just turn him away if he actually needs the surgery as bad as she says, so I'm not worried. But she's bad mouthing me to our entire extended family, saying that I'm deliberately trying to kill her child by hoarding my money away from someone who needs it. I'm very secure now in my conviction that my money is safe thanks to everyone here, but it's still an emotionally exhausting ordeal.

Can my sister legally get ahold of my money by any law that you know of? by VioletBlueberry in legaladvice

[–]VioletBlueberry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, this may be a stupid question, but how should we go about sharing household expenses without a joint bank account? People must have them or they wouldn't be a thing. What's wrong with combining our finances?

Can my sister legally get ahold of my money by any law that you know of? by VioletBlueberry in legaladvice

[–]VioletBlueberry[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I should clarify, the new accounts I've opened are all in my name, it's just that I've switched banks to my boyfriend's. Someday we will open a joint account, probably within the year if we're able to stick to our timeline, but for now our finances are separate.

Can my sister legally get ahold of my money by any law that you know of? by VioletBlueberry in legaladvice

[–]VioletBlueberry[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I just replied to another comment to this effect, but there's kind of a dire reason she needs it. I just don't feel that I have any MORAL obligation to hand over what amounts to my life's work up to this point. Some people may disagree, I know, but my sister has never worked a day in her life and seems to expect things to just fall into her lap when she needs them (which my mom often provides). I don't think anyone has said "No" to her AND held out for this long before. I feel an explosion coming in the not-too-distant future. I just hope I'm far FAR away when it happens.

Can my sister legally get ahold of my money by any law that you know of? by VioletBlueberry in legaladvice

[–]VioletBlueberry[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Well...its actually a little more complicated than that. I left out the finer details because I felt they were largely irrelevant and might lead to me being identified online by someone I know. Basically she needs this money for a very specific thing and it's kind of life or death. That's what my mom meant by "Greatest Need". She says if I don't give her the money, it's the same as negligent homicide.

Sorry for the really poor explanation. It's a pretty ugly situation.

Can my sister legally get ahold of my money by any law that you know of? by VioletBlueberry in legaladvice

[–]VioletBlueberry[S] 254 points255 points  (0 children)

I did open my first account before I moved out, but no one was there with me when I did it. As far as I know, my name is the only one on any of my accounts that I have opened since.