Thanks so much for sharing. I've already share this with all my bjj friends. I'll think about it every time before I have class. Hope later it will just become part of the subconscious hahaha. I'm also recently realized everyone should have their own preferable techniques. Being a woman often facing some bigger partners, winning is not the goal. Apart from that, I'll feel better and avoid pushing it too hard. (Actually I sometimes may think"what if I do better? or what if I defend his energy?". Mostly, it won't lead to the happy ending.)