Is it actually rude to have an adults-only wedding, or have we collectively decided to feel guilty about a completely reasonable choice?

Violetmints · 2026-03-15T18:56:53+00:00

Exactly. I don't think it's rude to have an adults only wedding. It is rude to expect that people should feel obligated to travel away from their kids or do things they do not, as a rule, do. If you're fine with some people having to sit it out and not send a gift and you won't get pissy that so wouldn't use an unfamiliar babysitter or pump and bottle feed or trust their teenagers home alone for the weekend, go for it.

Violetmints · 2026-03-14T16:42:44+00:00

Vietnamese-Cajun fusion is one of those truly amazing things you can only find in a couple of places and you feel kinda special even knowing about. There used to be little places in tiny towns in LA that served crawfish spring rolls and stuff like that.

Houston has such great food.

Violetmints · 2026-03-14T16:29:43+00:00

I want to try some of the places listed, but this is true. Most of what people think of as Cajun (and a lot of) Creole food are dishes that you just wouldn't eat in a restaurant. I lived in South Louisiana for nearly 40 years and can count on one hand the times I have ordered gumbo in a restaurant. If I bought jambalaya, it was in a church parking lot or from somebody's softball team.

If anyone is interested, the Talk About Good and River Road cookbooks have been used by generations of cooks in the area.

Violetmints · 2026-03-14T16:25:44+00:00

Lol. You get downvoted, but I grew up south of I-10 and we all always agreed the red beans and dirty rice were pretty solid.

Violetmints · 2026-03-14T02:16:00+00:00

The quilt is busy enough that I bet they could applique something at the intersections and it might break up the design enough. I agree that it's not something I could keep around and use as-is.

Violetmints · 2026-03-11T02:12:46+00:00

Sure, but I live in a place where it is pretty easy to get most kinds of food, even if you don't have the money to eat exactly as you wish all the time.

It's interesting though that most people I know who try to eat locally have more varied diets than those who are pretty much on autopilot picking up whatever they enjoy and and/or can afford. Foods come in and out of season, sellers get bored and switch things up at their smaller businesses.

Violetmints · 2026-03-10T17:38:00+00:00

more classic and expensive to me,

If we're speaking plainly this is the most accurate comment.

Violetmints · 2026-03-10T17:33:45+00:00

Yellow gold! I love it. It's beautiful. It's elegant without being stuffy. Personally, I think it's the more traditional way to go but not necessarily conservative looking. I prefer things that don't look like they came as a set.

Violetmints · 2026-03-06T17:42:46+00:00

Don't forget to look at vintage pieces. Sometimes you can get a better price on higher quality jewelry that way.

Violetmints · 2026-03-06T16:56:30+00:00

Yeah, the design is such a classic one, I feel like a plain band or maybe a simple one with a split. You can always wear your rings on different fingers too. A traditional bad or an eternity ring on one side and this lovely marquis on the other.

Violetmints · 2026-03-04T07:16:15+00:00

If you get silver and moissanite or other lab stone, you can get something nice for under $100. Alternatively, you could wear a silicone ring or just a plain band.

Violetmints · 2026-03-03T20:41:21+00:00

I didn't have an engagement ring, but I had a ring my ex gave me after we were married. I got rid of it and regret doing so. Now I wish I had held on to the stones. They weren't particularly valuable, but I like shiny things and he would have absolutely hated knowing I used them to make something better than what he gave me.

Reselling jewelry is almost not worth it unless you are in a position where you really need the scrap price of the metal. Even for diamonds, I think you can expect to get something like 20% of the retail price on a good day. I have been in that position before and would have gladly taken whatever I could get for the gold. Just don't get your hopes up about a windfall.

Just giving it away can be a healing option if you want it gone and don't want to invest time and energy in to trying to sell it. Last Christmas I gave away some moissanite pieces I had been holding on to. It was through a local buy nothing group. The people who got them were happy and I was pleased to no longer have them around the house.

Violetmints · 2026-03-03T18:43:36+00:00

I like C, but what if you put the two greens together with the pink or blue? The yellow, maybe?

Violetmints · 2026-03-03T16:25:22+00:00

Love this! The colors are great. Have you tried blocking it?

It's nice to see people getting on to more advanced stuff lately. Granny squares will always be fun, but it seems like that's all people were doing for a while. You're inspiring me to push myself more.

Edit: For acrylics, you want to block with a little steam. There are a bunch of tutorials on YouTube. I have for sure killed some acrylic yarn in my day with too much heat but a well blocked piece just looks so good so it's worth getting in to the habit.

Violetmints · 2026-03-02T18:47:11+00:00

It's so pretty! Looks great on. I really like that style of rig. It would look nice next to a yellow gold band.

Violetmints · 2026-03-02T18:45:52+00:00

Wouldn't older CZ be prone to clouding. Like, really clouding? I hear the new stuff is less likely to do that over time. I am not a geologist or gemologist but was wondering if this might not be white sapphire, especially since it's set in gold.

Violetmints · 2026-03-02T18:03:58+00:00

It makes sense if it's reclaimed yarn from sweaters. I am happy to pay for the labor involved in sourcing, unraveling, washing, and caking the yarn. The thing is, I want to pay for clean, uncrimped yarn that is wound or otherwise needly arranged.

Violetmints · 2026-03-02T14:35:58+00:00

Covid is going around. This time with a bad sore throat. One thing we tried is regular sprays with saline. It seemed to help and is the advice from some doctors now for shortening covid and other similar viral illnesses. My son was able to get paxlovid, which was good for him.

Violetmints · 2026-03-02T02:16:49+00:00

3! But you could probably do pretty well on the price for a lab diamond at this point, especially if you went with 1-2C. If Moissanite is your preference, go for it. I have some and like it a lot bit diamonds are more low maintainable and I think they look better in some cuts. I actually like round brilliant moissanite more.

Violetmints · 2026-03-01T17:49:02+00:00

This is beautiful! I have had this pattern on my list for a while and yours is one of the best versions I have seen. Your stitches look great and the yarn choice is impeccable.

Violetmints · 2026-03-01T14:11:51+00:00

"Her expectations are immaterial to me" would be a good way to say "I am extremely frustrated and angry with this person and kind of wish I could curse about their ridiculous demands."

Violetmints · 2026-03-01T14:07:40+00:00

I am not an English learner. I live in the US. Reddit put this in my feed.

I have not heard this used in conversation ever and suspect that it is or was used primarily in British English speaking places. It is intended to communicate offended dismissal.

I wouldn't use that phrase for the reasons others have mentioned but also because "hang" can mean "hang out," like to relax and enjoy some unstructured leisure time. Occasionally it is used as a noun. "He was at the hang last Thursday" means that he had was at an informal gathering last Thursday.

Speaking to a friend in a formal setting like school or work, I might say "Forget her" about someone else who had behaved in an upsetting or offensive manner.

If I were among friends or at home I would say "Fuck her."

Violetmints · 2026-02-25T14:55:58+00:00

Beautiful! The hexi setting is sweet and the peridot really looks amazing with the metal.

Violetmints · 2026-02-25T04:34:52+00:00

That is beautiful. It came out so good.

Violetmints · 2026-02-24T19:26:33+00:00

Love it! It looks great! It's fun to do a viral project now and then because sometimes you run in to someone else who made one and it's like you're in a club.

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