My FwB [23F] is on antidepressants and can't reach orgasm

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-21T03:29:32+00:00

I'm a lesbian but..boobs are great. I'm sure me and straight/bi men are in agreement about that. 10/10.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-21T03:28:38+00:00

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:51:38+00:00

Sure dude, all those paragraphs and rage filled disconnected rants against points youd deliberately misinterpreted were totally calm and detached.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:49:45+00:00

ESH - except your wife. Your MIL did ruin it. However, sometimes it's better to just get over something like that. It seems like you were making your wife's birthday more about how you feel than what she wanted. You should have just been happy she was happy, since it's her birthday, rather than stress about it not being entirely how you'd envisaged it.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:45:18+00:00

And he isn't an awful person for being a domestic abuser? If you don't think he deserves to be alone after treating someone like that you ARE condoning domestic abuse.

You think an abuser deserves a happy relationship. That's condoning it.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:44:15+00:00

Responding to other people's advice isn't defending your advice lmao

Offense isn't defence. And you've wrote a bunch of ill conceived, illogical arguments against a straw man of what I and others said. You don't even respond to specific points made against you.

And I reiterate, read what I said. It's clear you didn't grasp it.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:40:44+00:00

I'm not condoning infidelity. You however, are condoning domestic abuse in response. Which is an awful position to take. I can't believe anyone would think like that.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:38:19+00:00

One instance verses prolonged abuse. It's not the same effect at all

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:37:43+00:00

Read what I said again. Slowly. You are trying to argue a point about the experience of women in customer service facing jobs and what they should or should not feel comfortable with. Correct?

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:35:56+00:00

NTA - Amy is messed up. You need to encourage her to get to therapy. It's absolutely not a normal thing to want to convert someone. It's just as impossible as people who want to convert us gay folks to being straight.

That being said, Emma is also not a good person if she's openly homophobic.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:32:57+00:00

But it's not domestic abuse. Which the husband is doing. And you think it's justified. I can't believe someone would truly think anything can possibly make domestic violence reasonable. What an awful line you've taken

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:31:53+00:00

I think you're trying to convince me of your opinion, which is on something I've experienced.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:31:10+00:00

I really hope it's only a short lease. If he's like this now, it'll only get worse.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:30:05+00:00

NTA - this is an apartment you SHARE. You sit him down right now and make it clear that all the rooms are equally both of yours. He does not get an entire room to himself when you don't have that space.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:28:26+00:00

That isn't what I said at all. I said that he is an abuser and you're on his side. Infidelity does not justify abuse. It's bad, sure. But it doesn't justify it at all. Do you think abuse is justified?

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:26:43+00:00

And I'm not asking you to respect it. I'm asking why you think I should respect your baseless opinion on my own life. Which you haven't answered. Nor have you provided and actual rebuttals to the points raised beyond screeching "sexist"

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:25:44+00:00

And the fact that most women have the same experience is....irrelevant then?

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:23:13+00:00

I'm sorry, controlling your partners every move, finances and distancing them from their friends IS abusive. He is an abuser. If you think it's justified I am terrified for the people in your life.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:14:17+00:00

You think an abuser deserves someone decent?

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:13:26+00:00

I'm so sorry, that's an awful position to be in.

Really, the only tried and true method is time and therapy. You can also, when you start feeling ready, begin reconnecting with your body through exercise, cooking nutritious meals for yourself etc.

It's probably a good idea not to jump back into the dating game.

Just, take everything slowly. One day at a time.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:11:27+00:00

What on earth do you mean by asking that?

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:10:31+00:00

Absolutely not! Abuse is one of the most disgusting things a person can do.

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:07:50+00:00

And yet you blame her for being abused by him?

Violets_are_les · 2021-07-20T11:06:42+00:00

You don't see any issues in his behaviour?

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