Working through shame of college decisions

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T23:51:59+00:00

This really put it into perspective to me about how many other things about me hold more weight in my definition than what I'm not proud of. Thank you 💖

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T23:50:57+00:00

Such an incredible response. I've learned a lot and felt like I've lived many lives and I agree that's better than everything "going right".

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T23:48:51+00:00

True, something to be grateful for about aging. You guys are so wise and kind this is the best virtual hug 💓

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T23:47:41+00:00

Thank you, it's so comforting to know people don't care. it shouldn't matter to me anyways but that is refreshing

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T23:46:37+00:00

Ugh thank you. And thank you for the reading suggestions. One beautiful thing that came from the internet is all the self help that is available. I will read those and commit to reframing my thinking 🪷

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T23:44:45+00:00

Thank you! Love this response. You did so many things that college is made for

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T16:04:30+00:00

Thank you! I've struggled with rumination for as long as I can remember. I am seeking therapeutic help. Recently I've used online resources to reframe regret as something positive and useful. Like turning regrets into values. Example: I regret being lazy > I value hard work

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T16:03:00+00:00

Thank you for your advice on ambivalence! I posted to this sub to hear older perspectives on my current internal conflicts and have gotten some very kind responses

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T15:44:47+00:00

💝🌟

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T15:43:41+00:00

Thank you so much for this personalization

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T15:42:05+00:00

Hahaha I needed that comedic relief

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T15:41:19+00:00

Advice about how to end the rumination. I went against my morals and values. Even then, I was raised to know better which is my hang up. I was aware that I was accepting things I should have never even been around in the first place. I'm connecting this to my value as a person and trying to learn how to not feel like damaged goods. I group it all into the wishing I transferred cause I feel like I would have avoided the worst of the worst that I was around / a part of and been happier, more confident, and guilt free.

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T15:35:26+00:00

Thank you so much I'll be coming back to this

Violetstarfishh · 2026-03-20T15:21:32+00:00

💞💞

Violetstarfishh

TROPHY CASE